You are prolife but your daughter gets pregnant. She dosent know what to do and/or wants an abortion. Do you support this or refuse to sign for the abortion?
2006-11-20 05:48:44 · 23 answers · asked by TrofyWife 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would hope that I had raied my daughter to be more responsible about her sexuality. But no, I would not sign. I would encourage her to put the baby up for adoption or I would raise it with her.
2006-11-20 05:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by parental unit 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I would refuse it. If you sign for it, you just teach your child that consequences are avoidable. They aren't. And if you're proLife, you'd know that by getting rid of the baby (killing it) you are bringing greater consequences on your self. Make her have the baby, but give her the choice of raising and providing for the child, or let someone else adopt it and give it a better life, hopefully.
Also, you asked this person if they thought of the implications of doing this to their daughter. Well, the real question is, did the daughter think of the implications of sex before marriage (which usually leads to single parenthood) before she undid her pants.
I'm not judging this girl. I think you're response shows a great deal of selfishness.
EDITED in response to make me ache...
If the girl cared about what her classmates MIGHT call her at school (which, nowadays with so many high schoolers getting pregnant, is pretty much a norm and alot of people ignore it) she shouldn't have been messing around in the first place.
And, If she decides not to give it up for adoption, and has to quite school, well, maybe that's something to take in consideration for whats best for her and the BABY who should have a right to live.
2006-11-21 14:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Laura R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent but I got a younger sister that I love, and sometimes I feel like her parent. I would be horrified if she ended up pregnant, but I would not show her that part of me, I would support her and I would talk to her about keeping the baby and me helping care for it alongside with her. I would hope that I could talk her into not getting an abortion for her sake and the sake of the unborn, but if ultemately she decided to do it, then I would sign, rather her get it in a sterilized controlled environment than in a back alley.
2006-11-20 14:53:41 · answer #3 · answered by Fiesty Redhead 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok....
I'm not a parent, and I'm four months away from being a legal adult, but....
If your daughter wants an abortion and you refuse to sign for it, if your state has laws about that, then she will resent you. Yes, you are older, you have more life experience, and you are her mother/father, BUT if she really thought about, then she knows what is best for HERSELF, and that is the most important thing.
I've had an abortion, and I am not proud of it, but it's what was best for me at the time, and every time I stop to think about, I still stand beside the desicion I made a year and a half ago.
If you make her carry it to term she will be ridiculed by her classmates, called a slut and a whore, thought of as easy, and her self esteem will plummet to the lowest of lows. She will most likely have post-partum depression, made worse by the low self esteem and the already flucctuating hormones of being a teenager. She could think of suicide, she could feel her life isn't in her control and develope an eating disorder, start self-harming, or worse, even kill herself.
You need to think about whats best for your daughter, not about whats best for the unborn baby inside her, because when it comes down to it, do you want to have your daughter as a whole person, or someone broken?
I hope you think carefully of the implications.
And, who says that she would want to give it up for adoption if she carries it to term? And when if she doesn't, then she'll need a job, and baby items are expensive, which means she'll need an almost full time job, which means buh-bye to school, and hello to every kind of stress there is.
Because if you make her saddle the responsibility of carrying to term, you'll have to see it thorugh and make her saddle the responsibility for the baby herself. Not for you.
2006-11-20 18:13:25 · answer #4 · answered by make me ache 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If my daughter was a minor and got pregnant, I would encourage her to give the baby up for adoption, but I would not sign a paper to allow her to have an abortion. I do not support abortion as a means of birth control. If my daughter wanted to keep the baby, I would support her, but she would have to be the mom and be responsible for her child. I would step back to be the grandma.
2006-11-20 14:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i would support it. What's your other option? Force her to and then she hate the kid and treat him like crap (that happened to my mom. my grandmother had her at 15 now she's 45 and still treats her very differently and she's still emotionally scarred) or you could take care of a child even though it's not your responsibility. That's emotionally and financially straining on all of you. Besides you can't force her to have an abortion. Before the procedure they ask if youre being forced and if she says yes they won't do it. Then again what if she never even told you and threw the baby away.
2006-11-20 13:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by Kennedy & Kevin's mommy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure where you live but I know that you do not need a parents signature where I am from. She can make that choice at the age of 12. Go in by herself and get it done. This is because so many parents refuse to sign. I do not agree with this but I got this knowledge and was very angry about this. I would not sign either.
2006-11-20 14:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by butterflycita 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I too hope I am raising my daughters better then that and I will also hope my son would not encourage a girl to abort a child either. I would talk to her if the situation ever comes up and let her know I am there for her to help and support her every step of the way.
2006-11-20 13:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by lisamarie7901 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My mom got pregnant at sixteen and i'm so glad she didn't get an abortion, i wouldn't have my brother and he's one of the greatest men i have ever known. what if she did get an abortion? a lot of people who do regret it and some get very depressed. take her to get an ultasound so she can see the precious being inside of her. a lot of people who are thinking about getting an abortion and see the ultrasound change their mind.
"as soon as women are able to see a picture of their unborn baby inside them, they immediatley realize that it is a precious unborn human being worthy of protection."
Last part is from a book
2006-11-20 16:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by acamn91 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Refuse and support her at the same time! If she didn't think she could handle a baby, I'd raise it myself! Abortion is murder no matter who does it!
2006-11-22 00:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by Patty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should try to make her know clearly that, she has to be responsable for what she has done, but at the same time u should let her know that whatever her desicion is u will suport her. Let her know your point of vew about it, but don't make desicions for her, she the one who's going to live her whole life: a) with a baby or, b) with the guilt, if she didn't want to have the abortion. Those desicions are going to afect her life more than yours so, she's the one who has to know what to do, not you.
Good luck with everything!!
2006-11-20 14:42:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋