how to tell my mom that im...?

Question

okay heres the issue, im 16 and 3months pregnant, i dont know how to tell my mom, she will be so hurt, but i also know that she would help me. my boyfriend already told his mom, and his mom is kool, i just know how to tell her, i have to tell her soon, because im already showing a lil bit, and im skinny so u can tell, so can somebody give me some advice on telling my mom and family?

Answer 1

well sweetie, i went through a very similar situation. i was 17 at the end of my senior year of high school when i found out i was pregnant. i was about 2 - 3 months along before i told my parents too. it was very hard for me to tell my parents cause i knew how upset that they would be and i didn't know if i could handle how upset they would be. i think you may want to tell which ever parent will handle it better first. i also think the guy that got you pregnant, if he is a boyfriend and is still with you then he should be there to talk to your parents with you. i know it's hard but once you talk to them you all may cry a little but then you get past and your parents will help you. being a parent now myself for 3 years, i can look at my daughter and know that no matter what stupid mistakes she will make in her life i will never be able to just walk away. i love my little girl and no matter what i will be by her side and work things out with her the best i can. i know i don't have the experience of being a mom to a teenager yet, but i know how a mother feels about their children and i would do anything to protect my daughter and take care of her. us mothers love unconditionally and when we say that we mean it. there is no love like a mother's love. good luck hun, and let me know what happens. keep in touch. you can email me at [e-mail] too if you would like to just talk cause i know what it's like to go through this. hope all goes well with your mom!

Answer 2

Wow not an easy thing to do. I also had to tell my mom that very same thing however I was a little older than you are. I was just days from being 18 but it's not easy to do when you're still living at home. Now that I'm 36 and have a daughter that is almost 16 I think of it differently. Sit her down and be honest with her. Do you know yet what you want to do? Know that this will change your world in ways that you just can not comprend right now. Think of all your options and ask your mother for her advise on what to do. I don't know if you have that type of relationship with her or now. I didn't. But I think my daughter and I do now. Good Luck I wish you happiness and peace in your life.

Answer 3

Okay, this is one of those things you can't put off. The holidays are coming, so this may be a joyous thing.
Although, tell your mom a few days before, so she has time to let the news soak in. Let her know that your boyfriend and his family plans on supporting you.
Your luckier than most people in your situation, so just sit her down and tell her. I can't tell you exactly what to say because I don't know her. I garauntee this will go better than you think.
If you think she will be understanding, then tell her soon. Think how amazng it can be for everyone to celebrate a new little one coming for the holidays.

Answer 4

I am sorry for your situation. I know how hard it is and how much your life is about to change. A mothers support, or any parents support, is imparative to coming up on top.

I would sit your mom down and tell her. Just tell her up front, be honest and open about it. Have your boyfriend there as well for support. Chances are she will be mad at first, but at the end of the day she is your momma and she loves you. If you think chocolate or tea will soften the blow....then include it. Get some chocolate cake or drink tea together to talk about it.

It will be hard, but remember she is your momma. She does love you. You love her.

I wish you luck dear.

Answer 5

I think it would be very mature for you AND your boyfriend to be there when you sit her down and talk to her. You can't change her reaction, but you can ease her mind about it if she knows that your boyfriend is supporting you, and that you have a game plan. Do you plan on keeping the baby? If so, you and your guy need to sit and talk about what your plans are....will he get a job, insurance...will you graduate? I know these may sound far away...but time creeps up on you when things like this happens. The same thing happened to me, and my mom was eased with the fact that I had been to the doctor, my boyfriend was paying for it, and I would graduate no matter what. Good luck to you and your baby.

Answer 6

She is going to be hurt, she is going to be upset.
However, if you KNOW what YOU (not you and your lover, just you) want to do with the baby, adoption, abortion, keep (hey, it's a HARD choice), then be strong. I wouldn't spring it on the whole family, all at once, though. I would suggest sitting down with your Mother and she may lecture, freak, yell, cry, anything. However, since it is your body, your choices, you must be strong. Do not expect her to "be cool" or want to raise the baby for you. She might, she might not. Well, I hope you the best, and think really hard about what you want for you, your future and your baby. Be healthy.

Answer 7

sit down with her and tell her that you have to tell her someting that you know is going to disippoint her and probbily hurt her because you know that she wants to be proud about you. but you made a mistake and it will realy make it easyer for both of you if she would try to not freek out but try to think and know that you do not expekt her to be all happy about it. but to try and exept it because it is not gonne chage... then tell her that you love her and then brake the news.... she is gonne be a bit freeked out. but prepair yourself and no matter what she says out of anger or hurt try keep quiet...time will heel the hurt and give her some seport to exept this. and show her that you can handel this in a mature way becaus yelling back and show that you feel sorry for yourself will show that you are not mature enouth to handel a child. i wish you all the luck and that she will exept quik because this is a very emotional time for you and both your mom. good luck. remember your mom is just as spesial as your unborn babby.

Answer 8

If you yhink your mom is going to freak out, get some family members together and tell them all at once, with your boyfriend present. This way your mom can't get that upset with you. Good Luck Baby!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

b4 u tell her make a plan.r u keeping the baby or giving it up for adoption? how r u going to go to school? how will u support the baby? what role is your boyfriend going to play? how will he support the baby? is your current insurance going to pay for maternity care and birth? right now u should already be visiting the dr and taking prenatal pills. than u go and tell your mom. please remember she may yell at u and cry out of anger. when i was a teen, one of my friends mother actually called her a who**l. told her she wished she was never born.

so prepare yourself for a response that can be anything from a slap to name calling to crying.

Answer 10

I had to tell my mom n dad and my boyfriends parrents that i was pregnant. believe me i was terrified. Just take her aside n tell her u have to tell her something. Just say im sorry but u know im pregnant. She prolly will be hurt but ur her litle girl and she'll be there for you. She'll be more hurt if you dont tell her baout before she hears it f orm someone else. Just be bold and brave..she'll understand.