2006-11-20 02:38:14 · 22 answers · asked by Bonika F 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Get a paternity test done to prove that he is the father and then file for child support from him.
2006-11-20 02:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing what your age and situation are there are many possibilities. You may want to keep this baby, regardless if the father will be involved or not. At this point I would suggest keeping a diary of his actions/lack of actions and any communications you have regarding the pregnancy. This will be helpful in terminating his rights if you should want to do so. You can also check into adoption if you are not ready to be a parent, let alone a single parent. Do you have a good support system with family or friends? You have some time to make any decisions. Take care of yourself and try to do what is best for this baby. You cant force this guy to be involved. Doing so could have terrible results for you and/or the baby. He could be neglectful or abusive even. Please discuss your options with a professional counselor or clergy person. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-20 10:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by his temptress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you feel is right for you and the baby is what you should do. The father may want nothing to do with you but if you choose to keep the baby then he will have to at least pay child support. Also some men have a hard time with finding out they are going to be a dad. After some time they get used to it and get very excited. Lets hope that is the case here. Good luck and congrats on the baby
2006-11-20 10:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love this baby with all your heart and soul. Be prepared to raise a wonderful person on your own. Too bad that the father doesn't want to be involved, but don't let that stop you. I would recommend that you make the necessary arrangements for child support. Even if the doesn't want to have anything to do with you, he should be prepared to help take care of the baby financially.
Good luck!!!
2006-11-20 10:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have some very serious thinking to do. You need to decide what you are going to do with your baby....obviously the guy is gone and you need to face the reality of being a single mother or giving your child up for adoption or having an abortion right away. No one can answer this question for you. Talk to your parents right away...only they can help you with this. Don't be surprised if they are angry and hurt...and you need to respect that. Don't let that stand in the way of asking them for help. Good luck...
2006-11-20 10:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...first of all....then get out now! I was with someone that obviously wanted nothing to do with me when i was pregnant, he cheated on me and up until i was 8 and a half months pregnant...and I didnt even know... I found out through his cell phone on texts from another girl!! But then when my daughter was born I figured i would try one more time...and wouldn't ya know...it happened AGAIN...with the same girl!!! So ...my advice to you...is leave. And know that you will be ok on your own, and you will love that child with all you are and you WILL be so much better off without him!
ps...i met a guy about a few months later and he is absolutely AMAZING!!!! He treats my daughter like his own! So don't be so down....everything will be ok.
Good luck to you and your little beautiful baby!!
2006-11-20 10:47:20 · answer #6 · answered by mslatin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him! I know that is hard to do but that's what I had to do when I had my first baby 24 years ago. You can either commit to raising the baby by yourself (except you can go after him for child support) or give the baby up for adoption. You can't DEPEND on him to help you raise the baby (except financially) if he doesn't want to he won't and you can't make him. As hard as that is to accept (I know - I've been there!) that is what you have to do. Good luck to you!!!
2006-11-20 10:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by dmommab@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband treated me and my son the same way. It was not fun, or easy... but now My Son and I are the happiest little family on the planet.
You don't need him. You can do this with the support of your friends and family. I know this must be very tough, but hang in there. That little baby will bring you more joy then you can imagine.
2006-11-20 10:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by Fluffy Rover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank your stars that he finally let you in on his crappy nature before you wasted more time with the jerk. Your options are to keep the baby or give it up for adoption. Please don't have an abortion, because your baby shouldn't have to pay the penalty for her father's stupidity. Also, at this stage in fetal development, she looks like a little baby and she can feel pain, even more intensley than we do. Seek out help from religious organizations, they can help you procure a crib and things for the baby. My mom had me at 16 and I have turned out just fine...
Good luck and God Bless!
2006-11-20 10:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by The Nag 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well it all is about what you want who cares about him. if it is in your heart to care for the baby after he/she is born then do so. but my best advice is anything you do do not abort the baby even tho the baby not here the baby is a life. i have 4 buitifull children and i tell you i wouldnt change a thing. but if you do not want a child then the best thing you can do for the child is give he/she up for adoption but if you want to be in the childs life but have someone else care for he/she theres a such thing as open adoption where you pick who cares for your child and you also can be there to watch the child grow up.
2006-11-20 10:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by milwmcnutt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋