I moved into his house in May, 2006 and i pay all the bills (elec, cable, i-net, phone, water, groceries) and he pays his house payment. what are my rights over the next week or so to ensure that he doesn't damage my stuff, make it unbearable, change the locks, etc? I don't have anyone up here as I moved 80 miles away to be with him (we spent weekends together for the year that we dated prior to living together). i am moving back where i came from but need the week to get my stuff together, etc. since i pay bills can he just change the locks on me?
2006-11-20 03:16:04 · 9 answers · asked by Alisa A 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
many have referred to leaving on good terms. as much as i would like to, he has an anger management problem and when he's angry, he can't see past his nose. since the only people i really know up here are his family, his brother has agreed to come over on moving day to try to keep the peace. i'd like to remain friends and if possible work it out but alas, i don't think that will be possible. even though we dated for more than a year prior to living together, i had no idea that his temper and control issues were so great. i am hoping that we can both take away some insight and our next relationships will be better.
2006-11-20 04:26:17 · update #1
avoid any confrontation, play the headache/not feeling well act until yo are ready to bounce then leave him a note letting him know why you chose to go.. maybe with a word of advice in the hopes that he'll be better to his next victim...
this is assuming of course that he is unbearable...
Maybe you're the tough one to get along with?
2006-11-20 03:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by sitizen_x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have lived there over 30 days then you have established residency and he can't just kick you out, change the locks, etc.
You do not have to be on the lease!
You can also go to the court house and apply for a temporary protective order (also called EPO). If he does anything to your belongings then he would get into legal trouble. They are good usually for 10 days. You have to explain when you apply for it that he has a bad temper and you are concerned for your belongings until you can remove them and also let them know how long you have lived there.
I've been in the same situation and that is what I did. The sooner you do it the better. Also as long as you don't go to court when the 10days is up It will not show on his criminal record. It's just a temp order protecting you/your stuff and isn't a criminal charge against him unless he does something wrong
Good Luck
PS They normally issue the order either that day or early the next day
2006-11-20 05:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he owns the house he can legally have you removed, but you can since you pay all the electric, etc. have them shut off or cancelled and taken out of your name. As for needing a week to get all your stuff together , if you had some friends they could help you move alot faster , have you talked over this with him so as not to leave on bad terms ? if not try that first....
2006-11-20 04:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but if you and he did not make a written agreement, he can call the local law enforcement at any time and have you removed although they are likely to try to convince him to be patient. I would suggest you locate a storage facility nearby and move everything you possibly can move until you are able to leave permanently. You are in a precarious position I am sorry to say. Maybe you have a friend in the area who will store your most important things until you can move out and try to be away from the house as much as possible. And be ready to have the law show up at a moment's notice if things between you two are extremely tense.
2006-11-20 03:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by Rich B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As there is clearly an agreement between you (though I'd imagine verbal) that you are essentially "renting" via paying the bills, you do have some recourse. Even a verbal agreement stands. However, that may not help this week. You can always call the cops if he does lock you out. Be sure to get any utilities out of your name.
2006-11-20 03:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he can change the locks. It's his house and you are a paying guest. Make arrangements to move all your stuff in a day to avoid any problems. Good luck.
2006-11-20 03:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have any rights. You only have the privileges that he grants you, seeing it's HIS house you happen to be living in. If you're not on bad terms, then you probably shouldn't be too worried about him messing with your stuff. If you are, then... good luck.
2006-11-20 03:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if your name is on the lease, if its not then your pretty much screwed although that doesnt give him the right to destroy your property if your going to pick it up soon. I would take whatever you needed with you and hope for the best
2006-11-20 03:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by scuba_steve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best ask the citizens advise bureau.....and you need to produce bills receipts that had been paid for by you for his house address...if you are still friends, at least ask him to be considerate...good luck
2006-11-20 03:23:03 · answer #9 · answered by psalm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋