If yes, how did you get out of it? Are you still in it. What organizations can I get information from to get out of an abusive relationship.
2006-11-20 05:00:56 · 11 answers · asked by courage 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
http://teenadvice.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?zi=1/XJ/Ya&sdn=teenadvice&cdn=teens&tm=11&gps=164_4_1020_494&f=00&tt=14&bt=1&bts=1&zu=http%3A//www.glnh.org/home.htm This is a website that has the national gay & lesbian hotline. You can call them & they'll give you the recources you need. Tell you who can help you in your area. Good luck. I've been in an abusive relationship myself. I ended up moving in with my mom. I was lucky because she moved before my boyfriend knew where she went. We were in a relationship for 5yrs & lived together. He would beat me If I said something he didn't like or if I forgot to do something he wanted. I used to think that I deserved the abuse because I made him mad. I realize now I never did anything wrong. He manipulated me, held things against me, & even got me to believe that no one else would want me if I left. I got out because my mom came to visit & saw my left eye was lazy and droopy from him hitting me the year before. She hadn't seen me in all that time & couldn't believe I didn't tell her. I was so messed up then with no self esteem so I never really looked in the mirror to really see this was a terrible injury. When she was looking at me I didn't even think about it till then. I broke down & cried & told her everything. That night my boyfriend was coming home & he was suposed to have dinner with us. I ended up getting a moving company to move my stuff that afternoon. When he came home I was gone with all my stuff & I left him a note that said " I'm not in love with you anymore & I'm not going to put up with your abuse any longer." Exactly those words nothing more. It was only 2 months before the lease was up & my mom helped me pay my last 2 months rent to the landlord. He called my job making numerous threats & I was so scared. He would sit in his car across the street sometimes waiting for me to leave. Everytime I left work for about 2 months I would have my sister pick me up in the back of the salon I worked. I never went straight home because I was always afraid he would follow me. After about 2 months it finally stopped. No more threatening phone calls or obsessive behavior. I don't think I am fully recovered from it. I haven't had a boyfriend since because I've been afraid. It's been 3 yrs since all that mess & I'm still looking over my shoulder. Ofcourse I've hooked up since then & I've dated but I've usually broken it off before it got serious. Call these people and get some help. They have the recources for you. You can email me if you want someone to talk to. I've had surgery on my eye but it's still not exactly perfect. Hope that never happens to you. God bless you honey. Hope you get out. Love Ida
2006-11-20 06:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ida 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My first boyfriend was verbally abusive. I just flat out dumped him after putting up with it for too long. I mean, i fell into all the stereotypical traps "when it's bad it's bad, but when it's good it's SOOooo good", "he still loves me". i just decided that enough was enough. There are other fish in the sea. Can't help you with organizations, but there are LGBT support centers, and most heterosexual abusive relationship advice should apply to homosexual couples as well.
2006-11-20 06:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by Wanderer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT OF THERE! Just do it. Hide if you have to. Call the police if you have to. If money is a problem, save it up or even borrow. Close any accounts in common immediately. Change you e-mail & any passwords you may have had immediately. If it's too dangerous, just abandon your stuff if you have to. The things we are used to are all easily replaced.
Your life is your own to do with as you choose.
No one has to stay & take it - there are lots of lonely decent people who are interested in a partner and who know how to treat a partner as a friend - with kindness, dignity & respect.
Good Luck!
;-)
2006-11-20 06:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by WikiJo 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No never been in a relationship that was abusive.
I was gang raped by 7 guys as a 9 year old child and I promised myself then never again to be hurt by a man. If a man can't treat me right he has no right to be with me.
2006-11-20 06:08:59 · answer #4 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I haven't been in a GAY abusive relationship, But I have been in a psycological abusive one.
And at some point you have to find the strenghth within your self to actually leave. That is the first step[ .i didn't go into a shelter, but I did spena lot of time hiding at my friends house's.
I would find friends he didn't know about, so he couldn't just show up, or call. He baisically couldn't find me at all. then he eventually just stopped trying.
It's hard to just let go, exspecially if you deeply care for him. But if you don't take care of yourself, Who will?
I believe you have the strenghth. You just need to find it. Good Luck, and take care of yourself buddy.
2006-11-20 05:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by danksprite420 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-21 23:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Domestic violence is as much a problem in the gay community as in the hetero community. Call your local domestic violence shelter for help. They are very much aware of the problem and you should be treated with the same dignity and respect of anyone who has this problem.
Good luck to you.
Peace.
If you cannot locate a shelter or agency in your area, do a blind/blind message through the Yahoo server. You'll see on my page where I allow it.
2006-11-20 05:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in a emotionally abusive lesbian relationship that took me 2 yrs to successfully pull out of. I went to counseling & depended heavily on my friends for strong support. It isn't an easy pattern to break but once you've decided within yourself that you've had enough & that you're worth more...you can do damn near anything.
2006-11-20 05:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i haven't but I'm sure your local gay community center will be able to give you some direction . if you don't live in a community that has one find one in the closest big city to you
2006-11-20 05:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ron N 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-20 05:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋