im 30 with no kids
2006-11-20 05:20:55 · 16 answers · asked by xuaerya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe you just wasn't any good and now she is free to find a man to satisfy her in bed. Poor cow - fancy dumping her cos of that?? I mean did you talk to her about it , maybe she works hard and is really knackered. If thats the only reason you dumped her and you did love her then I'd say Yes bad move.
2006-11-20 05:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by Katie G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely a bad move. Did u ever try to talk to her and find out 'why' she didn't want sex too often? Does she work and is really tired out, or have extra work at her job and that is stressing her out? When we are stressed to the limits, sex is the last thing on our minds, even tho it would probably help to relieve some of the stress. Sex/making love is NOT everything in a relationship. IF that was the ONLY thing wrong with her, then you are a fool for breaking up with her. This is something that could be worked out/worked on--by BOTH of you. The main thing, which you should have figured out by your age, is that OPEN COMMUNICATION and HONESTY and RESPECT are the main things in a relationship. If you don't have those things, then you WON'T have a good relationship at all. Open communication is the main key to a good relationship. If you can't be open about this, asking her what is up, why she doesn't want sex that often anymore, and figure out what to do, then how do you expect to have a good relationship with anyone else?
If I were you, I would go back to her and talk this out. Maybe the two of you can figure this out and you can learn why she doesn't want it so much. I doubt if she will take you back after your breaking up with her for something sooooooooooo stupid, but at least you can learn something from her and this situation.
2006-11-20 13:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that sex is plays a very very big part in most relationships..what about the other factors..did you guys get along well together,was the vibe there, did she make you laugh, was she there for you when the going got tough..did she mean alot to you..if not then you did the right thing for yourself...if you felt strongly about this person then maybe you should have worked a little harder athe realtionship...you know, try different things to spice of the relationship...often times we give up to easily on the ones we love..and we think that the grass is always greener on the other side..sometimes true and not true....good luck
2006-11-20 13:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They stop wanting sex for a reason. What reason did you give her? Are you not intamate with her during the day? Showing affection, holding hands, kissing, being gernous with emotions? That's what they need. Going to work, ignoring her during the day, and comming home expecting sex, is not the answer.
If you already broke up with her, what's done is done. A woman's sex drive is mostly not automatic. The like intimacy. They want to feel close to you besides in the bedroom. So if you have a lack of time to give her due to work or whatever, that's the issue. It's not the fact that she's seing someone else for her sex.
Us men can get it up, whenever we feel like it. Foreplay? What's that, right? Well, sometimes you need to think about what she's going through emotionally.
2006-11-20 13:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by 35 goodlookinmalefrombalt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait - you broke up with her because she rarely wanted sex? Maybe you need to learn how to please her - then she'd be all over you all the time! No woman I know wants to be nothing more than a booty call - we desire to have a fulfilling relationship! Go ahead and give it another try, but don't put such an emphasis on sex - it's the icing, while your relationship is the cake - God bless and happy holidays!
2006-11-20 13:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are not all about sex. Actually, all sex should only be done after marriage. If you really did love/like her, then yes it was a bad move. It seems that you did love/like her b/c you stayed together for so long. But, if you didn't love/like her, then it wasn't a bad move. Anyway, hope this helped.
2006-11-20 13:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you.
If you were direct and asked her why the sex was less frequent and got your answer than you made a good decision.
If you dumped her without explanation or discussion, who knows?
There is a simple truth in life:
Men have sex to feel loved, women need to feel loved to have sex.
Reflect on this and see if you fulfilled your part of the relationship.
2006-11-20 13:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i say it was a bad move, did you try and bring the romance back? did you by her flowers, rub her back or tell her that you love her. did you cook her a meal or did you buy her a present just because. or maybe you gained a Little wait and your not keeping yourself up start looking at yourself and then see why she was not interested in sex with you. and after you evaluate yourself then go and beg her for your forgiveness and start treating her right
2006-11-20 13:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe but everything happens for a reason. in a few months time u will look back & it will be for the best
2006-11-20 13:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say so... sex should not be everything in a relationship. you are getting at the age now where its going to be harder and harder to find a special someone. i suggest getting back with her and taking what you can get. tell her that you wish she would be more open!
2006-11-20 13:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋