9 month old won't go to sleep on own.?

Question

Our 9 month old usually goes to sleep in our arms at night and we transfer her to her bed and she sleeps the entire night or if she wakes up she DOES self-soothe herself back to sleep. We have tried putting her in her crib when she is drowsy, but she just gets wide awake. She doesn't cry for us, she just is wide awake. I have been reading all this stuff about how important this is that we put her to bed drowsy----however this seems to work for us because we have a good sleeping baby. Parenting is different for everyone, I realize....but what long term BAD effects will it have later if we don't put her to bed drowsy? We really thought we were doing a great job with her and are SO happy with how she sleeps, but on the other hand, maybe we are doing something wrong? Thanks!

I guess my question wasn't specific enough...WHAT happens if I don't put her to bed drowsy? When she is 2 or 3 and sleeps in a bed, she won't go to bed without me being there? I just need to know what will happen...need some advice from been there, done that Moms! I just think she's doing GREAT now.

Answer 1

We did the same thing, and when our son got older he refused to go to sleep unless we lay down with him. He often woke up and wanted to sleep with us (which meant less than restful sleep for everyone). It's much harder to get them to fall asleep on their own when they're stubborn toddlers!

It's not too early to start a bedtime routine. Read books, sing a few songs, etc. Do the same thing in the same order every night. Then put her in bed until she falls asleep. Eventually the routine will trigger sleepiness in her, just as being in your arms at bedtime does now.

Answer 2

This happens with my son as well, who is also 9 months, except he screams for us. I have gotten him in the habit of putting himself to sleep. When I see that he is getting sleepy I'll put him in his crib and he falls asleep on his own. He will cry for a few minutes, then he starts to play, and a few minutes after that he's asleep. The whole thing takes 10, no more than 15 minutes. If he keeps crying and won't stop after 15 minutes I give him another bottle and that usually does it.
He used to fall asleep in our arms as well but about a month ago he started waking up when we'd put him down, too, only he would just start screeching at us. It was awful! But he would suddenly be wide awake and throw himself around the crib even though he had already fallen fast asleep.
I really worried that this was going to be a habit for him so I became very strict with him about falling asleep on his own. But I do always make sure he's ready for a nap, I don't force him to sleep if he's not sleepy.
It sounds like you're on the right track and your baby isn't crying, but how long will she stay awake for if you leave her alone in the crib?
Sometimes to make sure our baby is good and tired (during the day for naps, at night we have a routine) we'll engage him in extra physical activity, then follow it with a bottle and close cuddles and that usually makes him REALLY tired.

I hope I was of some help, but it sounds like your doing good. Don't fret, you and your baby will figure out what works best for you! Good luck!

Answer 3

Forget about the Lavendar and all those other suggestions. My mother showed me with my first daughter (she's 17 months) how to make her sleep through the night on her own. It's as simple as this: Give her some play time, feed her her dinner and give her a nice warm soothing bath, read her favorite book and put her down to go to sleep. Because she's worn out and full she'll stay asleep and you don't have to worry about self-soothing and all that.

Answer 4

You really should let her fall asleep on her own. You are a great parent for all of your tender love, but you really aren't doing yourself any favors by setting up bad sleeping patterns. Children should learn to self sooth and if your daughter doesn't cry for a long time when she is in bed you should probably let her be.

Answer 5

Try using lavender&chamomille soothing bubble baths and body washes. After that smooth some of the same ingredients of the vapor rub on the baby's back,chest,neck,and under her nose. Usually the better brands work like Johnson&Johnson and Vicks for babies. It used to work for my 10 1/2 yr old daughter when she was an infant. Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

I have been given this from a library e book and it worked on the two considered one of my infants - have confidence me this wont be the final time your toddler needs on your mattress. we would circulate into the toddler's room and touch (pat) the toddler and tell them they are all precise (20 seconds max) - do no longer %. them up - depart the room and enable them to cry for no extra suitable than 10 minutes - then repeat the technique. it extremely is hell the 1st night, yet then you definately are surprisingly plenty executed. touch is important and voice is important because of the fact, with the aid of their cries and screams, they nevertheless be attentive to they are enjoyed and not abandoned. I additionally be attentive to the "cry it out" technique works, yet i'm do unlike that a toddler could experience abandoned and on their own to paintings out their fears.

Answer 7

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health problems.If parents follow some simple
techniques for making their children sleep,
it can be avoided. I found useful information
at http://nosleep.in/sleepchildren.html

Answer 8

i have three little girls. I use the ferber(I think thatr's how u spell it) technique. i layed my children in their crib and give thhem 10 to 15 minutes to sleep. if that doesn't work then I don't know what to tell you. Good luck