I have asked her about this and she said she is jut bored since I work late hours. When I asked her about it, she first said she only chats, but I already found out they have called each other on the phone. I asked her again about the phone, and then she said it is just easier to talk on the phone then chat on line. Should I be upset? What should I do?
2006-11-20 02:51:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am quite sure my husbands affair and leaving me began with just a chat once. she is not satisfied with her life, so she is looking outside the marriage to find someone else who will give her excitement and fun. why would she disrespect u and talk to other men? when she has a husband, calling on the phone is one step closer to actually meeting this guy, and than it sometimes begins to turn intimate. yes i would be very upset, if i were u, i would sit down and be crystal clear on how i felt about this man, and tell her to stop, u have to set boundaries, the boundaries are for u, not her, the boundaries are how far u will allow this to go without her having to suffer the consequences. but u must be prepared to go through with the consequences and maybe divorce her if it can't be worked out. usually when these things begin it's only a matter of time before it turns into an affair, cause it is on her mind, and in her thoughts. she minimizes the situation as if it were just something so innocent, but really it is right up there with cheating. why would she seek someone else to talk to outside her marriage, why need it be a man, if she is lonely she can certinly find female friends. let her know that this is indeed hurting u, and it will stop and stop now, if she refuses or lies and continues to talk to him, there isn't much one can do but get out of it.
2006-11-20 08:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Bud just cause she's an exhibitionist doesn't mean she is guilty of adultery. The road ahead however, does not look good. Tell us where did the naked pics originate and what part if any did you play in their production? If you really and truly love her, it's not going to matter whether or not you trust her. What counts most is are you able to carry on knowing there is a remote possibilty of there being a repeat performance? The fact that it appears you have not been incarcerated for the termination of her services, tells me at least that you might have a little streak of compassion going for you. I would suggest you carry on normally as you would but try extending a little more atention her way. A dozen roses might add to your affection! She could just be bored or feel that the zest has gone out of the relationship. In any case give her another chance and ease up on the photography!
2016-05-21 22:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened with me and my ex wife and she did cheat. First of all you can not blame the man or woman who is working to support the other spouse that is not. Yes it is easier to talk on the phone it is also easier not to leave a history of the conversation on the phone. My wife now chats some on-line but she does not try to hide it or close out the IM window when I come into the room. This is why I trust her and know that she is not trying to cheat. That and she was cheated on in her last marriage and would not do that to me.
2006-11-20 03:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by rottn30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time with your wife and less time at work. Do you remeber your courtship? Remember what brought you 2 together? You must bring that back and keep it. Working late will only harm your marriage. You must confront your wife before she has an affair. It is not a question of "if" but "when" that will begin. Jobs are a dime a dozen if you have the skills and qualifications, love is not. Do the right thing and spend more time with your wife. Your career is simply not worth it.
2006-11-20 02:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look at the other answers...they have it right. You have a problem and you need to deal with it. Why isn't she chatting with women? When my husband is gone, I chat on line too, but with other women and I do not talk on the phone with them....just on line...these women do not know where I live and I don't know where they live either...if she just was looking for a friend, she would not be chatting with guys...wake up brother and nip this in the bud
2006-11-20 03:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by Emme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't be upset at anyone but yourself for not being there for your wife! She's turned to this man because you aren't around- she TOLD YOU WHY! "You work late hours" is what she is unsatisfied with, she wants companionship, someone to talk to, etc. And I bet you just ignored that, haven't made any changes to satisfy her huh? You can make her happy or loose her... better change quick if you care at all. She has a need that you are not fulfilling... so she's turned to this internet man... what are you, as her husband, going to do about that?
2006-11-20 03:00:21 · answer #6 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a red flag. If you want to save the relationship before it totally sinks I suggest you have a heart to heart with your wife. She is obviously missing something in your relationship or she wouldn't feel the need to "chat" with strangers. Ask her what it is that you are not providing her and see if you can't make some changes.
2006-11-20 03:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. i would be anyway...i mean, usually people do those things with not so good intentions. I guess it depends on your wife and how much you trust her....is he just a friend?
On the other hand...try calling her at work if you can and being more available, maybe you can help her not feel so lonely.
2006-11-20 03:23:51 · answer #8 · answered by Kbailey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a stop to this. It's escalating to the point somethings going to happen! Ask her to let you participate in the conversations!
2006-11-20 03:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, first of all she is wasting money on the phone secondly it is called cheating.
2006-11-20 08:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋