My husband is cheating on me with a married woman. Should I contact her husband?

Question

And provide him with the phone records that I have showing my husband calling his wife 15 times a day and staying on the phone hours at a time.

I have confronted my husband but he maintains that they are friends. I haven't told my husband that I have the phone records of their calls because I don't want to give up my proof.

Answer 1

I would ask your husband about it first. Let him know you know whats going on. Inform him that you will be contacting her. Contact her and let her know that you will be contacting her husband. This way, if her husband doesnt already know.....you have given her an opportunity to confess to him about it because technically their relationship is none of your business. Perhaps they are swingers and her husband is ok with it. You never know. Your main focus should be your relationship, let them handle theirs the way they want to.

Regardless of if you call her husband or not, I think you should at least confront yours.

Answer 2

Bring it up during a family gathering, and what better than Thanksgiving, everybody there, at the table, and you, the center of attention, surely generating a rather morose pathos. In everyone. Spoil his appetite with the situation, make believe you all conform an actual family where sh*it happens every so often. Then, take it from there, see how everybody REALLY feels. Believe me, if you do it like this, you'll hear some real truth for sure, be it spoken through a whimpering sob or bold and naked expressions choppy with silence. Unless you don't want to hear any of that, of course. Be prepared to be forced to speak the truth as well.

How about something exciting for once, huh...?

Answer 3

My husband is cheating on me with a married woman. Should I contact her husband?

Answer 4

Affairs are funny things, they are seen as both horrible things and yet very romantic at the same time. Two people going against their own families to secretly pursue their "love". That's romantic crap. If two people care for each other they get rid of the obsticles like marriage and find a way to be together all the time and not just for a stolen moment or two. If you can't be a couple in public you aren't a couple.

The wife of the man my wife had an affair with was turning a blind eye to the whole thing. Apparently the guy had had more than one affair in his past. So I made it public and plastered the entire neighborhood with copies of their emails to each other. Nothing kills an affair like a spot light and the wife out of embarrassment had to do something. When my wife realised that even after what I did to bring everything into the open the other man and his wife weren't going to divorce she understood that the fairy tale he was telling her was all just lies. I knew I couldn't compete with a fantasy so I detroyed it and then kicked her out. We were seperated for about a year which gave her plenty of time to figure out what was real and what was fantasy. I've never felt sorry for what I did and my wife knows that. I did what I thought was right for me and I don't care if anyone else agrees with me or not. I may of deliveried the pain, but I wasn't the one to of caused it.

Answer 5

Honey, I am with you on this matter 110%, you can betcha bottom dollar that I would get in touch with her husband and in a heart beat. As you have said, you have the proof that he has been calling her several times a day and for hours at a time. They are not just friends, you yourself have already saw threw that lie and I am proud of you for that.

Had you not known or found out about him cheating on you, would you not want someone to get in touch with you to let you know? Well, I for one do not believe in cheating in any shape, size, or form. So I would want to know if my spouse was cheating on me.

So you pick that phone up and call her husband, hopefully she is not there. And let her husband know what you know and the proof that you have. Or if you know where they live at, I think I would pick a time when I knew that she would not be there and talk to him in person about it and show the proof that you have.

Just remember that once you do this, that heads are going to roll. There are going to be fights and agruments and everything. But I think he has a right to know what his wife is up to. Your husband and his little woman has no respect for their self, or you or her husband. You also have to understand that your husband is not the only one to be blamed here, she is the blame as well.

Both your husband and her are going to get mad at you for letting her husband know about their affair but if they had not been doing what they were doing, none of this would have been happening. Best of wishes to you and Good luck.

Answer 6

When a married person chooses this kind of behavior, it is all out war and you don't have to hold back anything. Everything is fair game. And that husband needs to know and has the right to know, just like you. All this cheating is BS.

Answer 7

Have you talked to your own husband about this? Are you absolutely sure he is having an affair? (I have guy friends I can talk to for hours, and trust me, there are no romantic feelings involved!)
Do you know if the woman and/or the husband of the "married woman" is a "mentally stable" person or not? How will your husband react to your actions? Any chance of unleashing something that will result in unintended consequences that you might not have thought through?
Are there children involved? and are they old enough to be hurt by this?
My best advice is to talk to your husband and then go to counseling, if not with him, then at least by youself as a gift for yourself. I am sure you are hurt and quite angry right now. I know from experience how painful it can be. Best wishes.

Answer 8

Absolutely! I would definitely contact the husband with your phone records and once you've done that, confront your husband with them as well as the woman he is cheating with.

I'm sorry you are going through this.

Answer 9

Phone records are not proof of cheating. It just means he is talking to her. How does he know her? Obviously, you know her as well or you wouldn't know how to contact her husband. I think you're acting very immaturely. You need to ask about the phone conversations he's having insteading of sneaking around yourself. You're no better than he is if you do that.

Answer 10

Nonononononononononononno nonno! That's for him to find out, not for you to make him find out. I love my guy and give him the benefit of doubt. I had a guy who was cheeting on me. We were engaged. I sort of knew it, but I damn sure didn't want some other gal to shove it in my face and make it so I couldn't ignore it. Some people prefer denial. I am not saying it's right, i am saying that's the way it is. Ignorance is bliss. And honestly, like me, he probably already knows. You'll just make him feel stupid anyway, like everyone in the world knows but him. It just isn't a good idea. Also, I am sorry for the pain you must feel... I've been there, and it's really horrible. Try and work through it. Don't be vindictive, fight for the love you had and the trust that may be rebuilt.