After leaving school, i added one of my class mates onto my msn and started talking to him
Got to know him quite well and finally exchanged numbers on the level of friends
We texted each other but i didnt want to call
One day i called him and we ended up chatting for 2 hours eventhough i just planned to talk for 5 minutes.
Then he made me promise to call him the next day "just to say hello", and i said ok, but then changed my mind, i told him online that i wont call him because i didnt want him to get into any habits
and now he is acting angry with me online, saying that he doesnt wana talk online but on the phone, and that he's not happy with me because i didnt call
Whats the big deal here? How should i fix this? i dont want him to get into a habit of speaking on the phone - i want to continue talking online. But how can i convey this to him because clearly he doesnt want to listen!
2006-11-20 07:44:20 · 17 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell him why u dont want to make phone tlk a habit
ask him why he just has to talk on da phone
if he doesn't reply call him and talk about so u too can come to an agreement
2006-11-20 07:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by none 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that talking to him and other friends on MSN was your only means of escape from your 18 stone over possesive boyfriend, whom you forgot to mension as you were embarresed by the way he controlls you. Say you would love to stay friends and keep in touch on msn, but cant risk your boyfriend finding out you've been phoning another male as he'd blow his top. Your msn conversations are private as your boyfriend hasn't got a clue how to work a computer so there's no fear of getting caught, and this way you can remain in contact. What d u think then its worth a try, if not he's not worth the worry over as real friends dont act in that way so maybe your better of calling it a day. Good luck!
2006-11-21 07:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by mazza999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously want's to take your relationship to a higher level, lets face it texts and e.mails can be misconstrued. He may have the impression that you really like him and would like to know you better or vice versa. Don't be bullied into anything you don't want to do though, make your feelings quite clear, maybe there are other issues in your life at the minute that stop you from getting in to a deeper relationship. Talk to him in any method you want to and explain things exactly as they are. If you do have other probs and he is really interested (and mature of course) he'll respect your wishes and wait till a better time for you.
2006-11-20 16:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by RUTH M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this depends on what you're looking for from this situation.
If you're are looking to just be friends then I think online communication but if you want more then talking on the phone will be a part of the "getting to know each other process". it is up to you but you need to put what you want out there from the beginning before it it perceived as something else.
Good luck!!!
2006-11-20 15:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by sweettrini1012 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to talk on the phone you dont have to if he cant understand that then he obviously does not care about how you feel. It sounds to me like he had a tantrum because he did not get his own way. And if he liked you he would respect your decission and still be happy to talk to you online does not sound like he is worth bothering with. Good luck babes xx
2006-11-21 07:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is probably feeling embarrassed and led on a little. You have shown an interest by being in constant contact, but forgot to specify this was on a purely platonic level. If you genuinely want to be his friend, then keep trying to resolve this. But be careful,as he may have feelings for you and get the wrong idea
2006-11-20 15:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve already answered your own question!
obviously HE is not respecting YOUR needs.
He wants you to put HIS needs ahead of YOUR OWN.
so what that means is- you tell him that you arent comfortable talking on the phone at this time- and if he wants to chat online, you are ok with that. HOwever, if he doesnt want to chat online with you then by all means, tell him to go find another frined, because CLEARLY he isnt a real friend to YOU.
good luck kickin that loser to the curb
2006-11-20 15:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by Charmed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there's something your friend isn't telling you like something is going on at home or he is feeling lonely. Call him like he has asked you to do and find out what's going on and why he/she wanted you to call instead of e-mail. While you're talking on the phone explain why you don't want to make it a habit (tell him you're able to express yourself better by typing).
2006-11-20 16:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just apologise for not ringing him and tell him that you only want to talk online, if that is not good enough for him he need not contact you, dont answer his phone calls. Stick to your guns do not do anything that you do not want to do.
2006-11-20 18:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Just tell him if he wants to keep talking to you he will have to talk to you on the computer or texting.. OR tell him straight up that you dont have to call him.. If he wants to talk to you that bad that he can call your phone!!! GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-20 15:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by yourr babyy ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋