My ex.bf (Jordan) or well the only other guy i really dated beside mike) who i am engaged too. Dated 3 months my junior year of highschool while i as trying to make Mike jealous while on a break and two months my second year of college again while i as on a break from mike.Mike and Jordan were best friends from elementary school into highschool and stll friends now but dont talk that much.I started dating Mike at the end of 8 th grade and have been with him on and off ever since and i am now 24 yrs old and wanting to marry him. We are engaged but he does not believe in marriage and does not want kids(vasectomy)without telling me.I want all those things Jordan thinks that i am in love with the fairytale idea of being in love with someone since childhood and that mike is just comfortable.?
2006-11-20 04:02:22 · 7 answers · asked by Jessie L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jordan and i are friends and go out to eat or go get a drink once in a while plus we occasionally work together.Is he hitting on me again?
2006-11-20 04:05:54 · update #1
If you and your fiance don't want the same things, you need to find someone that shares your dreams of a family. You'll only have heartache if you stay on your current course. Best of luck!
2006-11-20 04:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK Sean - first - quit beating yourself up about it. Trust me, guilt & avoidance doesn't fix anything. Just makes you miserable and stops you believing there's a way out of this. So... you did some dumb things, tried to hide in a hole for a while & made it worse. Just about every person in the world, me included, has done the same thing to one degree or another. First thing you must do is call the people you owe money to, or email/write them and tell them you are in the process of getting this sorted. This lets them know you acknowledge the debt & reassures them you won't be skipping out. Then, speak to a debt counsellor. (Links to help below). They will put you on the right track & you'll be surprised at what CAN be done. Just tell yourself - I WILL fix this, swallow your pride & get help with it. OK? Good luck PS - I've assumed you're in the UK? If not, add to your post & I'll locate the appropriate help links for wherever you are.
2016-05-21 22:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do we want the 'bad boys' Jordan is probably correct; you're comfortable with Mike but he does not offer your future what you would cherish. Choose neither; just venture on something different for you. You change and the situation changes. Only you can change yourself, no body else.
2006-11-20 04:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did you guys get engaged if he doesn't beleive in marriage? If you want those things then you need to talk with your main man about them. And i am sure you have right? But yet you still want to marry him. I don't think you friend is wrong. Obviously you are comfortable to be sacrificing all the traditional things you want. He is right on honey.
2006-11-20 04:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds about right. Here you are in love with the idea of what your boyfriend was like in 8th grade. He clearly doesn't want the same things you want. You need to realize that and stop fantasizing. Good luck.
2006-11-20 04:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll give you some advise--- don't marry anyone nor have children until you have added many more years to your life --- You are a baby, still, and not yet fit to be a wife, nor a mom..... You live in a fairytale world, sweetie..... 24 or not 24, you are extremely immature.
2006-11-20 04:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are not compatible move on gal
2006-11-20 05:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by soro 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋