2006-11-20 04:51:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I don't really know of any 11 year old who loves anyone at that age. I guess it depends on why she is mad at you. Have you been out of her life? Does she resent your boyfriend? This sounds like it needs more investigation.
2006-11-20 05:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by Deana S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,your daughter does not hate you.You are interpreting her acting out as "hate".She may feel like your boyfriend is replacing her.She may need attention from you,so she acts out even if it only gains negative attention,to get your attention.Also,invite her when you and your boyfriend go out.Even if she refuses,leave that option up to her,and dont tell her that she cannot go with you.Include her in activities,and set time aside each week,for her and you alone.Go to the mall(That can be a plus,because it will give you a general idea as to what she likes,and that helps with Christmas shopping),go to dinner,go to a movie together.There are many ideas as to things you can do with her.Set aside one day of the week for her.It is hard with such busy schedules but,you should never be too busy for your daughter.Communication is important between a parents and their child(ren).As there are many parents,who are so uninvolved with their childs life,and alot of those children look for the attention else where.She is going to be transitioning from a "little girl" to a "Young woman" soon,she is eleven and you should really consider enjoying this time with her.This time in her life,not just at eleven,but throughout her teen years are going to be rough for her.She needs you,and she needs your attention and time.If you communicate now,and know that you can each speak open and freely to each other without fear of getting in trouble,or fear of being judged.She is your daughter,but that doesnt mean she cant speak about her feelings to you.Once that communication is there,it doesnt go away.It will be there throughout her teen years,and into adulthood.I am sure you would rather she have information from you,instead of looking for it from her peers.Just include her hun,and then she will begin to open up and allow you in.She will begin to talk to you,and she will speak about why she is so angry.Good luck hun,and have a good evening.
2006-11-20 14:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by ~♡~Moon Goddess~♡~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing when I was 12. My mom met her bf and I DID NOT like him. I still don't like him. First of all, she didn't give me the attention she used to give me. Secondly, there was a negative vibe I got from him. Lastly, we all moved into the same house and I realized why i got the negative vibe from him He was a very nasty person. Argued all day loooong. I almost hated my mom for getting an apartment with him. Up until this day, they're still together and i still don't like him. Oh ya and I'm 28 now...still love my mom though!
Good luck.
Remember always put your daughter first!
2006-11-20 13:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by brooklynchyck808 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs your attention. Before the boyfriend showed up - she had all of your attention - now she has nothing, no wonder she hates you. You need to learn how to keep her happy and have a life. She also needs to understand why you're doing what you're doing.
2006-11-20 15:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 11 years of age....She needs you very much!..You should double check your self and make sure SHE is coming first in your life and not your boyfriend....Then you should sit down with her (just her and you) and talk about what is going on...And listen "really listen" to her....Acknowledge her feelings as being "real" (because they are to her) and see what can be done to help this situation out....Maybe you guys are being too hard or too easy on her....And maybe she just doesn't like the "boyfriend" situation with you....Put her first and you will not go wrong....
2006-11-20 13:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Chances are she does not hate you. Is your boyfriend new? Has there been a recent change in her life? Your question is a wee bit vague for any real answer.
2006-11-20 14:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who doesn't hate their parent's boyfriend/girlfriend?
Maybe if you put more detail I might be able to help, but seeing as you provided little detail I can't do that.
2006-11-20 17:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter told her father that it was either me or the girlfriend. he chose the girlfriend and she packed and moved in with me. The girlfriend is now gone and all have made up!
2006-11-20 15:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the responsibilty of ure daughter, my friend its ure life condition which has made u to think like that.prasy for her and speak to her directly about it, in this young age hatred is not good, it may spoil her life.
2006-11-21 01:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by Creative zest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course she does. Where is her father? Is he absent? How is her relationship with him? You are to make her #1. Mom 1st. This is a tough age for girls and she needs you.
2006-11-21 10:41:40 · answer #10 · answered by ♥monamarie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋