She is incredibly attractive and I see myself spending the rest of my life with her. I am 25 and she is only the 3rd person that I have been intimate with, the other two were one time hook ups. Here's the problem...over the past year I have really lost my sex drive. She thinks this is very abnormal, since most guys my age don't have this problem. I am not gay so I'll answer that before anyone suggests it. What can I do to increase my sex drive? I am very attracted to her, but it is almost like I don't have the energy to initiate sex as often as we would both like, and sometimes I find myself too tired, even when she initiates it. What can I do? I don't want her to think that I am messing around or that I don't love her...
2006-11-20 04:06:25 · 11 answers · asked by Apple 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
start with your primary care provider, discuss it and see whats recommended. maybe psych, maybe endocrinlogy.
2006-11-20 04:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, no pills, no drugs. The male sex drive is intimately linked with your overall health, fitness and most especially testosterone. You haven’t said anything about your physical condition so it is hard to tell. Here is a list of things that can affect the male sex drive. - If you are overweight or unfit this will affect your sex drive. - If you are depressed this will affect your sex drive. - If you do not sleep enough, this will affect your sex drive. - If you are stressed, or overworked this will affect your sex drive. You might not be producing enough testosterone, again this can be for a number of reasons. - Try some moderate exercise (eg walking every day or 3 times a week) - Weight Training would be the best idea - Fix up your diet, try and include more EFAs (essential fatty acids), eg nuts, avocadoes Take some libido enhancing supplements. (Ok you’ve said you don’t want to be sold on pills, but maybe try Horny Goat Weed or any Male Health Formula. Talk to someone at your local Health Food Store. Maybe even Tribulus Terrestis would help) If none of these approaches work, you might need to see your doctor to get your testosterone levels checked. I think they can do this through a spit test (it’s not confronting or invasive). In a sever case you might need HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) – basically drugs from your doctor, but this is HIGHLY UNLIKELY. Getting more sleep. Going to the gym. Doing more exercise. Having a better diet and taking a supplement should solve the problem. I’m not doing this for a hard sell, but if you like my answer, then check out my site. Thanks and good luck!
2016-05-21 22:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having a romatic evening, and working your way to that point. Take some time off work so you can get your bearings and forget about the stress in your life. There are times when this happens, but strange for a man your age. Are you and her just going straight to sex, or is there foreplay involved? You need to sit down and tell her what is stressing you out and that this has nothing to do with her. If you cannot get past it, then I suggest a sex therapist, maybe they can target the problem and give you some solutions. Good luck! :)
2006-11-20 04:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All sorts of stuff may be going on.... probably you need a physical.... How's your diet? What is your work schedule like? What kind(s) of meds are you taking if any? Do you guys make time for each other or are you supposed to perform at 2:00am after a tough day? Do you ever set aside date night, bring her flowers, have a quiet Saturday or Sunday afternoon lunch? Too much or in some cases any alcohol will etch into libido---- If you have kids, everyone would be exhausted --- children turn loving couples into ragged parents.... low thyroid, could be anything, even your testosterone level , which your doc can check. Stress at your job can put a damper on about anything. See??? lots of items can affect adversely libido, and lots of places to begin checking..... Tho docs will kid that after 18 it is all down hill for guys, 25 is a tad young to have begun to hit bottom..... Again, see your doc.
2006-11-20 04:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your FIRST step is to get a medical exam!
Find out WHY your decrease in sex drive. Some causes are pretty simple, some are fairly serious.
2006-11-20 04:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are just tired, are working 18-20 hr days, 6-7 days a week ?
maybe you've just settled into the same old routine & you need to spice up your love life, do things different..
she shouldn't think you're abnormal, you have lots of company on this issue.
good luck..
2006-11-20 04:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First see a doctor there are many medical reasons your sex drive is low or gone. Depression,stress from work. or family problems. see a doctor
2006-11-20 04:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by bingomom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its related to your health and you should see your doctor for a check up.
2006-11-20 04:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by Damzel in distrust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try going to the gym, watch porn film most of the time
2006-11-20 05:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE is not all bout SEX.
2006-11-20 04:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by math 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋