Making new friends in highschool...ugh?

Question

Okay so I have kind of a long story...I became good friends with this girl in 7th grade and was in a clique of about 4 of us. Well when high school came we slowly started to fade apart. I stayed good freinds with one of the girls, lets call her allie. Me and Allie were best friends, but then I went through a phase where i was really shy and had problems talkign to people, even allie. I still hung out with her all the time, but she started to make new friends and I became friends with them too. I started to get even shyer and would always disinclude myself from them. Eventually I seperated myself from allie and my other friends because of my shyness. Now I am not shy and I have found myself really alone. Im a junior in high school and really want to make some good, solid friends. But everyone has their own cliques already. Also i feel that if i try to make friends with people they wont want to be friends with me because i have no other friends and they will think im wierd. Advice Please

Answer 1

Join a group, club or even a sports team. try to be active in some way and it will be easy to make friends from there.

Answer 2

First off, everyone is weird in some way. As you grow older, you realize that uniqueness is much more important and true to one's self than conforming.

Be friendly, geniune and courteous to everybody...this goes a long way. There are many people, especially in a school environment, who have their own internal issues and often agendas. Try to determine who is being genuine with you.

We all end up getting hurt and/or dissappointed in people. We are all fallible and seem to hurt those who care about us. Try not to do this and try to learn and put it behind you when someone does it to you.

If your school has any clubs or organizations you might check out their meetings. This goes the same with your local church.

Be a friend to everybody and try to come out of your shell a little at a time. You will end up being a good friend to people and making some good friends in the process.

Answer 3

People don't want to be around wall flowers and it sounded like that's what you became. That's why people drifted from you. Now you just need to explain to your friends what happened and make yourself available. People will like you participate. Be yourself at all times and don't try too hard. Give people a chance. Thinking all of these negative things helps nobody. Be positive and be the type of person that people would want to be around and things will be fine. be yourself my friend.