I grew up very independent and have no problems doing things on my own, but when I do them my wife (house wife) gets the feelings that I don't realy need her. but I do need her, she completes me.
2006-11-20 08:01:18 · 13 answers · asked by A A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're a good man. Nothing wrong with you at all. If you want your wife to feel needed then allow her to do the things she wants to do for you and don't forget to thank her and show her appreciation for it afterwards.
2006-11-20 08:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple...cut back on what you are doing and let her be your wife. Some women were raised in an environment when it is her "duty" to take care of her husband, even if today's times dictates otherwise. I know this from personal experience because I grew up watching my mom do everything for my dad. Even though I have a full time job and 2 kids, I still can't resist the feeling that certain things are my responsiblity.
Perhaps your wife feels the same way. So let her do what she feels she needs to do.
2006-11-20 16:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you married her because you needed/wanted her for companionship and because you love her and need her emotionally... not to clean up after you. Tell her she completes you. That's just perfect.
If there are little things that she might pick up for you while she's out running errands, ask occasionally. Or if she's a good cook, ask her to make a particular dish. If you have children, tell her what a wonderful mother she is and how important that is to you.
Oh my gosh... or just... that she completes you. I'm swooning over here. I loved that movie... :)
2006-11-20 16:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you expressed some nice sentiments. When she says she doesn't feel you need her, tell her that you are doing things on your own to help out around the house. Have you told her that she completes you? It sounds like she needs to hear that.
2006-11-20 16:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that has got to be one of the sweetest things i have heard from a man in a long time!!!! explain to her that a marraige is 50/50 and just like she needs to feel needed so do you.. kind of make a chore list for the two of you or some sort of understanding that way its a compramise...we need more men who view their wives as you do!
2006-11-20 16:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by thegoodwitchmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so sweet of you to say about your wife! Explain to her what you just explained to us. Let her know that you are just used to doing things for yourself. But if it makes her feel better, let her do some of the little things for you that you normally do for yourself.
2006-11-20 16:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by Krisie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that. And let her do the things she is good at.
my husband and I both lived on our own for awhile before we got married so we were both accustomed to doing things "our" way. And I did get frustrated when he'd come in the kitchen and tell me how to do things.
Let her do her jobs (cooking, cleaning, shopping, childcare) and you do your jobs.
Now he lets me have the kitchen (it's my domain) and he has the bedroom and closets and bath.
We share the living-room. It works!
2006-11-20 16:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Luckiest_Wife_EVER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you start by showing appreciation for everything she does like the laundry, cooking the dishes, doing up her hair, point out the things that make her special to her. all people take what others do for granted. start noticing he little things and her insecurity will Wain until it no longer exists
2006-11-20 16:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by redsyoungstud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, that's so cute. You are a lucky man. Mine's more like a third leg. Just let her do some of it. God, I wish my wife were like that.
2006-11-20 16:19:27 · answer #9 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT A WONDERFUL MAN...I am sure there are alot of us out there that wish we had it so bad!
2006-11-20 16:06:36 · answer #10 · answered by bbmk333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋