Here's the deal: I've been fantasizing about being with a woman for years. Ony sexually, though. I'm in a committed, long-term relationship with a man. I told him when we first met that i'd thought about being with a girl but dismissed it as a phase. I haven't told him that i've been obsessed with this.
Recently, i've been struggling to hide my curiosity. I'm extremely attracted to female I met recently. We hung out and she's the type that likes to walk through places holding hands with her friends. I felt so awkward doing this because I was attracted to her and didn't want anything to come through by us holding hands. She was rubbing my fingers while I was holding her hand and now I'm wondering what that was all about. Plus, she texts me all the
How do I bring it up to my fiance that i'm attracted to women sexually? And, if he's OK with this, how do I actually approach a girl? How do you know if a girl is bi?
2006-11-20 04:20:52 · 11 answers · asked by danielle a 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Believe me, this is TOTALLY normal. The same exact thing happened to me only when I told my boyfriend he was really accepting of it. We talked for a long time about possibly inviting a girl into our bed, and eventually it happened, and it was fantastic. I totally love my boyfriend, but I also have a huge sexual attraction to women. He and I have had numerous threesomes, and we've been open and honest to each other all through this journey. It takes a LOT of trust and communication to have that type of relationship. I would first tell your guy that you have real curiousity to women, and you want to explore it further. If he loves you, he'll at least talk about it with you and try to accomidate this need that you have. When I talked to my boyfriend about it, we decided we wanted to bring a girl it. The first time we did, he just watched me and the other girl. The next he involved himself a little, and since then he's been totally involved. It's a gradual process, and something that you definitely need to talk to your fiance about because the urge you're having will most likely not go away until you carry it out.
I really hope this helps, good luck, and have fun!! It's SO much fun to explore this side of sexuality, so go talk to him! :-)
2006-11-20 04:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by anothermelody2 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is that what being Bi is? I went through a patch of being with one and wanting the other...then I realised I was just being plain selfish - what I wanted was more important than the person I was with. I know that there's curiosity and questions - especially if you've never had the experience. Just because you can fancy people of either sex though, shouldn't mean that you can't devote yourself to one person in a loving relationship. A straight couple have to work at theirs, even though there is lots of temptation to stray - the only difference for Bi's is that they have a marginally larger group from which to be tempted. Down the line when you and your boyfriend (husband) are settled with each other - there may be an opportunity for you to get what you'd like and for him to watch or participate. That is something the pair of you would need to discuss and you'd BOTH have to be extremely comfortable with the idea of bringing a third person into your bedroom. Otherwise, I'd say get over it and concentrate your efforts on the one you love. Best Wishes
2016-03-29 02:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him now before you are married. Nothing is worse than having an itch you can't scratch and this itch will be bothering you for the rest of your life. You need to find out if it is just curiosity or something deeper. Have a long talk with your BF tell him what is going on tell him what you need to do and hope he understands.
You don't know if the girl is bi. You'll have to let her know how you feel and hope she feels the same.
Luck
2006-11-20 04:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to let you know that I have been fantasizing about being with another guy. I am married and can no longer hide my attraction and feelings for the same sex. I have had a difficult time dealing the being courious or have the "gay" tendicies. Love to chat with you if you need to talk.
2006-11-20 06:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by beachguy_41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going through the Exact same thing. Im engaged to my fiance who is a male, but I keep fantasizing about woman. I don't want to tell him this because he might think Im crazy or something. I think that if I accomplished this fantasy I could really make up my mind. Atleast you have a woman that you are attracted to. Im still in search! So I think if you lived your fantasy, it would help make up your mind. Goodluck!
2006-11-20 04:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by Fantasy686 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to watch out about bringing it up to your bf. Some will think it is a turn on. Some will think it is a blow to their ego and you end up in a whole world of hurt. I would say go with your feelings with the girl. If it works out you will have some idea from where you are coming. If not you will always wonder.
2006-11-20 05:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL U HAVE TO SIT DOWN WITH UR GUY AND LET HIM KNOW IT'S BEEN GOING ON FOR A WHILE AND YOU JUST THOUGHT IT WAS JUST A FEELING AND TO LET HIM KNOW YOU LOVE HIM AND YOU WANT TO TRY AND SEE IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT AND YOU WANT HIM TO JOIN YOU SO HE WON'T FEEL LEFT OUT,,, AND IF SHE'S RUBBING YOUR HANDS YOU NEED TO ASK HER WHAT WAS THAT ABOUT THE OTHER DAY WHEN SHE DID IT(ONLY THING SHE CAN DO IS TELL YOU THE TRUTH) BUT IF YOU HAVE THAT PROBLEM I THINK IT WOULD BE BETTER TO TALK TO HIM AND LET HIM KNOW HOW YOUR FEELING ARE..... IT WILL BE ALRIGHT TRY IT HE PROBABLY LIKE IT YOU KNOW GUYS
2006-11-20 04:32:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest, most guys would probably be thrilled to hear their girl tell them this, but not all. see how he feels first set up limits and boundries. and then go for it ( all partirs in agreement of course) ask her straight out tell her your interested and be honest with her also that ithere is no hope of a long term relationship. just in case that is what she has in mind.. then if it all comes together enjoy it
2006-11-20 04:58:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time your with this babe, as your holding her hand, lean twords her and place her hand near your sweet spot and look her in the eyes and ask her, do you like that? Then let the floodgates open as you get to taste her. mmmmmmmmm
2006-11-20 07:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by jackwithme6969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. Then ask your friend if she is bi...simple as that.
I also had that kind of fantasy so I had a threesome with my husband and realized it was not for me. Good luck to you.
2006-11-20 04:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by tigerbaby322006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋