hey, wus up I'm 16 girl & my parents are about 2 get divorced (after over 20yrs) they've been 2gether since my oldest sis was born (she 28 now) & my mommy is leavin'. I was all cool about it all day but it jus now hit me that my mommy isn't gonna live with us anymore. It really makes me wanna cry. Naw I'm not a lil kid but it jus hit me MY PARENTS R GETTIN DIVORCED! Please help me deal with this cuz i'm in school & if i don't do something I'm gonna break down right here right now. *tears*
2006-11-20 07:43:11 · 13 answers · asked by waves 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm so sorry. Sometimes us adults make decisions that don't benefit our children.
Your life is about to change, but it doesn't have to be a change for the worse. Spend as much time with your mom as you can. Plan girl days together, special times that maybe you didn't have when she lived with you.
Hang in there. It will get better with time.
2006-11-20 07:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it is okay to cry. You should definitely take an hour to have a good cry over the loss of life as you've known it. Did you get a choice as to which parent you will live with? Will you be able to visit your mother often, I hope? This is not your fault. I think it's important to remember that she's not abandonning YOU. She still loves you as much as ever. She is just very unhappy in her marriage and that is partly your father's fault and partly hers. (It is never just one person.) So, try not to take sides. Love them both and tell each of them you do not want to listen to them bash each other! In the meantime, I am sure you have friends whose parents are divorced. Talking to one of them might help you. You can always go to your favorite teacher or the school counselor for guidance, too. They will all help you get through this. It's a transitiion, so it's tough, but you will be okay in awhile. Really. God Bless you.
2006-11-20 07:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think like an adult I know it hurts but you haveto realize that sometimes people grow apart and you will still see your mommy and both will still love you so just take it one day at a time and soend lots of time with your mom. You will have many choices to make in the future so this isn't the hardest but you will make it through because peolpe get divorced all the time. Just keep in mind everything the same with the love just spend time. It will be okay. It is better to have to parents who care than one who abondons you like my daddy did. I am sixteen too and he just left and he never calls or does anything. You caan contact me if you need help. kikit_kteara@yahoo.com
2006-11-20 07:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by kiki_t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first thing to realize is that your parents pending divorce is not your fault. There are and will be a lot of changes because of this and maybe you should find a counselor to talk to. A counselor could help you express your feelings while also giving you coping strategies. Good Luck!
2006-11-20 07:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM SORRY TO HEAR THIS AND I KNOW HOW YOU ARE FEELING JUST KNOW THAT YOUR PARENTS LOVE YOU VERY MUCH AND IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. IT IS HARD TO TAKE BUT IT IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD YOU CAN STILL VISIT BOTH OF THEM AND HAVE A GOOD BOND WITH THEM RIGHT. SOMETIMES PEOPLE OUTGROW EACH OTHER AND DONT HAVE THE SAME VIEWS IN LIFE OR IT CHANGES AFTER BEING MARRIED FOR SO LONG BUT I GUARANTEE THAT YOU WILL BE OK IF YOU KEEP AN OPEN MIND JUST REMEMBER TO NOT GET YOURSELF CAUGHT UP IN THEIR DRAMA AND LET THEM TALK ABOUT THEIR PROBLEMS TO EACH OTHER AND KEEP YOU AND YOUR OTHER SIBLING IF U HAVE ANY OUT OF IT,,,,GOOD LUCK
2006-11-20 07:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by frenbrenbf1997 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents divorced when I was 4. Just try to spend time with both of them . Mom this weekend Dad the next . The pain will go away after a while. Go see the councler if you're at school. They can help you
2006-11-20 07:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by Monet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay to cry it out. It's sad when divorce happens. But you should remember that your whole life is ahead of you. We spend such a short amount of time living with our parents anyway. Whatever the reason your parent's didn't work out, it is not your fault and you can't fix their problems. Try to focus on your life -- not theirs. I am sorry. You can get through this strong!
2006-11-20 07:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by Luckiest_Wife_EVER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me when I was a little older than you and it was awful. Don't blame yourself. If you can get professional help early and often, this is a hard thing to deal with and better if you don't go through it alone, there is nothing to be ashamed of if you see a counselor. good luck.
2006-11-20 16:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest ask other friends who have gone through divorce about it or just be her shoulder to cry on, and try to relate just let her vent everything she has to say, cause somtimes you just need to talk about it, have a cry, or even yell about it only half of the sadness of divorce comes when the actuallty divorce happens just be there for her always to talk
2016-05-22 00:36:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your sister.
You can also talk to a friend or a teacher or someone else who you trust, but I'd say your sister.
She knows you well and she'll understand what you mean, and family is always there for you.
2006-11-20 07:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by Christine P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋