ive been with this guy for years and we broke up but were stillliving together.i just found out he was lying to me and was doing dope. now hes a full blown crack head junky. after work (where i guzzled a bunch of whiskey)a mutual frined and i went out and got even more drunk and then i came home. he was laying on the couch (i thought he was mad at me ) and then out of nowhere we started fighting and then he called me a c*** (which is the most offensive thing someone i love can call me)so SUPPOSEDLY i threatened to stab him and his parents (who normally love me) got really pissed and so i left. well my mom (who wasnt talking to me) picked me up and just started screaming at me and told me how much she hated me blahh blahh blahh. so i ran out the house and somehow ended up 8 miles in the "worst" city in ny (not in nyc) where i got picked up by the police.lately ive been so hurt& neverbeen so wasted in mylife and now he wants nothing to do with me. what do i do to earn his friendship back
2006-11-20 06:21:27 · 11 answers · asked by Meeowf 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he normally doesnt get mad at me for drinking....could he have been mad and started a fight because i was out with a mutual friend (a dude)?! maybe he thought we were screwing, but then again he and have been drinking together for years
2006-11-20 06:22:52 · update #1
IM SERIOUSLY NOT AN ALCOHOLIC! THATS WHY I GOT SO WASTED!
2006-11-20 06:26:42 · update #2
i bother with him because i genuinly LOVE him. we watched eachother grow up. i know the beautiful person he is without the drugs and im afraid he'll die and i wont be there
2006-11-20 06:31:08 · update #3
we've talked before, and ive offered to be sober with him. wont have it, says hes happy and that i best stop questioning his life
2006-11-20 06:38:10 · update #4
i dont have my family becausemy mom is nuts, literally and ive preety much been left to my own devices since i was 15
2006-11-20 06:46:40 · update #5
for someone to do that to you why look for ways to earn his friendship back. you have been hurt. it is best if you move on in your life and find someone new that will love you for who you are . not what you are . take care
2006-11-20 06:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by me and you 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to be friends with a 'full blown crack head junky'? Pretty much everyone has done or said things while they were drunk and have to apologize, but it doesn't sound like you were the only one in the wrong. I don't think he's worth your time, but just tell him, 'I'm sorry' and see how that goes. Threatening to injure someone is pretty bad - maybe you should lighten up on the drinking for awhile too.
2006-11-20 14:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you have too many chemical messing up both yours and his perceptions. you both need help.
If he wasn't on crack and you weren't drunk, do you thing this could have gone differently? So, here's what you do...
Yes, of course apologize. You didn't mean to do all these things. Explain that you think things go out of hand because of the drugs and booze. If he's a sensible guy, he'll see it too.
Next, make a deal with him. If he can stay off the crack, then you stay off the booze. Hopefully, with clearer minds, you'll be able to handle these things before they become a problem.
2006-11-20 14:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by Odindmar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apolgize for what??? You just found out the idiot has been lying to you doing crack?? People escape all the time. I bet you'll find if you get away from him, you will get your family back, and won't drink as much. If your mom is saying she hates you? What have you done to her? There's something you aren't telling us. Get away from all for awhile, His family is no better he's lied to them too, & himself, let him die he'll have his parents who obviously are in denial too let it be their problem not yours
2006-11-20 14:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by carmella.2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's on crack and you drink youself Silly..
This is going to hurt but - your friendship with him is going to do a lot more harm to you both.
What if he's high and you're drunk and you guys end up killing or seriously hurting eachother. YOu both need to get cleaned up and grow up.
2006-11-20 14:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by Centered 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A good place to start for both you and your bf would be AA on the first step. You will eventually get to the eighth and ninth steps and you will learn how to make amends for the damage you cause.
Good luck.
Peace.
2006-11-20 14:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to work on the drinking problem first then get back in with your own family keep your distance from the crack head
2006-11-20 14:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DTMFA.
Get out, move on, move away.
It's YOUR life. There are millions of people out there.
In your next drunken stupor, get on a greyhound & go where it takes you.
2006-11-20 14:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by CoronaGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes a full blown crack addict according to you so why even bother.sounds like there will always be problems.
2006-11-20 14:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
move on, get the stoned dude out of your life and don't do anything this stupid that you'll ever regret this much in your entire life again, ever!!!!!
2006-11-20 14:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by sixcannonballs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋