I am going through a seperation and I have a 3 year old son. My wife's family usually has a large, fun gathering at the holidays, while family has nothing going on. My wife is going to let me see my son on thanksgiving for a few hours and may even invite me to the family dinner. This is gong to be way too akward if I go to the family thing, but I have nothing to offer my son in the way of enjoying the holiday and do not want to take away from his holiday.
2006-11-20 03:24:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The problem with me taking him is that I have no place to take him. As it stands right now I am on the couch at a friends house...it's not exactly the enviroment I want him to see his dad in
2006-11-20 03:33:13 · update #1
When I was still at the house I spent all the time in world with my son....it's not a matter of not spending time with my son but or less the taking him away from the "fun" at my wife's family event. The greatest thing about the holidays was that the family were all togther. No it seems like I would be taking him out of that and that he will be missing something.
2006-11-20 04:08:27 · update #2
nOw is the time you can show what a good dad you are and make your child the priority. Go to the ex's, smile and let your son know that mommy and daddy still like each other (at least for his sake) and that everything is okay. If at anytime you feel uncomfortable politely excuse yourself to other plans. You'll be the bigger person in the long run!!!
2006-11-20 03:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you have anything to offer him. You say your wife will allow you to have your son for a few hours. If he has already eaten Thanksgiving dinner when he comes to see you, then how bout have a kids movie an some popcorn and treats and snacks for you guys to watch and eat. Rent a holiday video and watch and have a great time.
Ok, so you have no where to take him, and don't want him to see you on the couch at your friends house. Well some really good movies are on and you can take him to the movies. In fact I know lots of households who have made a tradition of going to the movies Thanksgiving evening. We may do that this year as well.
2006-11-20 03:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to be all about big plans for your son. I would bet that your son would be happier to just have some alone time doing something fun with you.
Here is some advice to think about when raising your son. I adopted my wife's oldest son at 14. The only reason he wanted his dad to give up his rights to him was that he never spent quality time with him. In the 14 years he went to his dads every other weekend his dad always had something better to do than spend time with him. He did not want his dad to spend money on him just to play ball a game or even go fishing with him.
2006-11-20 03:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by rottn30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean you have nothing to offer your son? You have your time and love to give to him, and that's really all a 3 year old wants. So, swallow your pride and go be with your son no matter where than may be.
A 3 year old won't care what the setting is, he just needs his daddy.
2006-11-20 03:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your son to a restaraunt and you and he share a dinner together what is wrong with that you can spend some time with him or take him to a movie and ask him how he liked the movie. Time is the most awesome thing you could do for your child. good luck and god bless and happy thanksgiving.
2006-11-20 04:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you family is not planing nothing for the Holiday then i suggest you go to your ex house even as hard as it can be, and be very polite and correct, do it for you son, he deserve to have a happy holidays. GOD BLESS YOU and good luck
2006-11-20 03:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring a dish to pass if you get invited to Thanksgiving dinner - it will be the very mature way to go.
2006-11-20 03:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rent a hotel room that has an indoor pool. Go out to eat together. There is a lot you can do, if you just think about your options.
2006-11-20 03:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋