Hi i am 18 yrs old and in my first year of college and have major problems with my bf whom i am engaged too. I was always a decent student throughout highschool but the last year my bf and i started hanging out and cutting school even had a pregnancy scare. Anyway my grades dropped and i failed two classes and was not allowed to walk at graduation. I was offered a chance to make up the gym and math clases i failed online and have till january. I got into 2 four year colleges but chose to go to a 2 year college to figure out what i wanted to do first. I was irresponsible with my writing class and missed 3 classes seeing my bf and had to drop it.I am now focused on passing my 3 remaing classes i am so far.Problem is my bf dropped out of college the first week/has no job and does not understand that i have to study and keeps asking to borrow money that i dont have
2006-11-20 05:20:36 · 10 answers · asked by Jenny R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have yet too also complete my online courses from highschool and am panicking i feel overwhelmed. My mom owns a lanscape company i just started working for her and buisness slows down a lot in the winter. So i only make 69-35 dollars a week maybe and not enough to give him any money.
2006-11-20 05:23:39 · update #1
Do not allow your studies to suffer because your boyfriend does not want to be alone or whatever reason he has. In the future you will kick yourself in the rear if you end up losing out on your educational goals because of him. It will cause resentment and many arguments. Just because he quit his schooling does not mean that he can interfere with your career goals. Tell him politely to go out and find a job and that you are not there to be his banker.
2006-11-20 05:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
College can be the most fun time of your life. Don't waste it on some guy who obviously doesn't appreciate you. Go out, meet new people, travel, do all the things that you will regret later if you don't. I know letting go of someone is hard, but you will be a much better off in the long run - academically, socially, and personally.
2006-11-20 05:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by Amy M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are too young to be engaged! Your social life is a constant distraction to you being a successful adult. Drop the guys and focus on your studies. There's plenty of time for men later, once you are done with school, have a job and are an independent individual.
2006-11-20 05:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In the end, if your life goes down the toilet, who are going to blame? Actually i don't care who you blame, but its YOUR Fault, So get on your horse and get back in the game! You don't have to dump the guy but you need to explain to him the downward spiral your going through right now. If he doenst care, then dump him. Jenny, there is "NO TimeMachine" and at this rate you are gonna have a bummer of a life and you will think back to these days when you made some bad choices. but you can't go back in time! So change things now and going forward before the hole is to deep and you start to regret your life!
2006-11-20 09:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you already know the answer to this one.
Give the ring back.
Tell him that you are in a phase in your life where you have to really concentrate on school because it's very important to you.
Tell him you have no money to lend him... that you wish him well and that if, in a few years, after you've graduated from school, you still find you have something between you, then you'd be happy to look at your relationship then.
You're very smart. You're taking responsibility for your life. Just don't take responsibility for his too.
Good luck and stay in school!!!!
2006-11-20 05:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It appears you have decided to go on different paths.---you are energetic and want a degree, education to a better life style, and something as a career other than flipping burgers at McDonald's......... he is becoming a lazy sob. Think it's time to part, sweetie, and oh, by the way, get back on the pill!!!!! If you get pg, you are facing an abortion or parenthood, neither of which is any fun at your age.......
2006-11-20 05:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my!! Sweetheart---You are too young to be engaged...I am only 24 and I think I am too young to be engaged....If you bf isn't a supporter of everything you want to accomplish in your life---Then he isn't worth being in your life... I hate to tell you...but in a couple of years you are going to ask yourself what you ever saw in this guy... It's ok to have a little fun.... but he doesn't know what he wants to do in life and you are working so hard to get what you want...He is just going to block your path... Good luck to you :)
2006-11-20 05:25:59 · answer #7 · answered by RobbinATL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and hang out with your friends, you and college are way more important than him, you need your education so you an support yourself, if he wants to be a foolish jerk, don't let him take you down with him! Men never change! If he is a jobless looser now he will be in 20 years too!
2006-11-20 05:24:42 · answer #8 · answered by Marcie E 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find someone else. Sounds like this guy has no interest in what you want to do with your life and will continue to be a bum.
2006-11-20 05:28:08 · answer #9 · answered by rowdyrebelgal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not to sound mean....but you sound like you need to get your own life together, don't blame all this on your man. no man abuses you unless you let him.
2006-11-20 05:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋