We had a 6 month relationship. It was great until i found out he cheated. We have been friends since then but nothing romantic. I also work with him. Now he says he made a mistake and realizes that he loves me and has always loved me. I dont trust him because i know him. He says he is ready to settle down and change his ways. He broke my heart once and im scared to take that chance but what if he has really changed?
2006-11-20 03:31:30 · 14 answers · asked by deb0269 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
People are only human and can change. Myabe if he no longer has you he realized what he had was good and that he really wish he didn't mess up and is honestly changed for the better. The bets thing to do is to tell him how hurt you were and that things will not be done over night. Tell him that to be togetrh romantically first he has to be a good friend before a good boyfriend. And because of the past he should want to start out slow and show he is a good friend and give things some time and slowly gain your trust back. Then you can prevent yourself from being hurt again and can see if the chemistry is there and if he really changed.
2006-11-20 04:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my words have always been Once a player always a player.
guys r players that's a fact ,don't stand a chance just play them back! lol j/k.
> I really believe u should give him just 1 more chance. This was 6 yrs. ago . But wacth him like a hawk. I feel like if he does love u as of what u tell me. I don't know him so i wouldn't be able to tell u. I just wish u lUck. I hope u open the right door.
2006-11-20 03:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people will not agree with me, but I think it is possible. Sometimes someone who cheated realises what they had lost and want it back. They say you don't know what you have until it is gone. I think I would try it again. Tell him you want to take it slow. If he is willing try it. I would not be jumping into sex right away. I would take the time to reacquaint yourselves, and sort of be friends first. Take things slow and don't let your heart get attached. I definitely would not have him moving in real soon. Give it time take it slow and see how it feels. Unfortunately there is no guarantee. You can not find love if you don't make yourself emotionally available. So give it a try, but don't let your heart get involved to soon. Good luck.
2006-11-20 03:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont imagine the time period "once a cheater continually a cheater" is a real actuality. interior the case of your guy, he will continually cheat because his causes for dishonest are basically that he loves females to a lot, and if he receives married then he will basically love woman. I have cheated on a million woman in my finished life, and it thoroughly ruined my life. I lost each thing I valued, so I realized from that journey and considering that then the idea-about dishonest under no circumstances back crossed my concepts, and that i have been dedicated to each woman considering that. As on your guy though, he will under no circumstances substitute because he enjoys it to a lot, there is not any effects for his moves, so he doesnt see it as incorrect.
2016-10-16 09:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. It really depends on the person. Some are born or predisposed pathological liars. Others are cheater by circumstances (temptation, seduction, etc.). The best way to tell is past behavior. This is the best predictor of future actions.
2006-11-20 03:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by sprklbds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man who has cheated and lost everything I would say give him one more shot but keep your eyes open and question moves that he cant explain. Trust your heart.
2006-11-20 03:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by richard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater.He cheated you in past , even now he is cheating you and if you are not cautious he cheat you in future.
2006-11-20 03:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by shribharatpshubh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a fool if you go back. Don't you learn? Did he tell you he loved you the first time? I bet he did. If he loved you, he wouldn't have cheated from the start.
2006-11-20 03:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by All I have to do is dream... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think once you cheat you will always cheat. you cant trust him he broke your heart is that what you want to go through again? Dont do that to yourself find someone who will be true to you. good luck
2006-11-20 03:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember the first time they cheat is the hardest, but once they cheat they will do it again, maybe not for a while but they will. if you don't trust him then you can't, sorry but hope this helps
2006-11-20 03:34:10 · answer #10 · answered by bone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋