....a time in your life when it might have become a choice? I am not asking here about "gayness" in general but specifically about YOUR "gayness."
I apologize if I have phrased this question wrong in any way. Please understand this question is not homophobic, just homocurious. I am not out to challenge anyone's belief.
Some interesting reading material here:
http://news.yahoo.com/s/usatoday/20061120/cm_usatoday/whenreligionlosesitscredibility
2006-11-20 04:09:09 · 20 answers · asked by Seeker 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Looking back to when I was child I remember having an attraction to men. As a young teen I "chose" to accept myself for what I am, and that is gay. It was NOT a choice as to whether I should be gay or straight, but a choice on how I lived with these attractions and feelings for members of the same sex.
Who would choose to be gay? Being gay in much of the world (including here in the USA) is a liability. We face ostracizing from family, friends, religion....we can be fired from our jobs. We can be attacked verbally and physically with little repercussion to the attacker. We are denied many of the same rights as our fellow citizens (or even illegal aliens). Choice? No, I think not.
What set of circumstances do you think would lead us to making the choice. Who gives us the option? Do you imagine we just bolt out of bed one day and "decide" today I will become a homosexual?
Because societal pressures, some choose to stay in the closet, to suppress that essential part of their life. What a sad choice they felt they had to make. What a wicked society that feels that is a viable option.
I choose to not live a lie. I choose to be honest with those I love. I choose not to cower in fear of a disapproving society. I choose to be strong gay man in face of hostility. But I did not choose to be gay anymore than my brother chose to straight.
2006-11-20 04:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by imaginary friend 5 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe it was NOT a choice per se, but I did make a choice to live honestly after having lived a lie for so long.
No, being gay was no my choice, living honestly was.
I tried for many years to pretend that if I lived as if I was hetero, then magically I'd become hetero. I found out that it simply doesn't work like that. I can't just "wish" I was straight and some fairy godmother would wave her magic wand and "POOF" I'd be straight.
I had to come to terms with who I was and learn to accept my personal truth. Once I accomplished that, most everything else just fell into place.
2006-11-20 04:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For me it was DEFINATELY NOT a choice.
I was raised very religiously and taught that homosexuality was evil. I denied any attraction I had for females because I thought those feeling were just "the devil's thoughts" in my head.
Then I finally came to the realization that I was born the way I am. I would never have choosen to be because It has had very negative impacts in my life ( i.e. disowned by my parents) but I could not keep denying what and who I was especially as the constant denial was very detrimental psychologically.
2006-11-20 05:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by Junauh 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think of that once being gay became no longer basically an argument, yet one that could desire to be known and defended, the folk against it needed an argument that could help their reason without making them appear like undesirable human beings. If human beings *chosen* to be gay, then does not they chosen the sin and different undesirable issues that the folk against it believed they deserved? Then as time went on, human beings no longer basically suggested this, they believed it. no longer basically that, yet there is not any scientific evidence for or by contrast thought yet. So for now, that's a conceivable argument that facilitates discriminate against gays. with the aid of fact all those youngsters who killed themselves 'chosen' to be bullied and forced every day. All those youngsters 'chosen' to have their mom and dad kick them out. of course somebody might 'go with' that. of course they does not! individually, i do no longer think of that's a decision. only with the aid of fact we embody it, does no longer mean we go with it.
2016-10-04 04:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by boland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To Be or not To Be, that is the question.....at least for Hamlet it was. For me, NO, it was not a choice, I was born this way and the happier for it. The only choice I had was how I would choose to handle the naysayers, homophobes and assorted moronic types.
Your question was honestly asked so I offer you an honest answer.
Cheers
2006-11-20 04:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I echo what puffy said so elegantly.
The only choice involved is to live truthfully or live a lie.
I am g0y and bisexual. The only part of that that was a choice was that I chose to identify as g0y. Being g0y doesn't mean I am not homosexual it just means I am not identified as gay. Being bisexual or homosexual is never a choice. choseing how you live as either of those is a choice. You either choose to live out and freely or live in the closet and live a lie. Living a lie is not really living.
2006-11-20 04:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I realized early in my teens that I was different from the other guys. I am a married guy with 2 children and now later in my life I can no longer hide my feelings for the same sex. I guess I always had a "gay" attitude but refused to express my feelings.
2006-11-20 06:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by beachguy_41 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my case, I never even felt that I had any purpose to pursue women. Being a f-a-g came so naturally & normally to me that I never even thought about girls as an alternative. I only considered women in the ABSTRACT, as only in theoretical terms. Never as a practical possibility.
it's not like I used to shag women but one day - I woke up and said "think I'll switch to guys from now on" that's not what happened.
Something in my brain turned this way from a VERY EARLY AGE.
When I was only 6 yrs old, I played with a neighbor's grandson, a cute blond, only 5 yrs old, and I pulled his shorts down and admired his nice white a-s-s. how come I never wanted to pull down a girl's panties that way??? And MIND YOU - I was only 6 yrs old!!!!!!
so you see - what choice did I have in matter. ?????
2006-11-20 04:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by blackbird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you this:
Did you choose to be heterosexual? Why?
Because it's easier than dancing to the beat of a different drummer?
Was it ever a choice to be any different?
I've never had a choice! I was born this way and I'm proud of who I am and I am a very loving and lovable human being who,oh by the way, happens to be gay!
2006-11-20 04:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by auntgnu62 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not a choice. i did not make a decision at some point in my life. If it is, then Heterosexuality is also a choice. Most folks I know did not wake up one day and consciously decide to like girls, or boys.
2006-11-20 07:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋