How do you know if your partner is cheating?

Answer 1

A couple of signs.

Lots of late work at the office, but no extra money to support it.

Furtive calls that don't last too long.

A sudden desire to trim up and update the wardrobe, especially the use of colognes.

An "exhaustion" to have sex.

Answer 2

Some answers so far are good, except the first one. If you have to ask, then he's cheating? That's just stupid. As a STRAIGHT GUY, sorry answerer number 1, I know that we sometimes need our space. Our women can sometimes make a situation stifling. We could just be driving around, or walking in a mall, thinking about our women, our relationships, or even our favourite sport teams. I honestly would make him a nice dinner if I were you. Make it romantic. If he still feels distant to you, there could be a problem. If he's into it, and you're his whole focus, then jump for joy. If not, just ask him what is wrong. Be prepared for something you don't want to hear, but be ready and willing to change yourself to suit him, as he has to do to suit you. Relationships are work, and if you really love your partner, you'll put in the time.

Answer 3

reduced sex drive.

your partner will seem withdrawn, less interest in you, won't talk to you as much as before.

will avoid eye contact.

will develop new interests or hobbies. Will mention a new friend that he visits with more frequency, such as after work or on weekends.

Will make an excuse to go visit someone... and it is always someone you don't know, or it is just someone from work.

Begins to work late or on weekends.

Change in routine or work schedule.

Won't do the things that he did before, such as buy you gifts or flowers, or call you during the day.

Look at credit card statements. If you see hotel or motel charges... you have a serious problem. If you see charges at restaurants or bars, web sites.... red flag. Keep a log of the places and friends he says he is visiting, and mark the time and date. Look at the credit card statement. Sometimes the charge dates will conflict with where he said he was going.

Look at the phone bill.. especially the cell phone. If he is calling a number repeatedly, you might have a problem. Look at the times of the calls... these too might correspond with the time when he said he was visiting a friend or staying late at work.

It sucks, I know. You have to look for evidence. When you find evidence, confront him with it.

Answer 4

Sometimes when you think you know.. you really don't .. sometimes its your own insecurities.. sometimes they are falling out of love with you... they are upset with you... they hate their job... etc...

some signs to look for would be

being cold to you as if your not really their partner your just there

not calling as often as they used to

when on the phone calls seem to get shorter

they really don't care to be intimate with you

they don't talk on their phone if front of you anymore

when you ask them questions, they down right get DEFENSIVE

they become bitter

they are not sensitive to your feelings anymore

they don't want to spend the time they used to with you

I wish you the best of luck.. sometimes you just don't know until you actually trully find out by someone.. you catch them cheating.. etc... which is by far the crappiest way to have to deal with a breakup... but most people out there are not man/woman enough to breakup with a person before they cheat.. they are selfish and fullfill their desires first instead of looking to see how you would feel or if you would be hurt by the situation :) good luck!

Answer 5

If you suspect something is up, it probably is...

Watch the body language. When he is with you does he look in your face and make eye contact or is he always looking somewhere else? Are his arms and legs pulled in close to his body in a defensive posture, or are they open and relaxed?

Has he:
started bathing more often?
bought new clothes?
pays more attention to shaving and brushing his teeth?
combing his hair?
growing facial hair or suddenly cut off what he had?
keeping the car or truck spotless?
going out with friends or staying late at work?
offering to go to the store for you more often?
finding more reasons to leave the house?
are you getting people that hangup when you answer the phone?
does he want more or less sex than usual?
has his sexual techniques changed recently?
do you know where all the money is going?
does he find reasons not to take you out to eat or whatever?

One final thing... Men will sometimes try to pick a really bad fight with you so that you will either end the relationship or throw him out. That way he doesn't have to feel guilty about going to the other woman. He can say YOU did it. So if it seems like he is picking fights for no or stupid reasons, beware!

Answer 6

Im not sure if their is a easy way of knowing if they are cheating or not. You could try to set them up, and test them to see if their cheating on you. If they fail, then their probably not faithful to you. Why are you in a relationship where you feel someone maybe cheating. If you can't trust the person, then you should not go out with them in the first place. I don't think its worth it to be in a relationship that you feel you can trust them.

Answer 7

I had a sinking feeling my spouse was cheating, though I trusted him and honestly thought he'd never do that to me. But he had constant mood swings, wasn't excited to do things alone with me, lost weight, started taking a little more care in getting ready for work. Sometimes he'd call that he was working late. He started deleting calls from his cell phone. I confronted him, and he denied doing anything, but admitted to not being happy. I was close to following him, and then he called one night after her husband caught them. He was getting the vibes as well. I think if you go home today and make everything all nice for them, don't argue about anything, have everything clean and dinner ready. If the nicer you are to him, the worse he is to you, you'll know something. I swear, my friend's priest told her to do this on a Sunday and she said by Wednesday her husband was horrible to her. And I noticed it with my own husband as well.

I'm so very sorry for you. It's a horrible painful experience. I"m trying to work it out with my spouse. He's confessed to everything and we are in counseling, but the trust is something I think you never get back.

Answer 8

are they suddenly working later, or out of town when they never did before, do they pick fights with you, or name call, or do they find falt with everything about u. do they go into a different room to talk on the phone, are they uninterested in things, that u and he use to do before. suddenly is he unsupportive or claim he has no money at all. does it feel as if they are really not in your life anymore? what does your intuition tell you? do u feel as if something is wrong, but can't put your finger on it. does he take more showers, or go buy new clothing when he denies u things? than suddenly there are no more fights and he gets real nice to u, means he is ready to leave u, that he has made up his mind. best to get to the bottom of it and stop wandering about it. best to know for sure.

Answer 9

If you know your partner you shold notice changes in his attitude, is very clear when someone is cheatting on you, the better way to know...just ask him clearly, and let him know that you know something is wrong...dont be afraid to talk or say something, a good conversation at the begining can save a relationship

Answer 10

I know this isn't an answer but I just feel that i need to respond to this. I hate your answers because of all the signs being present in my relationship.But he swears up and down he isn't, I believe him for a second then the phone rings,he has to leave,stays gone all night,won't talk on his phone in front of me,won't let me go anywhere with him, on and on I confront him and he swears hes not cheating. But deep down i really think he is.Can they lie so wel and look you in the eyes during sex and all and be lying to you too?