His jealous attitude is pushing me away. How should I handle this?
2006-11-20 05:11:56 · 24 answers · asked by IslandBabe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't let yourself get pushed away. Pull away and run from this loser.
Jealousy has nothing to do with love but it has all to do with abuse and control. Things will get worse. You didn't say what kids on jealous behavior he's showing but here's a typical dynamic.
He doesn't like you talking with guy friends.
He lightly accuses you or a guy friend of making a move or saying something inappropriate.
He accuses you straight out that you're cheating on him and makes you plead your innocence.
He talks down on your female friends and encourages you to spend less time with them.
He does the same with your family members.
He isolates you from your friends and has you convinced that since every one else doesn't want to be around you, then he's the only one who loves you.
He has you to himself and is free to treat you like trash and continue to accuse you of fooling around.
You deserve better. I don't know where you are on my dynamics list but it is not too late to protect yourself and leave his immature butt in the dirt.
2006-11-20 05:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him know what you think and how you feel in no uncertain terms.
If he continues to push you away then move on.
The problem with jealous and possessive types is the propensity for abuse as things progress.
You sound as though you enjoy a level of security and comfort with yourself that he lacks.
People can and do change, BUT relationships with insecure types are fraught with a lot of high maintenance drama you're better off avoiding if it's going to be a 'life sentence.'
2006-11-20 05:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask him why he feels this way? The man I'm currently seeing is doubtful and jealous, however, he's explained that the reason he feels this way is because his last gf of 4 years cheated on him. I just assured him that I am not her and would never do something like that. That has seemed to help. Normally, people with insecurities just need reassurance. If he gets irate or physical, it's time to let it go.
2006-11-20 05:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by Princesa Morenita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 09:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. His jealousy will only get worse, and possibly abusive. I don't see where there is any way that you can convince him of your loyalty to him when you are already loyal and honest with him and yet he still is convinced that perhaps your not. You can find someone else that will trust you because you CAN be trusted. Let someone else deal with this one........... you deserve better treatment. Besides, it has been told that the one that acts this way is usually the one cheating in some cases, but in this case, he has been burned by another woman and never dealt with it like he should have and has it in his mind that all woman are cheaters and liars. You don't need this in your life. I would let him go to find himself and realize that not ALL woman are like that, just like not ALL men are like that either. Blessed be.....
2006-11-20 05:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run and run now he is a control freak, and he is gonna make sure that you don't be around your family and friends just wait and see it starts with the jealous little shi!t then he starts to blame your friends then your family and the next thing you know your in a verbal or physical abusive relationship run and run know, it's gonna get worst get out know. you already see the signs that's why you are reaching out follow your instincts and leave him alone. if you have brothers or cousins (male) maybe you can ask them to tell him to back off if not get an order of protection. good luck
2006-11-20 05:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my bff had the same problem i gave her this advise talk to him as calimly as possible telling him that u have friends that are guys and that they chill with you as much as they possible can tell him that if they were ever to touch u or any thing like that u will tell him as soon as posslible if he dosen't understand that then make sure u tell him that u would never ever do any thing like cheating or trying "something" new just explian the best way u can if he don't get it he's just trying to put u on a chain that he don't want u to break it or make it longer ( my bff didn't take this advise and her bf broke up wit her)
2006-11-20 05:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by sparks3192 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. The only thing you can do is try to talk to him. But he sounds very controlling which is a sign of a abusive relationship, maybe the best thing to do if he can not change is to leave ASAP
2006-11-20 05:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by KerryAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should handle it at all. Get out while you can. His kind of personality type does not make for a good, lasting relationship.
2006-11-20 05:14:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jacinda 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you if he has a trust issue with women, it does not matter what you do, what you say or even how hard you try he will never ever trust you. If he is willing to get professional help I would say there may be a chance. I wish you the best of luck. If he is to the point of getting physical with you, please, please get out before it is to late.
2006-11-20 05:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by txflowerblossom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋