Well, I really this guy. His name is John. I like him more than I have ever liked ay like guy before, but last year he really liked my friend. I was happy for them, but then he dumped her after like a week. At the start of this year, she was soo mad at him and I was afraid to talk to him because I thought that she would not talk to me again, but I did anyways. Now, they are just friends. But, yesterday I went to her house for her birthday party and he was there. The only reason that I went was to talk to him.. Ok, so at her party me and him were talking and she came over and sat on him and was trying to hold his hand. I could tell that he was uncomfortable by it. I was so jealous of them. He asked me if she still liked him and I did not want to tell him yes, so I asked him if he liked her, he said that he was not gonna go out with her again.
Bottom line is, I really like him, but I always feel really guilty after I talk to him because she still likes him.
What should I do?
2006-11-20 08:05:00 · 4 answers · asked by Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't want to jeopardize my relationship with my friend, but I don't want to lose John or I don't want things to change between us. I really, really like him. I always have him on my mind, but whenever I think about him, I think about how I am betraying my best friend. I don't want to lose either of them.
2006-11-20 08:12:08 · update #1
He is a really good guy, genuine. There is nothing that I do not like about him. He is a really shy person, My friend and me are the only girls that he talks to. He is sweet, funny, has the cutest smile, sarcastic(I love that about him), he is really simple on the outside, but he is a really complicated person.
2006-11-20 08:15:48 · update #2
I did not tell her that I liked him, but I think that she knows anyways. When I hang out with him, it's kinda obvious. When I was at her party, my friend Lauren was watching us and after he left, she asked me if I liked him, but she asked me really loud and I think that my friend heard it, so I said No! It's just a very difficult situation. I am kinda tired of it. I don't even know if he likes me back.
2006-11-20 08:23:35 · update #3
I can't just distance myself from him because I grew up with this guy. And I only met my friend last year. When John and I were growing up I really did not talk to him because I was really shy, but my brother was in cubscouts and he was too, so when there was a pack meeting I would go to hang out with him. And, I think we were really good friends in sixth grade, but I really don't remember. Anyways, I like him too much to just leave him alone. Also, I do not know if my friend would even have a problem with us dating, probably. She always jokes about us dating.
2006-11-20 08:29:48 · update #4
Gurl,I was in this same prediciment. I would talk to him anyway! Does your best friend know you like him? If she does then you should tell her you like Jhon and talk to him. Hope everything works out! ~mandy~
2006-11-20 08:14:01 · answer #1 · answered by Mandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you like this guy, but I think you need to keep your distance, because this will continue to get worse! Besides, jeoperdizing a relationship with your best friend isn't really worth it-especially over a man! Besides, there are plenty of men out there who would love to go out with you! You need to let him go and move on with your life!
2006-11-20 16:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of man is he? obviously likes to play mind games. And if he is talking to you like a guy, telling you how he's going to put out with your friend, I would forget about it.
2006-11-20 16:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend or boyfriend. Can't have both. Is she really close? Is he really worth it? Things to think about...
2006-11-20 16:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by James S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋