I really don't know what to do anymore i just always avoid it when he wants to and i always annoy him because i never ever want to, we have sex like once every 2 weeks at a push and i just feel like something must be wrong with me normally with past boyfriends i've been really keen, he is my longest relationship by two months does that mean anything?... im just so confused about it, its just not like me!!! HELP! xx
2006-11-20 04:47:40 · 34 answers · asked by princessbicknell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's not physical I believe it sounds like a more mental. Judging by the fact that you did not experience this problem with your ex b/f's I am guessing that it has more to do with your relationship with your current b/f. It could be just a simple fact that you don't love him anymore? Remember when you first go out with someone, you are so keen to "do it" with them when the time is right? Maybe your relationship with your current b/f has gone stale. And I bet if you find another b/f you will go back to enjoying sex again.
2006-11-20 04:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by Wibble 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't start thinking there is something wrong with you. I'm not saying there is nothing wrong, but for some people this is normal, while others go at each other 3-4 times a day. Being pressured into having sex can be the reason. You may not be relaxed enough, or you don't feel right about having sex with this person. Sex without love is just sex, and not that fun. Rushing into it can be the worst thing too. I would suggest you get a book on the finer aspects of love making, and have your partner read it too. If things are rushed, and you are not ready, you will not get enjoyment out of the act. This can turn anyone against it. If and when you do this with the right person, and everything is done properly, you will have a very different view on the whole subject. I think you are having some reservations about having sex with a boyfriend, because this is what he wants to do, and it sounds like he doesn't do things right to begin with. I really think you are having sex just to be doing it, and where is the love? When you meet the right person, you will know it, and you will have some desires come alive in your body that these other guys have not been able to arrouse. The difference is; you are having sex, you are NOT making love. There is a big difference!!! Stop having sex with all your boyfriends, and find someone you love to share these feelings with. Someone you really want to do this with, and someone who is eager to please you, and not just themselves.
I hope this helps. Good Luck!!!
2006-11-20 05:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found out the wromg way but it is better when you get married and committed, in a loving relationship. People often treat sex like it is a hobby or a sport, but wrong. People will use you like you are a drug and look for a better drug. The best thing is to do is ....wait. I know it doesn't sound like what everyone else is but it is the truth and the natural way to treat sex. Learn to find a man that has feelings, morals, who cares deeply about what you are into and doesn't just tell you things so he can have his needs met, but that both of you have the same needs, going the same way in life. Learn to be friends with people and set your boundaries on such things. Even I as a guy, raised mostly around women, feel I have been used to much and need to have more self-respect. I have a great woman now, but only by being her best friend and talking alot about my feelings, which may come out in having sex.
2006-11-20 05:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by Frank P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i didn't like sex from age 19 when i lost my v until i was 22. you have to be in the right relationship with a good guy and NOT FEEL PRESSURED!!! i learned that the hard way, unfortunately.
no, long relationships don't necessarily mean the best ones. again, i was in a really bad bad relationship with horrible sex, horrible everything for 2 years because i just didn't know that i had the right to get out of it. Now i choose to be the a guy that treats me right, and the sex is great, and we've been dating for 6 months, maybe less.
2006-11-20 04:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I had the same problem. For me, the reason that I didn't want to have sex was because he was a loser. He was a sweet guy, but had no job, and no dreams. After a while it just got old and I knew that I deserved much better. Maybe there are some things about this guy that you just don't like, and maybe you feel like hes not worthy of your sex. Take some time to think about why you don't want to be intimate with him. You could just be bored, or maybe you don't like him as much as you use to.
2006-11-20 05:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by Cuteness 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
slow down if all he wants from you is sex then its no wonder you dont want it. think about this when was the last time he romanced you? does he do anything to make you feel special? woman are not just objects, they have feelings too and so many men forget that, tell him that he has to put you in the mood your not just there for sex he has to be nice and sweet and romantic, hey guys out there, find out what turns your woman on (not just sexually either) and do it for her (even if you hate it) shopping, movies, cuddling on the couch, read her some poetry(or write her some it doesnt have to be good just from the heart)
2006-11-20 04:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by benjamin b 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2016-10-04 04:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by boland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..do you love him..I first started having sex when I was 17..with my high school sweet heart..we were together for 2 years...and I wish that I had waited..now that I am 29 I see the big picture..its sometimes not wort it..I am glad though that you are having these feelings..maybe you are feeling like theres more to life than sex..or maybe you are not attracted to him as much...as you get older you will realize that sex is not everything...try to hold out for as long as you can..if thats what you want..only you know how you feel and what you would like your next step to be
2006-11-20 04:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nothing is wrong with you, just you are young, have sex is an experience for what you need to be prepare, both of you, is not like there we are and just have a sexual penetration.Sex is much more than that, unfortunately young men (most of them) doesn't know how to turn on a girl...they just want to satisfy their instincts, if you love him and like him and have desires for him, let him know that girls need more time to be prepare, sex needs a preamble, kisses, erogenous zones to be touched, all kind of things that makes you to want it...now if he doesn't know how t do it....just tell him that learn that ....
2006-11-20 04:56:12 · answer #9 · answered by lovetoyou 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like the chemistry with this guy is just not working if you have not felt the same way with previous people. I guess it depends how important it is to you to continue with this relationship. If he is the same age, he probably won't last long if you continue to not have any interest, so you might be better to end it now and remain friends.
2006-11-20 04:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by auskan2002 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋