Everyone is always saying "She's sooooo pretty!" She's been with this 1 guy for a while, tho, even though tons of guys flirt with her at parties. I want to be pretty too- no one every says I'm pretty. I'm sick of being jealous of her 24/7, tips?
2006-11-20 05:50:39 · 12 answers · asked by coolbluepot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When I was in High School my best friend was so pretty. She had beautiful long hair and a cute figure. Every guy looked at her butt because it was a perfect shape. Not too big or little. I think I was actually jealous of her butt. LOL!!!!! I am so embarrassed I just said that. :) Anyway, I just was kinda happy go lucky and didn't worry about it.
Years later when we would go out dancing or clubbing guys paid more attention to me. I was in College and she would call me and beg me too come home for the weekend so we could go out. When I got in town I would always have to call her and then she would say that her and her frind Mary were going out, but i could come too. After this happening about 3 times (I lived 5 hours away from school so coming home was a major ordeal) I was confused and mad. She would talk to her other girlfriend and ignore me. While we were in the ladies room I told her that she was acting wierd and was ignoring me . I asked her " are you jealous of me"? She was like "why would I be jealouse of Kimberly *****? (*=my last name) I said I don't know why, but you are. She denied it. I left and went home. We didn't speak again until a few years later I ran into her at a club. She was drunk and came up to me and asked if I could come into the bathroom with her. I agreed. While there she started to cry and said "remember that night when you asked if I was Jealous of you?" She said " Well I was and I lied and I am so sorry".
My point is this. When I was jealous of her I didn't worry about it because I was proud of who I was and loved her as my best friend. Then when my body matured and I turned into a young woman I still thought she looked great, but I was no longer jealous. But she couldn't handle me getting all the attention because she was insecure during that time.
God tells us to not be jelous or envious. If you work on loving yourself for who you are and forget about who is giving whom the attention things will come and go your way because confidence is beautiful.
My best friend and I lost 2 years together that we can never get back.
And just because no one says to you that your pretty does not mean that they are not saying it to others. They are telling you that she is so pretty, but they are not saying it to her.
2006-11-20 06:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by kimmy pletz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, looks are not everything. She may prettier, has nicer things....and whatever else. You two are different from eachother, and you should not go by looks, you have yor own specialities that you are superior in. Look at the things that make you stand out...such as a beter personality, smile, evn better with communication skills, ven though you do not have a boyfriend...so what have fun being single, think of the positive things you have kived for and what you want to live for. There is so much more out there other than loks and guys, you will be blessed by that special someone who will love you for who you are, not because yo are pretty. Do not be jealous, be happy, maybe you should take some time from her, like instaed of spending the weekend with her, spend it with a sibling, cousin, or another close friend...etc. reflect on how you feel about yourself. Be happy because you are blessed with what you have, and remember their is always someone jealous of you, and wishing they had what you want, so be strong and break the cycle babe, I hope this helped!
2006-11-20 05:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by old 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LoL... this is every girls' problem. however.. u need to learn how to Separate yourself from her.. u are a Different, Unique person. trust me, there is someone prettier than Her, and SHE may be thinking the same thing later. so u are on the right track: u need to find what YOU can do for Yourself to be pretty too. :) and it takes time, but never fear: u can ALWAYS change something! whether it be ur hair, ur makeup style, ur body, clothes.. everything makes a difference.. and u know what? the MOST difference of all is CONFIDENCE! so, as u work on yourself, realize that ur changing how Good u feel about urself!
so, here's my advice to you (i'm speaking from personal experience too!):
Appearance: Work out, exercise. take care of ur skin and body. try on some new hairstyles and makeup.... get a makeover and copy techniques that FLATTER ur face. buy some new, stylish, flattering clothes. get a new haircut. :)
Mind: Study. Read more, learn more. pursue ur interests and excel in hobbies. the more u KNOW, the more u have to discuss w/ others, remember to keep an Open mind!
Relationships: With family, friends, eventually friends of friends, teachers, employers, co workers, even strangers! and remember, the better u Look, and the more Knowledgeable u are, the easier it will be for u to have in common with other people, as well as NOT be SHY about ur looks! :) good luck, and keep trying.. u can always improve, no matter what~~
2006-11-20 05:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I have a pretty best friend, too. BUT... We are all pretty in different ways. Find a new haistyle that accentuates positive physical attributes. And take inventory of what's cute about you. If you have great legs, show them off a little. If you have a flat tummy, wear some hip huggers, not too low, of course, but you get the idea. And don't focus on what you don't have..And remember....Jealousy is very unattractive.
2006-11-20 05:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously I dont think its just ur fault...shemight be trying too u know to flirt back to unconciously make u jealous..I would seriously try to relax here..u cant get rid of ur bestie so soon...Just think that she is alright..maybe uare pretty too for mnay and u just dont realize..Besides ppl who flirt have no roomin my book..Maybe the guys that like u are just more serious and don like flirting coz they are mature..
BEST idea would be to just be HAPPY at ppl liking ur besttie..
it works the best..u wont feel bad too..Imean its a 10000 times better to go with the flow and let things pass then to mentally try to change things coz they never do.
By being jealous ur just adding importance to her beaty.
EDIT: Ive met many beautiful ppl in life I wouldnt like to be in their place for a second..Coz they haveno conscience nor character.
Deveope a character and not just personality..remeber .what looks good on the outside doesnt have to be goodin the inside...
2006-11-20 06:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your right. she is either jealous or she really looks up to you and wants to be like you. my friend started with the copying thing and then the dressing the same. what i did was switch my taste. i picked out a new way to dress myself (that i liked) but i was the same person and i also delt with the stupid remarks from childhood. the best way -i think- to stop that is even if you dot remember that stuff just give a little laugh you were a kid for gods sake. other people will enjoy that you r easy-going enough to laugh at yourself. hope this helps
2016-05-21 23:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, that sucks. stop thinking about her looks. think about you. think about a way to tastefully display the many wonderful talents YOU have.
really pretty girls don't get a chance to develop character like the rest of us normal-looking girls do. every cloud has a silver lining, yadda yadda.
beautiful people with no character end up with other beautiful people with no character. and not as happy as those whose love is based on a more solid foundation.
2006-11-20 05:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its natural to feel that way. You feel like a shadow, right? Try to make a list of 5 or more characteristics you have and she doesn't. Everyone has "stuff" about them that makes them, well...them! Deep down, you are pretty as (or even prettier than) her!
2006-11-20 05:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by PussyCat Dolly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok! come on!!! don't beat your self up about your friend, for one every female is beautiful in there own way, take the time and change your look but not as the same as your friend and most important be beautiful in the inside it will pay u back.
2006-11-20 05:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by Leomi M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your not pretty , your beutiful
your special
and let no one tell you different
its not the outside that counts its the inside
just like christmas
no one cars what the out side looks like its the gift on the inside of the gift that counts
2006-11-20 06:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋