I recently got grounded fo rtwo weeks for caling off work to go to church. My dad took my phone which i broke..andi regret fully. But he also told m ei cant be aroind my boyfriend becuz he doesnt like him and he wont tell me why. I think its because of his family and hwere hes from. I am 16..will be 17 in december and my boyfriend just turned 20. Can my dad do anything gif i continue seeing him?...i thonk my parents should just let me make my own decisions and learn from my own mistakes. i wrot emy mom a two page front n back letter telling her how i feel?..do u think it will help?...I fel like they dont let me make the decisions i should be making at 17 years old. I tell them where im going and who oim with but my dad still thinks i lie to them. I have nevr gotten in trouble with ;law, done drugs and i dont drink. They think everytime im w/ my bf im having sex and its not even like that. I wantto be calm and work things out but how do i go about it?...what should i say?.
2006-11-20 06:07:46 · 6 answers · asked by cherish_life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your young your parents are just looking out for what they think is best...talk to them dont fight with them sit down with you and your boyfriend and talk to them ... I live in NY and in NY what your doing is illegal in my state it called rape so be carfull and talk to your parents
2006-11-20 06:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I'm 29 yrs old. When I was your age, which seemed like yesterday, my mother was absolutely right about every boy i liked or dated. Call it mother's intuition, or what you want. Perhaps you feel that you can make your own decisions and learn from your own mistakes. But what happens when you need your parents to help you with your mistakes? I got pregnant right out of high school and needed my mommy's help. I know it sucks, but parents can usually see things about people that a 16 yr. old just can't see. Your 18th birthday will be right around the corner sooner than you think, just try and relax. Doing what they say will show them respect and how responsible and grown up you are.
2006-11-20 06:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by middelmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of looking at this from your perspective, try being objective and think about how your parents are feeling. Believe me, they are just as frustrated as you are. Their lovely daughter who doesn't do drugs, or drink and who always tells them where she is; their daughter who they've cared for for almost 17 years; their daughter who they love deeper than almost any other love (The love of children is one of the strongest loves). ..... is dating someone who's just over 3 years older than her. .. and at your ages, 3 years is big.
I would approach your parents from their perspective -- you are still under 18, and you're still under their roof. They probably didn't want you to have sex until you were older and maybe not until you were married. So there goes one of their hopes and dreams out the window. Now their fears: number one is that their daughter is going to get hurt, number two as parents they should not be condoning their 16/17 year old daughter to have sex with a 20 year old. Three, he's 20, what's he doing with someone who hasn't even graduated from high school yet? Is he in college? Does he love you? Does he want to marry you someday? Are you sure that he's not using you? Your parents are worried sick that you're going to get hurt and/or pregnant.
You should be focusing on high school and college right now.....
I hope you can see what your parents are going through too.
I don't know if there's a middle ground somewhere, but maybe
between you and your parents you can find it.
2006-11-20 06:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by LiveLifeBeGood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay this has got to be a joke. Here it is, until you support yourself and as long as you live off your parents they have every right to tell you what you can and cannot do. I would suggest you either listen to their advise or get a job, a place to live and support yourself which then gives you the right to make decisions for yourself. Judging from your lack of typing and/or spelling abilities I think you have more to worry about - maybe you should concentrate on your education.
2006-11-20 06:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont bypass in steaming,you ought to attitude her like a sister not a mum she has a million mum and sorry to right here that shes sick what she needs desirable now's a significant sister to have a stable talk with and all you're able to do is provide her the advice of coming up specific while the time comes she knows of your there any questions she has or any cocerns approximately something you're there attempt to talk plenty approximately boyfriends and be open together with her x
2016-10-22 10:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's the same thing my parents say. you are old enough to make your own decisions but if you are asking us that means that you still don't know how to make your own decisions ask your dad why he don't like him he probably saw him doing some he don't suppose to but if it is only cause his family act like you gonna leave him but date him without any one knowing
2006-11-20 06:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by Loka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋