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In the midst of anger, do we say things we really don't mean? Or do we actually speak the truth? What is your true opinion? Thanks!!!

Answer 1

In anger, we say things that we mean at the time, so they are truths. Once the anger is passed, usually the truth we spoke is no longer valid therefore no longer true.

Answer 2

In my opinion, in the midst of anger, most people say things that they feel are truthful, yet are hurtful. Most folks hold in those hurtful feelings and strike out when they are hurting or fearful.

Sometimes it can be a start of an all new healing, but sadly and most of the time it puts a barrier between the feuding parties, and end up being something they regret they ever said / mentioned.

Answer 3

I believe that you can both say things that you mean and don't mean in the midst of anger. First, we must ask what is truth. If I say what is on my mind, does that make it true? If I say nice things to you does that make it true? If I say harmful or hurtful things to you does that make them true, or mean I want to cause harm to you? For example, if I say that I can't stand you and that I hate you in a fit of rage does that actually mean I can't stand you? Well, if I am a friend of yours who spends lots of time with you then obviously that is probably what that person is truly feeling at that moment, but that doesn't mean that is the way they feel about you all of the time. But what if I say something about you that I know or hope will hurt your feelings. For instance, what if I said, "I hope they make food stamps six feet tall so that you'll have to walk with jokers to store," just to offend you because the current opinion of people on food stamps may be one thing and I want to capitalize on that. Does that mean that I truthfully care about you being on food stamps. The point is that people often do all sorts of things in the midst of anger, and rarely does it ever make sense. I believe that evaluating a persons true intentions or even discerning the truth from falsehoods is just as hard to tell in the midst of anger as it is during moments of happiness.

Answer 4

In the midst of anger, we say things that will hurt. If you look at an angry exchange with the metaphor of a fist fight... two guys can physically fight, mean to hurt each other, and yet the desire to punch may go away.

It's not truth, it's a weapon.

Answer 5

I say it is a little of both. We say things that we don't necessarily mean to be hurtful, however depending on the situation or the issue you have with that person things that have happened that have eaten away at us come out in an angry or mean way. They may be spoken from our own truth because we were hurt but they way that they come out is what we usually feel bad about the most.

Answer 6

It is a mixture of both but I truly believe we speak the truth of how we feel at that moment Saying I hate you to my husband at that moment I do I am angry we have both said hateful things at that particular moment I probably do hate him Do I regret it after the fact yes. Do I mean it later no Its a catch 22 The best choice is to always try to control hateful words because all the apologizing does not take it away once it passes the lips it will not ever be forgotten maybe forgiven but never never forgotten

Answer 7

I think there is at least a grain of truth in anything we say in anger. However, circumstances change. For example, if I am so mad that I say "I hate you" that may mean simply IN THAT MOMENT I feel hate. The hate may later dissipate. Better to not say it at all, though because words are like feathers in the wind. They take off on their own and can't be retrieved even when you wish you hadn't said them.

Answer 8

A good question.

I think that we actually speak the truth as we see it. Of course, that truth, in anger, is not tempered by kindness & so can come out in a very hurtful way.

Answer 9

I think anger is something we must try to avoid. Getting angry is easy. But trying to avoid it really requires an effort. (Practice makes perfect though).
I sometimes REGRET things that I've said when I was angry. And I feel so much better when I avoid anger and I look at the situations differently and the world is so much frendlier.
That's my really sincere appinion.
Peace! Love!

Answer 10

In the heat of anger, I believe the things we say are true, but we regret saying them, since they are usually hurtful. It's sometimes hard, but one should try to keep a cool head if possible, and think before saying things that cannot be unsaid.