Ive been married for 8 years and now I just had a baby and my husband has moved out and he says he still loves me but he cant get this other girl out of he head well I am sure he never will so i am getting a apartment and letting him know that if he doesnt want to be a real husband he can move on. but i really havent been single how do i get over him I still love him so much
2006-11-20 07:23:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Prioritize. You have a baby and a husband who doesn't love you as much as he loves the memory of this other woman. Which is more important? When you figure that one out, then ask yourself -- what is there to love about a man who would treat you this way?
2006-11-20 07:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL I WAS JUST LIKE THAT ONE TIME SEE THIS IS HOW I GOT OVER JAMAL I KEPT GOING HOME IN MY ROOM DOING STUFF AND TO SEE IF I COULD THINK ABOUT MY HUSBAND FOR 24HOURS STRAIGHT AND WHEN I DID I DID NOT CARE LOOK THE POINT IS IF YOU DID NOT GET A DIVORCE THEN ITS OK HE IS STILL YOUR HUSBAND AND IF HE WANT A DIVORCE DON'T SIGN THE PAPER IF YOU WANT TO TEACH HIM TO NOT TO GO NOW IF YOU REALLY LOVE HIM LET HIM GOT LET HIM BE FREE HE WILL NOTICE THAT THAT GIRL IS NOTHING LIKE YOU YOU ARE MUCH BETTER THAT'S WHAT I DID NOW I'M SO HAPPY EXCEPT THIS PROBLEM WITH MY LITTLE SIS but heres the point don't take him back make him pay for how much he hurt you
2006-11-20 15:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Directions on how to get over a real jerk who doesn't deserve you or your new baby:
Every time you feel sad, look at your baby and remember the fact that it's "sperm donor" didn't think enough about it to stick around. You tell yourself you have to be strong for your child. Someone has to be an adult for this baby and it's your responsibility now. Get MAD! He's selfish and irresponsible. Tell him to get out of your life and leave you and your baby alone. As time goes on, you will realize how pathetic he really is and how lucky you were he left you when he did. Good luck!
2006-11-20 15:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband left me when i was 4 months pregnant..he felt like it was more important to party and whore around...so i left...my daughter is now 2 years old and we also have a 7 year old son...It will be hard trust me...but nothing to bad that you can't handle...wish you the best...Move on ...don't live in the past ..you and your baby deserve the best..not some jerk that will keep leaving if you take him back
2006-11-20 15:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by ?Whiskey Girl? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's gonna take some time. I was in a relationship for 4 years and when it ended, only extremely horrible terms, it was one of the hardest things to deal with. You have a child, and i can understand completely that that factor alone will make a huge difference in getting over him. But trust me, you have to slowly forget about them. Its better for you.
2006-11-20 15:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when we love someone we have to let them make their own choice on who they want to be with, because if we try to stop them it will only cause them to resent us later. just have to let him see what he wants in life. oftentimes it is at our expense and with much sadness, we just move on and try and make a new life for ourselves. it's never easy to loose someone we love we will miss them, and hurt for awhile. u need a good support system of trusted friends, maybe your minister. personally it is hard to ever regain the trust u once had for this man, and your marriage is not ever going to be the same as it was. but i do believe love can and does overcome anything . i believe it is the thought of what u thought u had with him that u feel u can't get over. i have been divorced nearly 3 years, looking back i see i miss what i thought i had with him, but in reality i never did have it. i loved him and perhaps still do in my own way, but didn't want to wait it out, and hope he would come back, because i knew in my heart that i could not forget it, and didn't want to be hurt anymore by him or that woman. i am sure he would have returned but you always know they picked them instead of u, it's always in the back of our minds, so i decided to go find a new love, one that was truly mine, one that loved me, and that there were no unpleasant memories behind it. good luck.
2006-11-20 15:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually he doesn't konow what he just lost a hugh part of hislife! A beautiful wife and a beautiful child, but try to keep urself up for the child i know it's gonna be hard but fortoo long he's gonne regret it and you're gonna find someone who loves the both of you and will treat you like a queen. I wish you the best of luckand i'm gonna be praying for you and your child! :)
2006-11-20 15:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by Kandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
steam roller??? no ...just time. You need to go through a grieving and healing process that varies for everyone. Good luck, and know that there are lots of single moms out here and you are not alone.
2006-11-20 15:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by coffeegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor you, you must be hurting real bad hun.....they say time is a great healer although that probably doesn't help you much right now, but it is true......it seems he will be the loser in the end for letting you and the baby go but stand your ground and keep your head high sweetie......you deserve better.....good luck.
2006-11-20 15:34:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes distance helps you both to realize what you mean to each other. Sometimes it helps you realize that you are not meant to be together.
Either way, time is the only thing I know that heals the hurt.
I hope your time of healing is short and your time of renewal comes quickly!
2006-11-20 15:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋