2006-11-20 03:26:52 · 17 answers · asked by Johnnny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Get over it or ruin 3 lives.
2006-11-20 03:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by raptoro104 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you infatuated because of that feeling of wanting something you can't have? How is your marriage? Are you guys having trouble? Maybe that's why you're feeling that way. If you don't care about your marriage then you can act on it but if you do care about your wife and this marriage that you guys are in, then do not act on it at all. Not only is it bad enough to find out that her husband has cheated but to also find out that it was with her friend, that's is unforgivable. Stay away from her, if you can't just think that the only reason why you feel that way is because it's like eating the forbidden fruit, everything is always much more enticing when you can't have it. Now if the girl is giving you reasons or doing things to help with this infatuation, then you should tell your wife what she is doing. Girls can be sneaky and vicious that if she wants you bad enough, she'll lie and say that you did something that you didn't. Be careful and think really hard before you make any kind of decision. Good luck!
2006-11-20 03:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by acehernandez2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't act on it. Everyone can relate to you on this issue. I remember one time while visiting the in-laws about 5 years ago,I had gotten up early and one of the In-Laws older kids ( about 21 ) had come downstairs to get a bite to eat. Still in PJ's, came and sat on a barstool next to where I was kneeling to pick up a mess my child had made. I happened to glance up and see the GLORY land through the oversize shorts that were worn. I didn't mind, don't think that person minded either, just kind of sat there letting me look. I froze not exactly sure what to think. I'm positive my mouth was agape. I had the hots for this person at one time and ended up marrying their sibling. So I can definately relate. I'm sure I could have acted on it had I wanted too, but did not. You're asking for a lot of drama if you do. If you love your wife and have this crazy infatuation/conquest ;go to a gentlemans club. I think that would be a perfect outlet. Just don't max out the cards or make it a nightly habit. Sometimes couples go together to these clubs and each person ends up having a pretty good evening after they get home.Now, getting your wife to go may take some convincing,but look at it as a new plane to your relationship.If this does work, pick out a reputable (LOL) gentlemans club. Some clubs just have exotic dancers that go topless, most call it topless but still wear paistes on their breasts. Keep it in good taste and fun, call it an experiment. I would do it if I thought I had some sexual tension that neede to be released. If that doesn't work, stock up on the Kleenex and use your imagination.
2006-11-20 04:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by X_YELLOWJACKET_X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is terrible. If you love your spouse and you have a good solid relationship you will not put your relationship in jeopardy for a lustful relationship or an unsure thing. Lust goes away. I am sure you and your wife had a lot of lustful situations probably when you were dating. The lust does go away, but something better takes its place. A lifetime friendship and hopefully some one you truly mesh with. In more ways than one. Don't risk your marriage for this person. It probably wont be worth it.
2006-11-20 03:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by janine b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who talks like that, "I have infatuation for my spouse's friend?"
Anyway,Maybe take you and "your spouse" on a little get away so it can be just you and "your spouse" with no distractions and have lots of sex. Maybe there's a lack of it and it's driving you to want to have affairs.
2006-11-20 03:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by Hello,It'sMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it be, it's just an infatuation and it could cause a lot more harm than good. Trust me!
2006-11-20 03:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to just try and stay away from this chik as much as possible,stay real to ur girl.If it gets too bad and you cant handle the feelings and you think you might be tempted to actually DO something,then you need to tell your girl straight up about ur feelings for her friend!
2006-11-20 03:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel Hillhouse`s Girl! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um dont do anything.
the only place you can do anything is in your head, so keep it there.
but....think how you would feel it your wife had the same feelings about one of your friends. Wouldn't be very cool.
2006-11-20 03:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by Kbailey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know it's just lust so why demean yourself,your man and your marriage?let it pass.if you continue to feed the fantasy you will feed a monster and monsters aren't controllable.
2006-11-20 03:53:27 · answer #9 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Toss that idea right out of your head. It will mean trouble, big, serious mean get-out-the-lawyer-and-checkbook kind of trouble.
2006-11-20 03:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by Reo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋