I'm 15 and still a virgin. Frankly, I don't feel prepared to have sex. I'm afraid it'll be a kinda traumatic experience if I have sex now. Most guys my age only want sex for pleasure. I think I'm mature for my age, but I don't think I'm enough mature to get engaged. And it's almost impossible to love a man at my age. Many people say I'm childish because I'm not into boys as many girls my age, and for now my priority is is school, though I also love swimming and have many friends. I get along with my parents and my bro, and frequently go out with mom, she ikes those mother/daughter days and I think they are cool. My parents treat me with love, are understanding when I do something wrong and I like this, I dont see why I should fight instead of talking.
I'm happy, but so many other teens and even adults keep saying I'm childish, inexperienced, I don't act like a 3 rd millennium girl that I'm getting upset;.Much peer pressure. What's wrong with me?
2006-11-20 07:34:38 · 32 answers · asked by Adriana 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Maybe I should talk with my parents about peer pressure, but Im afraid they can get scared and ground me. Not for punishment but for protection
2006-11-20 07:35:07 · update #1
I don't think so
:> peace
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2006-11-23 16:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my my you sound like you have your head on straight and have a strong sense of who you are and I praise you for that....if you look back and read what you have wrote you will get your answer to this...it just sounds like you needed some reassurance! If you know you are being pressured and it being called peer pressure then don't ever ever give your body to anyone not matter what because that is presious. If and when you do decide that you are ready you should only do that with someone you are ready to commit to and are sure they are ready for that too and at age 15 that is too young because you still have alot of growing up to do, not saying you are immature, just stating that you are still young . And in my experience that will only ruin reputation and the way you feel about your self. They will go be boys and tell everyone what they did with you and others will expect the same from you as well and if you think you are pressured now htink of how it would be if you did it...it would only get worse! Stay strong and stand up for yourself...you will get respect. I hope when my two girls get to your age they kinda think the way you do! Oh and nothing is wrong with you..it is normal to question this!
2006-11-20 07:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by honeyEMT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound very mature for your age and like you know what you want. I didn't have sex until I was 20 and I still wasn't even ready for it! Most people who are telling you negative things about yourself are probably jealous or just catty and think they have all the answers, which is so far from the truth.
Be proud for being an intelligent young lady, not willing to give into peer pressure. You will get much further being an independent thinker, than following the crowd. I know it's hard now, but that's what growing up is about. If you're happy, then that's all that matters. Stay close to your family and remember that your mom and dad are great resources and always want what's best for you, which isn't true about your peers!!
2006-11-20 07:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you!!! You are being your own person and a very responsible one at that!! Focus on school and your interests. Being involved with your family is wonderful and every teen should love to have what you have. You are reducing your risk of getting pregnant, getting STD's and dropping out of school. Those people who are saying that you are being childish, are much more childish, especially the adults, since they should be the ones that are instilling good values in young people like yourself. Don't ever give in to those people that want you to be more like them. Keep your up your value system and be yourself and only for yourself, not them. We need more young people like you!!
HOORAY FOR YOU!!
Talk to someone you trust about this problem with peer pressure, your parents, good friend, school counsellor, teacher, coach, pastor etc. Get support so that if you feel the pressure too much, that you can vent and get some advice about how to counteract this pressure. Once again, there is nothing wrong with you!!!
2006-11-20 08:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by finding_my_dream 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are a DREAM TEEN! You are probably one of THE smartest, most mature 15-year old girls I have ever come in contact with. My hunch is that your friends are jealous of how confident you are, the great relationship you have with your parents, and the fact that you know what you want right now, and it happens to NOT be the negative things that so many teens turn to for self-esteem, or ways to take them out of a dysfunctional family. Stay strong, don't let them drag you into all that mess. I DO recommend that you talk to your parents about this...give it a try. They sound cool... I have a feeling that you will be pleasantly surprised, as well as empowered, by the discussion. :)
2006-11-20 08:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by julesl68 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah u sound like the "perfect" 15 year old.. smart, intelligent, happy, have lots of friends, good relationship w/ parents...
don't listen to ANYONE negative, no matter what! always seek what You feel to be Positive, Healthy and Happy. if u are unsure about sex, DON'T DO IT. i am still a virgin and am 26 years old!! and i've had boyfriends, it's just i've made a decision for MYSELF. in college i almost had sex, but i got scared. my bf didn't pressure me, and we broke up later and i was SOOO glad i didn't give in!! that is what made me change my mind to wait until marriage.... it is MY CHOICE. i am also Christian, but that's not what stopped me. it was the fear or feeling used for sex, or giving away my virginity to someone who didn't deserve it.
anyways, long story short, live ur life to the Fullest. have a great time, stay confident, healthy, and happy.... the more Confident u are, the more Friends u have, the Happier u are, the more Attractive u are.. to anyone! and then u will KNOW it's not about sex, but about your Great personality..and u can choose later on whether or not u are ready to go further w/ guys.
take care, hope u always stay a great person~
2006-11-20 07:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you!!! Do not listen to them. most people feel that if there doing something wrong others should to just to make them feel better. I don't what is wring with the kids now days they are way to young to be having sex and do not understand the first thing about responsibility or respect. It seems as though your parents did an awsome job and you are much much more mature than they are and ever will be.
2006-11-20 07:39:42 · answer #7 · answered by nicsgirlus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing's wrong with you..Never take sex lightly..if you're not prepared then wait. So many people have regrets about their first time. Most of the teens and even adults are the childish ones that don't wait until it's the right time for them...so don't feel pressured. Do what's right for you.
2006-11-20 07:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by kcgurl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are on the verge of developing some unhealthy friendships. Stick with like minded people as friends, and the peer pressure won't get to you.
How truly refreshing to see a wise and judicious teen. I know they are out there, but we are deluged with information about the opposite types.
Keep up the good work. I think it would be highly unlikely that your obviously sensible parents would ground you for discussing this problem with them. They may, however, want to steer you away from some of your choices of friends that you are getting the bad vibes from.
Go ahead and discuss this issue with them.
2006-11-20 07:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with keeping your mind on the great stuff that makes being a teenager so much fun.
You'll have the rest of your life to worry about boys and sex and all that drama.
I think if you talk to your parents or school counselor they will be able to give you some good advice.
2006-11-20 07:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound very mature for your age. To realize you are only 15 and that you don't have to give into peer pressure and don't have to have sex until you are ready (15 is young to be having sex) You have your whole life ahead of you. And to realize that you are not ready for such a big thing. Your parents should be very proud that they raised you well.
2006-11-20 07:41:30 · answer #11 · answered by strtat2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋