My boyfriend of almost a year and a half recently told me he wanted to take a break because he's not sure what he wants right now, and he's not sure if our relationship was making him unhappy or if it was something else. I'm almost 100% sure that it's not a matter of him wanting to see someone else, because he also said that he's not sure if he wants to spend Thanksgiving with his family; he's thinking about skipping out and spending it alone. He's been acting puny and depressed lately. I feel like we had a very good relationship, and I wish he would let me be there for him, and he told me that he still wants me to be there for him ( I kinda have to be around anyway, we live together.) How much should I "be there" for him, since he needs a break from us, and is there anything I can do to make him see that he may be happier if he just let me be his girlfriend like I was before?
2006-11-20 03:11:57 · 6 answers · asked by *~HoNeYBeE~* 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he needs a break for those reasons, then being there for him and still living together may not allow him to see what is really making him unhappy because you are still there in every way. It could turn into an uncomfortable situation with you being in the same household. But you cannot really refuse their wish to have a 'break'. As much as it hurts giving him his space may be what he needs. Good luck and hopefully he comes around!
2006-11-20 03:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by LaLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big mistake is you are living with him you can't take a break from someone if you are still living together. I would tell him if he wants a break to stay somewhere else. He cant have his cake and eat it too. I dont know but part of being a couple is being there for each other. Tell him if he is not sharing his feelings and letting you in, he is not being fair to the relationship. If a break is what he really wants than he should stay somewhere else until he knows what he wants. Thats my personal opinion. Good luck.
2006-11-20 11:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by janine b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's a new one... How can you have a break in a relationship without causing some sort of friction if the two of you are living together... Tell him there's no such thing as a "break", either the two of you are a couple or you each should go your separate ways and move on...
2006-11-20 11:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too bad but when someone wants a "break" the only thing you can do is give it to them. I would not "be there for him" during this break. He can't have the parts of you he wants when he wants them. A "break" should be a break. No talking, living together, nothing that you would normally do.
2006-11-20 11:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by artimis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I need a break from you means he wants sex with someone else.This is just another b.s. ploy to get around the big break up scene. Another boring attempt to "let her down gently", another male hypocritical ruse to keep one woman waiting in the wings while the other thinks there the "one and only" News flash, if he's not planning on being with his family and just "going off" by himself for Thanksgiving, there is a girl involved. Stop kidding yourself, he doesn't want you anymore. Please get away from this vacillating fool.
2006-11-20 11:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could be wrong, but i would say there is someone else, i would let him do his thing and you go find out and live your life
2006-11-20 11:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by bone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋