Should Bi people be shunned to hell? Is being Bi that bad?

Question

I just want to know. Because i recently told a person i trusted that I was bi. She went and told my best friend..who now ignores me, this hurt me very deeply. There were times that i didn't even want to get out of bed. And my mom's really not helping, she knows but she denies it, if i ever actually come out to her, she'll throw me out of the house. I have some friends at school that support me, (mainly because my school is basically a school for gay and bi people) but there were more friends that left than supported me, and i feel like everyone hates me now. ecspecially my mom. So is it really that bad..being bi?

Answer 1

First of all, congratulations on being brave enough to come out to someone you liked and trusted. That takes courage. Second of all, I'm so happy that you're lucky enough to go to a school that has a significant LGBT population. This should make your time at school a lot easier.

Second of all, NO ONE is going to be damned to hell for their sexuality. No one. Ever. Just forget that. I am a Christian (straight but not narrow) and I completely don't believe that a person's inborn, innate sexuality can condemn them. This makes no sense. It's people who condemn other people, and this is wrong, but it comes from fear and lack of understanding.

It's what you do with your sexuality and your life that matters. Make good and ethical choices. That means treat others like you want to be treated. Don't use people. Love people. Don't spread your sexuality around with just anyone. Be with people who treat you right, and that you have respect and affection for. And that's good advice no matter what your orientation is.

I think your real question isn't about biblical or religious condemnation, but about social condemnation. It's a hard, hard thing, I'm sure, to be LGBT. But you are you, and this is how you are. I think your main problems are with your mom and your friend. I think your mom loves you but doesn't understand you, and she's fearful about what she doesn't understand. And I'm sure she also knows that it's dangerous to be gay or bi. People get beat up and killed, shunned and fired from jobs. Everyone knows the Matthew Shepherd story, or they should.

Just keep being yourself. Keep talking to your mom. She should go to PFLAG, and get some more information. I'm glad you have friends at school who support you.

Good luck to you. I wish you the best. :)

Cheers, K

Answer 2

Well, it seams like jsut anout every girl is BI these days, or wants to be, or wants to try it. Some stick with it, some only like 3sum or groups but few ever have a TRUE relationship with another girl.

Being BI or all out Gay is against the Bible, it is worng, and if your frined is a true good Christian she may shun you for it, but in time she should forgive you and move on.

Answer this, why are you BI?

I know why I am and I still knwo it is wrong, it is a choice that I made and I will ahve to suffer the consquenses.

Answer 3

For Christians yes. the ACT of homosexuality is a sin.

I don't think your bad and I'm sorry you are feeling this way.

I have no sound advice for you. Its easy to say a lot of things. Perhaps support groups in your area or if you school an "alternative" school, maybe someone there can give you good advice.

Your mom MAY not hate you, she may just be dealing with the "death" of the dream of a perfectly straight child. Speak with someone who knows and find out the best way to speak to your mom.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Nothing wrong with being bi and no one who has not hurt others should be shunned to hell. sorry about your friend maybe she'll come around. Don't tell your mom until you're able to support yourself. Your mom doesn't hate you she is confused and maybe a little hurt.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with being Bi. Only a small minded bigot would say otherwise.

If a person has a problem with your sexuality, then it is that person with the problem not you.

As far as mom goes, she just does not understand and is reacting to how society has dictated she should react. I am sure she still loves you. She is just confused.

You should never be ashamed for who you are.

Answer 6

My opinion, you are who you are. You have to be true to yourself or you can end up depressed or with other emotional issues. As for your friends reacting to your news, some people hate change, hate being confronted with uncomfortable things, and some just take time to deal with it. Moms are even trickier. The good ones want what's best for you, but don't always see that self honesty is best. The not so good want what's best for their idea of a "good child" and themselves. Live YOUR life. Be happy. Good Luck.

Answer 7

It depends on what you believe. However, if you are curious for only sexual reasons, then yes it's very wrong. The problem with this world right now is that too many people think it's okay to act on their fantasies. That is why GOD said we have free will. We know it's wrong, but if we act on it then we are comitting a sin that can not be forgiven. Something to think about next time you are curious. Thank you.

Answer 8

Being bi is not a bad thing. i know because when i came out i was judged like that as well. Some people will accept you when others won't and I know its not right but it is because they neglect to understand it. Even if you tried to teach them they won't want to learn. But remember that they are missing out, because you know your a good person. Put a smile on your face and accept yourself for who you are and become a better person for it. This is not your fault you like what you like and your true friends will love you for you not who they want you to be. :)

Answer 9

NEVER be ashamed of what u are. Iam 40 I've been bi since as long as i can remember iam married 5yrs. now to a wonderful man (he is homophobic) i did not hide the fact that i love being with a women as well as being with a man.I see it as u got the best of both WORLDS! Good Luck to u!

Answer 10

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