married 14 yrs....raised her 2 children to adults...had to move out of new home...living in nw indiana....with brothers family...no kids of my own...her basis for divorce is that we don't have enough in common...after 14 yrs. she figures that out....i'm about to loose my mind
2006-11-20 02:29:36 · 18 answers · asked by DADZILLA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It will get better. Same thing happened to me same week the youngest turned 18 See ya later!!! It happens nothing you can do about it. Keep yourself as distant from it all as you can if not you will never heal. If the children still want a relationship with you then be there for them.. Stay busy get lots of friends maybe a good time to find a good church.. Your free to do what you want take advantage of it make yourself have fun start your quest to find that one that is your best friend and wants to be with you for you not because you have a pay check.....Good luck
2006-11-20 02:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by bgaroo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you and your wife tried any type of counseling? I would think that there are more reasons other than not having anything in common.
Divorce is never easy but it seems that the longer you are together, the harder divorce is. I would make an attempt at working things out first. If your wife won't talk to you, sit and write her a letter explaining how you feel and what you'd like to see happen. If she refuses, there's nothing you can do but move on with your life. Good Luck
2006-11-20 02:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a divorce attorney and I often do mediations for divorcing couples. It's not uncommon to have one or both spouses cry in my office, and talk about feeling hopeless/depressed. However, I tell them that divorce is one of the most painful experiences and messy at that. But, you have to keep your head about you, and remember that in 10 years the decisions you make now will effect you. I promise that when the divorce is over you will feel better, however don't let the emotions blind you to the point that you don't fight for what's yours. Stay strong and look to your children and friends for support.
2006-11-20 02:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by Rayslittlegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really have a answer for you. I just wanted to say that I'm sorry you have to go through this. You sound like a very nice man who stood up and was a man (raising her kids etc.) As bad as you feel right now you will feel better. I know that is easier said than done. She obviously wasn't the woman you were supposed to be with. You will find her or you will find happiness with yourself. Chin up!
2006-11-20 02:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by sunnydreams1123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can personally appreciate your concern. Therapy is a great help in attempting to resolve these emotional issues. Otherwise, it will just take a tincture of time; the likely time frame is between 18 and 24 months of suffering before your pain eases.
2006-11-20 03:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by neutral 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your sadness. Seeing a counselor might help sort through all your feelings. I think the most important thing to think of is that it is not about you or whether or not you are a worthy person. Also, try to think of it like this....why would you want to be with a person who does not want to be with you?
2006-11-20 02:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I divorced, it took about 2 years for it to stop being actually physically painful...
{{hugs}} You've got a long road ahead, friend, but you will get through it.
2006-11-20 02:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Marion K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman are great at fooling people try to calm down at least you raised your kids, mine are dead the woman had 2 abortions that's when you lose your mind.
2006-11-20 02:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to look at the positives. You were a good man to raise her kids. I'm sure they have respect for you for that.
2006-11-20 02:32:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dwell on it, just forget her right now, Sounds like you were to good for her anyway. Don't you think? This is lana from indy
2006-11-20 02:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋