I always feel sad when I see other complete families. I am divorced and my child lives with my ex-husband in another state. I divorced my ex because he was controlling, money-minded and abusive.
It hurts me when I see others happy with their families (husband, wife and children) I feel like I have failed in life and that nothing has worked out.
My career and family life are not where they should be and my child is not doing as well as she could be since she does not have both parents around her.
My life is in such a mess compared to others who grew up with me. Its hard not to compare yourself to your peers.
I just don't see any good in my life except that I am alive.
How do you deal with this issue?
2006-11-20 02:42:33 · 7 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What you see on the surface isn't always what's really happening behind closed doors. Everyone has problems, they just might not show it.
Stop looking at what others have and start seeing what you've got. Put your energy and your effort into your child.
2006-11-20 02:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like depression. You should seek counseling and medical help to deal with your emotions. Most marriages end up in divorce (over 45%). You are not alone in having a failed marriage, nor is it your fault. Look at those other couples as what you want to be which is why you got out of the relationship you were in. Get yourself together before seeking a mate. Once you are happy with you, then you can be a good mate to someone.
And finally stop worrying about the Jones'. Most people put on a good farce for others. When I divorced over 2 years ago people were shocked to here how unhappy we both were. We always looked like the perfect couple. Looks can be deceiving.
2006-11-20 11:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why does your daughter live with your ex instead of you? This may be a big part of why you feel the way you do. I would try having her live with you or atleast see your more. If you have more with your daughter than you may not care about having the complete family. I am divorced, both my children live with me and I could care less about the complete family because all I care about is my kids. They make the complete family to me. Also if you daughter is not doing so well, this may be the reason, she may need her Mother! If you ex will fight you in court about her living with you, you may be able to use the reasons she is not doing well in order for the court to give you over to her. Also if it takes moving to the other state to be able to see her more often, do it. The most important thing in the world is our kids.
2006-11-20 10:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am in a situation somewhat like yours. I am in bad health, and my soon to be ex-wife, is a drug addict.They have taken my children after I was the primary caregiver for trhe last 8 years. I also am alone and don't see any good in my life. I wish I knew what we could do, I am at a loss for any solution. I wake up every day ..........
2006-11-20 10:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy to see those families. And know that one day you will have a happy family to. Blind faith has always held me. Do I have a family? Yes. But mine is broken too. So no I don't feel like a part of a family. Make your life what you want it to be. You and your child's. People will see this and want to be a part of yours. Have a great day.
2006-11-20 10:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you had a rough time and now you're depressed about it. Cards are just delt the way they are... you should see a counselor.
2006-11-20 10:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop putting yourself down and stop thinking about the past and do something to change your future?
2006-11-20 10:46:57 · answer #7 · answered by imaplayauzahater 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋