2006-11-20 04:11:55 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-11-20 04:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yesterday!
Why waste anymore of your time? Your days on Earth are numbered!
That being said, if he's just a bad husband, but not an abusive husband; you should take the time to get things in order before you leave. Decide where you want to live, get your finances in order so that you can afford it. If you have any joint loans, or credit cards, try and get those paid off or arranged so that you don't get stuck with them.
If children are involved, give them a few weeks (but not more) to get used to the idea. Also, if he's not abusive and if they're kids involved, it might not hurt to wait till after X-mas; why ruin it for them?
2006-11-20 04:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two things have to happen. (These are my personal beliefs)
1. When you've done everything possible to be a great wife. It's always easier to point at another person and say he is the problem, but until an unbiased professional looks at the situation and says you are not a contributor to the demise, both parties own a part in the death of a relationship.
2. When an unbiased party such as a counsellor says that your husband is unwilling or unable to change. Or your husband himself says take it or leave it, this is who I am, and I won't change for anyone.
I personally feel these things need to be verified by another, because our emotions can often mislead us.
Emotions can be a barometer, but they may or may not be accurate. So an unbiased professional opinion is best.
2006-11-20 04:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1. When he has cheated. 2 When you have cheated. 3. When you each have figured you have each given it 80% from both sides, and it still isn't working. 4.When you have been together so long that you no longer feel any bond, and can financially leave. 5. When you discover your politics, religion and educational levels no longer match...... The list is endless. And, what is a "bad" husband. It may just be a "bad" marriage as listed above.
2006-11-20 04:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've been unhappy with him for awhile now since you called him a "bad husband". If he's not going to be a good husband to you, then you deserve so much better. And trust me, there is better out there. It's time to end it if you are fed up with him and he won't change. I have sympathy for your situation and now how hard it can be. But you deserve to be happy, so keep telling yourself that, ok?
2006-11-20 04:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny A_331 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you feel like the next outburst or scene that he makes could endanger your life. I am not even saying wait that long. I have been there and being in an abusive relationship is not cute. I wish that I would have left earlier when I started to get the warning signs that I was with a crazy guy!!!!
2006-11-20 04:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question should be, "is there any reason to stay together?" i don't believe in divorse for minor reasons, but you obviously don't think the same way since you are asking this question. let me bring one thing to your attention: do you want to be the woman looking for a boyfriend with a divorse under your belt. if you can work it out, you should try. marriage isn't easy. i view divorse as a failure. so don't just give up. i recommend you try to work it out, but if you can't, and there is no reason to stay together, then you should leave him.
there is some advice from a man/husband/father
2006-11-20 04:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by asslpman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you start calling him a bad husband.
2006-11-20 05:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by rowdyrebelgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is a bad husband to you? if hes that bad then why are you still there? Time should be now if he is violent. etc.
2006-11-20 04:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by Damzel in distrust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now. When you realized he was a bad husband.
2006-11-20 04:22:01 · answer #10 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you find a better one, it's very difficult to support children alone, if you don't have children,don't have a job it's still difficult. If you really couldn't bear your husband one day, you got to leave him right now, I think that you can have a better husband, if you have a good heart, you deserve a good family.
2006-11-20 04:55:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋