2006-11-20 04:53:53 · 11 answers · asked by Baby J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hard to tell even if he's treating you well. Men in general (esp men under 35) don't really think about getting married like women do. You might have to do some hint dropping or ask him his opinions on marriage and if he thinks he might want to get married or have kids someday. If you're really brave you might ask WHEN he thinks that might be...Another good thing to try is solicit his friends or family members opinions, if you have that sort of relationship with them. Find out from them if he's ever broached the topic of marriage re:marrying you.
Men usually take a long time deciding if a woman they've been with for a while is right for them. They tend think about it from a financial standpoint or if the girlfriend is very successful and independent, they may think, "Why get married; she doesn't need me" even if the realtionship is good.
Him initiating sharing a chequing acct or buying a house together is not a sign he wants to marry you either. It actually may be a cop out. I know many couples who did that and later broke up and marriage was never even considered (even though the girl secretly wanted it).
Whatever you do don't ever seem desperate--and don't let him make you wait more than 3 more years if you're over 26!
2006-11-20 05:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by Gilos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters, he will ask. You aren't married yet so there may still be time to save you. Listen very carefully:
If the man you are with is not showering you with affection, communicating to you his needs, listening and responding to your needs, if you don't get along with his family or vice versa, if he has any habits that you don't like (porn, drinking, drugs, smoking, friends ANY), if he can't hold a job, if your life goals are different (he wants to join the military and you don't want him to, you want to be an actress he doesn't want you to pursue that) etc. etc.etc. Then don't marry him. You will not change him now or ever and you will end up like all of these other people having affairs, wanting affairs.
2006-11-20 06:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by 1973kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to answer this is by actually communicating with your boyfriend...You both have to see where you want to go with your life...If you're both in the same page with marriage...Then it's something that you both need to discuss now and find out if you're both the right person for each other...Trust me marriage is not an easy thing...
Good luck.
2006-11-20 04:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by $&$& 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know because over the last year or two of exclusive, serious dating, you have talked about marriage, children, future goals, family, careers, and where you want to be in life.
2006-11-20 04:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is an honorable man , he would ask your father before even beginning to court you. His intention would be marraige from the beginning. If it's not, what are you doing?
"Love is not something you sell by giving away free samples." (from the movie Come September)
2006-11-20 05:06:52 · answer #5 · answered by BaseballGrrl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go shopping in the mall and when you walk past the jewelers displaying engagement rings, browse them with him and see his reaction?
2006-11-20 04:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by mikey the pikey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He proposes to you within 6 months of dating, or sooner.
2006-11-20 05:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have the same goals.. and wishes for your future life..
like wanting to live in the same area.. kids and all that stuff
2006-11-20 04:58:35 · answer #8 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will know if he askes u to marry him or if he treats u well and if he starts talking about children.
2006-11-20 04:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by funnybudy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will ask you to marry him.
2006-11-20 04:54:53 · answer #10 · answered by Patti T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋