a lost girl?

Question

i made alot of mistakes in my life and one of them was having sex with my boyfriend ex now and im afraid i mightif ended up prenant i'm just not ready for it but i wasnt thinking at the time for consequences and i dont know how to tell my mom i'm not a virgin no more iknow shes gona be dissapointed i'm only14 i need help

Answer 1

Let me start by saying that I don't believe in mistakes! We all make choices in life, they just have good or bad consequences. There is no right or wrong, each to their own. What's right for you may not be right someone else!

Your right, your mum probably will be disapointed, but she still loves you. Unless your pregnant I don't think she needs to know your not a virgin anymore. It's a very private choice you have made and no-one should know unless you want them to, including your mum. Get a test done and take it from there. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you.

Answer 2

Like everyone has said, your mother will probably be disapointed, but she's still going to be there for you. If you want to hold off on telling her until you know whether or not you a pregnant then you could take a pregnancy test. If you want someone to talk to about it you could talk to your school counselor. Trust me, they have seen this before and it will be nothing new to them. They will be more than ready to help you work through it and can help you decide on the best way to tell your mom. Even if you don't want to go to them to begin with, think about it: If you do end up pregnant you will probably end up in their office anyway, so wouldn't it be better to go in first and let them get the background of the situation before it happens so that they can help you know?

Answer 3

Just put all your mistakes behind you 1st of all, onyl if your deciding on changing.If yo uare gonna change tell your mom you have some stuff u want to talk about, like mistakes and stuff u made and u want to change and ask her for help.it will make u closer to your mom and maybe she will trust u even more.Dont have sex at 14, u will get preganant. and at 14 u cant really love or fidn the right person yet.I want thru alot of boyfriends from age 14-19. they al lsaid they love me, but they dont, its puppy love.i found my love at 20, dating for 2 years now,angaged, and with a 2 year old. JUst have a quiet time with u and your mom, your mom will be dispapointed, oviously, u would too if u found out your 14 year old had sex, she might cry, she might yell.But she loves u, yo uwill both feel better fater the talk.And if u tell her everything, u will feel liek a better person, and u will want to change,your not a bad person, but you dotn want to have a kid at 14.

Answer 4

Well, it depends on your relationship with your mother. There are some parents who may not react well, but most would. It sounds like you care about her opinion so it sounds like your relationship is good. Before that, find out if you are pregnant for sure -- go to a drug store and get pregnancy test. If you are, there are lots of options so think through them all and talk to as many people as you trust to figure out what is best for you. Being a very young mother can be tough, but that doesn't mean it is a bad thing. Good luck!

Answer 5

Well the good thing is you realize you have messed up. Stop having sex and start working on important stuff like school and getting good grades. Do a pregnancy test to make sure your not pregnant.
Talk to you mom explain you realize the severity of what you did...but be prepared to be punished. Take your punishment and in the meantime work on being a good kid again.

Personally the fact that you feel bad about it shows to me you are a good kid, with morals, etc...you just messed up but you can fix it.
Good luck!

Answer 6

Well, first of all, I'd wait to see if you're actually pregnant. Wait to see if your period is late and try a urine test that you can buy at your local pharmacy. If you aren't pregnant, I wouldn't bother telling anyone and I'd be very careful to use contraception in the future. If you are pregnant, then you have to tell mom. It won't be easy, but the longer you wait, the harder it'll be. As for the rest of it, sex for spite has a way of coming back to haunt you - be careful.

Answer 7

It might be hard, but the sooner you tell her, the better. The longer you wait the more disappointed she'll be. But remember to tell her you know it was wrong and you're sorry and you won't do it til you're married. It might make her less mad.

But wait a little to see if you see your stomache get a little bigger. If you don't see anything, just don't tell her. Cuz you might not even get pregnant.

Hope everything works out well, no mater what happens. : )

Answer 8

You're right, your Mom probably will be disappointed. But she will still love you. Please talk with her. She can help. You've grown up a lot by realizing your mistakes and that at 14 you are simply too young for sexual relations with anyone. Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

Wait until your missed period and then take a pregnancy test. Maybe you aren't pregnant, and if not then learn from this scare.

If you are pregnant, then please talk with your mom about what to do. Chances are she's going to be upset, but she will still love you, and help you in whatever you decide to do.

Goodluck to you.

Answer 10

Be honest. If you tell her you know you made a mistake and you realize the consequences, she will understand. That's what mothers do, ya' know? Just learn from your mistakes and don't do it again.