Here's the thing...My ex and I broke up a year ago because the separation got too hard (he is in the Navy) he will be home for Christmas and he told me that he wants to take me to a surprise place on the 19th of December. (That would have been our 3 year anniversary). What does this mean? I'm confused AND nervous!! Any thoughts?
2006-11-20 03:34:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He wouldn't take you anywhere if he still doesn't have feelings for you. In fact, he would probably be thinking of other things to do after being away that long instead of planning a surprise for you when he gets back. So, don't think too hard about it. The worse thing that can happen is that you find out on Dec. 19 if your ex still has feelings for you. And, if he doesn't think of it as a start to moving on with your life.
2006-11-20 03:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by sprklbds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better believe he still has feelings for you. Anyone who tells you they've gone through a separation or divorce and they have no feelings for the ex is not being totally honest with you or themselves. The love you had when you married is still there but pain, dissapointment, failure, unfair expectations, etc have clouded their minds.
I wouldn't be nervous or confused but be thankful things are going as planned. God has a purpose and plan for you and your husband. You are going to be able to share the things you have suffered through with others to give them hope and encouragement that their marriages can be saved and work.
I would say, stay in prayer, fast if you can, get into your bible to read on marriage and divorce and I know you will be radiant on this day.
My recommendation is to read the Prodigal's Perspective on line at http://www.rejoiceministries.org to get a better idea for some of the things your husband has been thinking & doing while he was away.
I'm so excited for you and will be praying.
2006-11-20 12:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by karaborr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the holiday blues. A lot of single people get them around this time. Thanksgiving, X-mas all about family and sharing time with people you love. When you are missing that special someone, you tend to reminisce. If your not seeing someone go for it, may do you both some good at you can put an end to the relationship if it doesn't work out.
2006-11-20 11:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously still has feelings for you and so do you or else you wouldn't have agreed to meet with him or see him when he comes home. Was this man your friend before you started the two of you started dating? If so, then I think offering your support to him while he is over seas is the best thing you could do for him. If you have true love for each other then distance won't matter. Did you break up because you wanted to be someone else? Try giving love a try.
2006-11-20 11:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by tobornot2b2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should question your own feelings a little more. I wonder if you want to rekindle an old flame with this guy. For all you know he could want anything. Just figure out what you want and you'll be ready for anything. Just don't be his fallback plan every time he comes home. He'll think he's got a sure piece of a** just because you had history. Unless that's cool with you.
2006-11-20 11:49:54 · answer #5 · answered by jbsim75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just wait and see what is waiting for you and him. He might still have feelings for u too. And u should tell him how you are feeling. If you still love him let him know. He might be popping the ? Then what, you should never hesitate, u sound like u still love him, tell him. Good Luck and keep us updated with what is happening!!!!
2006-11-20 11:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by squeaky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is taking you on a surprise trip when the holidays come!!!!!! Maybe thats his way of rekindling the relionship and wants to make it up to you!
2006-11-20 12:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by Damzel in distrust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you may be right.
I say give it a shot....that is if you still have feelings for him.
Could turn out to be something truly romantic!!!
Maybe he's going to pop the question!!!
Either way, sounds pretty exciting!
I'd GO!
2006-11-20 11:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's backsliding and u should have moved on. he is sticking with something safe and familiar and u broke up for a reason. don't give in
2006-11-20 11:36:19 · answer #9 · answered by Jim G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows, your guess is just as good as ours.
2006-11-20 11:36:17 · answer #10 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋