are there any cures for social phobias/anxiety/very low self esteem?? Being very nervous when in the company of others and assuming/ expecting them to dislike you.........feeling aukward when in the company of others, this type of problem has existed for years, is this the person's personality?
2006-11-20 07:49:17 · 17 answers · asked by The Banshee 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
the person socialises and works........ but still the feelings are there, having said that they do not have many friends and find it difficult to make them as people get the wrong impression of them because of their nervousness/ sometimes withdrawn behaviour
2006-11-20 07:53:58 · update #1
Try Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)! Evidence suggests it is a very effective therapy for the problems you describe! It is a therapy that helps you to challenge negative thoughts and confront your fears! if you go to your GP they can probably refer you to a therapist you practices in CBT. Or alternatively you can go private. Another option is to buy a book that teaches you about CBT, but I think being in touch with a therapist would be your best option at the moment! Search the internet for CBT - there is lots of info out there about what this therapy is about. By better understanding what the therapy involves you can make a choice as to whether or not this is the right option for you!
2006-11-20 07:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's suffering from sever anxiety. Possibly panic attacks.
Whenever he's in a new situation they happen. He's able to cope at work because he's used to the surroundings. But if there's a new element added. Let's say a new boss or co-worker. This could set him off. Let me guess. He likes to eat lunch by himself. He should seek a doctors advice. One of they symptoms of this problem is the person can't get help for themselves. They don't know how. They even think they might be crazy. He just might need some medication. Don't take the words "Panic Attack" so literal. You can't see them doing anything other than being nervous or withdrawn. They'll appear totally normal at times but on the inside fighting it. He needs help because it can very easily get worse. Some people get so bad they can't leave there homes. Some people stay inside for years. Don't answer the phone. Sneak out at night to get the mail. Have groceries delivered. It's not a joke. It's tricky though. What can you do for him? You can't just come out and say it. You said you've known him for years. I know there's a national anxiety day. Where people can get free testing done. It's not until March? I'm not sure of the date. Just do a search. Your best bet is to read up on anxiety and educate yourself before trying to help him.
K I'm done writing a book here. Good luck!
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2006-11-20 16:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once in your shoes. I am now very happy with myself and while still a bit quiet in groups I am never a peripheral member of a group - I'm a fully fledged valued person.
You should mix with lots of people even though it is difficult. Try to join a group that has a hobby or sport or other interest in comon - that way you will have something to talk about even if it only the central group activity. Then you will find it easier to talk about other stuff.
Above all, remember that your shyness is just a little voice inside trying to trip you up because a dominant person in your life wrongly told you a hundred million times that you are worthless.
But they were wrong. You're not! You are clever and wonderful. Tell yourself that every day and you will be fine!
Good luck!
2006-11-20 16:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
People can overcome this phobia as they can with all others. I saw a documentary on desensitization techniques. They showed people handling spiders & snakes, going on airplanes, etc. I'm sure there would be a similar technique for that. I'm not saying that you would become a social butterfly, but you could cope. You might want to also look into why you feel this way. Since I hit 50 I just avoid people I don't want to be around. I don't need to waste the rest of my life with people I don't like.
2006-11-20 16:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've suffered from it since i was 12/13 (im 26 now). Whether the psychiatrists are right or wrong about it being a treatable mental condition, I find the best way to defeat it is to slowly melt your fears step by step a little bit at a time untill your confidence grows, but it's an uphill struggle so good luck
2006-11-20 15:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Social phobia is not a person's personality. Shyness is a personality trait. Social phobia is a mental illness. People with social phobia are overly self-conscious, and experience fear of being judged by others.
Treatment involves certain medications and psychotherapy.
SSRIs, a class of antidepressants, are most commonly used to increase serotonin, which regulates mood. Cognitive-behavioral therapy helps people change thinking patterns that keep them from overcoming their fears, and changes people's reactions to anxiety-provoking situations.
2006-11-20 16:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by Speshul Ed 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wish I knew cause I have the same problem! I once had to do jury duty and in the middle of the D.A.'s closing arguements I had a panic attack and they had to recess the courtroom cause it was so bad! That was very embarrassing!
2006-11-20 15:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Stranger In Maine™♥ (Thriller) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah iam just like that, people think iam stuck up but iam just super shy and scared. Most people dont know that i have this phobia though, i mask it pretty well, but dont go out in many situations like parties
2006-11-20 15:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by Fries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go outside attempt being social
2006-11-20 15:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Join a drama group
2006-11-20 15:51:18 · answer #10 · answered by ~Grace~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋