I want a baby SOOO bad. I've been wanting one for a while now. And my boyfriend wants one too, but he says that he doesn't feel ready yet. I know that I'M ready for one right now, and I'm tired of waiting already. How can I convince him?
2006-11-20 06:52:27 · 44 answers · asked by qbanita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Easy, it marries it, later is alone to convince. Bye and good luck.
2006-11-20 07:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kaka Monte® 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want someone to have a baby that they're not ready for? Babies are a lot of work and a lot of money. They are wonderful, but it's not all goo-goo ga-ga. It's buying diapers and formula and new clothes every few months. Can you afford a baby? Do you work? If so, who will watch the baby while you are at work? If not, can you afford a baby with only one paycheck? Remember that if you aren't married, you will have trouble getting health insurance. Have you ever taken care of a baby? And I don't mean for a couple hours while the parents go out, but for an extended period of time, while you're are pacing the floor with a screaming baby at 2 in the morning. You and your boyfriend need to be of one mind when it comes to a decision like this.
2006-11-20 06:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by leaptad 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont think it is a good idea to try to convince him, let him make the decision let him feel ready because he says he is not ready for a reason. I know you want a baby so bad but sometimes you just have to wait a little longer. Let things happen naturally. Youll get your baby.
2006-11-20 06:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by LIZ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why have a baby with someone who said they aren't ready. That is just a bit insane! He won't make a good father or help you in any way if he isn't ready. Having a child is a full time job and both need to be ready, you must be really young, oh, and you might want to think about getting married or something too. Don't be stupid.
2006-11-20 06:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You cant nor should you. How would you feel if it was he who was pressuring you if you were not ready. If you make him become a dad before he feels he is ready sadly he might not be there for you nor the child. if you feel you need a baby right now then find another guy who wants children right away. Or do the smart thing and just wait.
2006-11-20 06:54:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to convince him. If you push him he will run. You may be ready but he isn't. He may feel like right now he doesn't have what it takes to be a good father. Give him time. Spend time with people who have kids so he will see what it is like. When he is ready to be a dad he will let you know. Don't get pregnant on purpose unless he is ready. He will feel trapped and that will make him not want to be there for you.
2006-11-20 07:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by Donna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cant and shouldnt force a child on someone that is not ready. You will only be hurt in the long run if you trap this man into have a child when he told you he is not ready.
There is no amount of convincing someone if its not something they dont want. Remember that you will end up pushing him away if you continue to nag
2006-11-20 06:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_treats_4_u33 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thought as your boyfriend before my 1st was born. A big help would be to show him how his life will change for the better. Also show him that he will have to make adjustments in his life but the new baby won't take 100% of his free time. He will still see his friends and have some time to relax, he might just have to rearrange events around to accomodate the new baby and family time. This will be more relevant if your/his friends have children also. There are so many more family events that you can do and still be with the same friends and family that you were with before the baby. I hope this helps.
2006-11-20 06:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by Todd T 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not even try to convince him because you being pushy could actually push him away. What if he was ready and you weren't? You have to look at the situation in his shoes also. Why doesn't he want one right now? It should be a mutual decision. The love for the baby and making it will come in time. You should enjoy your time with him alone for now though. Maybe he wants to surprise you on a special day or something.
2006-11-20 06:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
IF he says he's not ready then I applaud him. this is an issue you can not force b/c id he caves then he'll hate you for the rest of his life and the baby for taking his life away and that's no way to start out someone's life. Sound like if you didn't already know this you're not ready yet yourself and need to do some growing up yourself still.
2006-11-20 06:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by sixcannonballs 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to have a baby out of wetlock? Get married so you know that you will be secured. Make sure that your finaces are in order, you have health coverage, the apt. you have is a suitable size. Make sure that there is money saved up so that when you stop working you do not have to worry about where your next rent payment is going to come from. Do not force him to make a baby that he may turn around and hate you for. Sometimes action speak louder than words. His action is saying that he doesn't want a baby.
2006-11-20 07:23:00 · answer #11 · answered by naomijoan0615 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋