Is there a difference between one night stand and a affair in man`s mind?
2006-11-20 02:47:21 · 11 answers · asked by Gilmor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it depends on the size of her funbags and where the map of hawaii was left
2006-11-20 02:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like all relationships, you start out and it might turn into a one-night stand or dating or you might end up in a life-changing-long-term relationship that leads to love marriage or children. Point is both a one night stand and an affair are acts of infidelity, where it led or didn't lead doesn't show anything going on in his mind other than the situation itself. He cheated. Stop looking for excuses to keep him around.
To stay with him, 6 things must happen:
*Find out why he cheated, what he was unsatisfied with within the marriage and fix it, establish open lines of communication to fix future problems so this doesn't happen again
*Feel, know and trust that he would not do this again.
*Forgive him completely
*He must feel very regretful and show it in actions not just say it
*Both of you have to want to work on this marriage more than ever
*Precautions: STD testing ASAP and 3 months and 6 months from now, condoms.
If you don't have all six things here, just leave him. Leave.
2006-11-20 02:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. For most men, a one night stand is about inflating his ego or short term sexual fulfillment. It's not about wanting out of his marriage, or looking to fill what's lacking at home. It's more of what's lacking in him, and not you. Usually an affair is lasting, and what he isn't getting at home (sex, love, emotional support or whatever) he gets from his other woman.
My opinion is that all people make mistakes. We aren't perfect, and can't be expected to never screw up. Yes, cheating is always wrong. But if you both want your marriage to work, then this shouldn't stand in your way.
Why not seek counseling or some kind of group support to help you deal with this? If you are both willing, then marriage counseling would be your best bet here.
2006-11-20 02:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say, but a man that has a one night stand is the worst kind of cheater. It means he is willing to throw away his committment to you for someone he doesn't even care about or know. The good news is that he isn't emotionally invested or attached and won't leave you over it, the bad news is that this will probably happen again. Men who have one night stands are usually habitual about it simply because it is about sex, not love. The unfortunately thing for us women is that sex=love which is why it is so confusing to us to sort out.
2006-11-20 02:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jillian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think both are worst, but if you want one answer i would have to say having an affair would be worst cause just like you said it was more involvement and more things that he did with the other women. I'm sorry that this has happen to you because yes it would be hard for me to forgive an sure as hell hard to for me to forget, so i sympathize with you. Some men are weak and fall short in temptation. you have to forgive him though or else you want be a rest in your mind,hopefully he want do it again. but don't keep checking up on him to see cause you are better than that and it will stress you out,sit back relax let him no that you not worried cause if he does something again believe me it will come to the light trust me it will and then you give his @ss his check out pass to get the hell on. good luck
2016-03-29 02:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A one night stand is just that an affair is a lasting on oiing thing however a cheat is a cheat is a cheat
2006-11-20 02:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men may think tht an affair is more sinful than a one-night-stand. men feel worse when they are having an affair than when they are having a one-night-stand. therefore the tendency for men to go for the latter is much higher because no strings attached and they feel better.. but the truth is, they are equally sinful and equally shameful. it's just an excuse tht men give themselves..
2006-11-20 02:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by caterpillar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe. It depends.
Men usually cheat because they need either more love/affection or more/more interesting sex.
Love/affection is not acheived via a one night stand.
An ongoing affair for sex is easier to fix than one for love.
That's my thought. You've PROBABLY got the easiest situation to deal with, although of course I don't know exactly why he did. Maybe he's just horny and thought he could get away with it?
2006-11-20 02:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey, thats how they start one night stand until they have another urge to do it again,what i recommend is to get leave him alone and how they say if he really loves you hell go and look for you if not it means he never was meent for you. probly know that he dosent see you hell really think about what not to do . its up to you
2006-11-20 03:12:58 · answer #9 · answered by ali_3ys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if he goes for more!
2006-11-20 02:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋