I'm a lesbian and I have a girlfriend. We're together for almost three years. My family doesn't know that i'm a lesbian though they have their suspicions. My problem is my family is very religious and they view homosexuals as persons who are crazy or go directly to hell. And I'm the first daughter so my parents are excited with the marriage and grandchildren thing. Also, our family is quite known in our province for our business and being active in this Catholic group and having a lesbian in our family will change that reputation. I don't mind but I'm worried about my how my parents might take it. I love them so much but I love my girlfriend. I'm so worried that they'll be heartbroken.
2006-11-20 02:28:38 · 15 answers · asked by Stacie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
change for a normal life, straight one
:> peace
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2006-11-23 17:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If there is one the i know that there is a lot of los in this life but don't be scared tell the wort mistake u could every make is not 2 validate the person that ur w/ and make them feel like that there a part of ur life u will lose some people and some will come around slowly and some won't at all but u win some u lose some u ans ur girl friend just have 2 work it out and i hope the person that ur w/ is strong enough 2 stand by u when u really take things hard that is one of the most important things. B very careful on how u handle some one Else's HART and please what ever u do don't lie u are not protecting them u will make it worse let them deal w/ it the way they know howbecause a lie will hurt more.But good luck 2 u don't b scared 2 live ur life as who u are don't hide 4 any one it will not b good 4 u and the person u love.
2006-11-21 17:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by djonecat@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your girlfriend probably wants you to tell them and I totally understand the religious family situation, but the sooner you are out to them the sooner they are able to deal with the fact that you are a lesbian. Do it now so maybe by next christmas everyone will feel comfortable together. Maybe leave them a long letter explaining it when you leave after thanksgiving.
2006-11-20 11:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have answered this to a real life friend...same situation except with politics not religion however they were very religious.
First of all your religion is your choice. And you are an individual.Any one who believes in God...should love and not judge no one that is his job and they should respect that. You can not keep this secret and torture yourself anymore. Tell them and let them chose how they would handle it and you live your life as it is yours. I can not imagine they wouldn't love you anymore. If they act as if they don't just remember you are your own, this is your life I can not express that enough. There is only one to live. Good Luck.
The outcome of my friend is her mother and father had issues at first but grew to respect her and her lifestyle. All things take time.
2006-11-20 11:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are on your own and pay your own bills then just tell them. If you are anyway still dependent on your parents then hold your tongue until you are.
Leading a double life with those that are important to you is harmful to your mental health. It is better to be honest. Let the chips fall where they will.
Anyway, who says you need to go through life waiving a rainbow flag telling everyone you are gay? It is not your responsibility to publicize it! Tell whoever is important to you. The rest of society doesn't need to know.
2006-11-20 11:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be honest with them. After all you had to be honest with yourself when you realized you were a lesbian, right? You need to be open with them, and you have to be brave about how they may react. Hopefully, they'll be supportive.
As far as the community, you'll have people who are supportive and people who are not. Focus only on the ones that are, don't waste your time with those who are not.
Remember, you can't change who you are, you just have to be strong enough to be who you are!
2006-11-20 10:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know if it is hard for you carry this secret anymore and you turely love your grilfriend,and you know that your parents love you.There is nothing stronger than your love for one another,and also your families love. Your family may not understand,but there will be alot of things that they will never understand,but in order for them to know and understand,you have to be the one to open that door for them.And trust you instincts and your love.And everything will be alright.And remember you'll need to give them time to understand.It's going to hard,but don't let it get the best of you and your true love.
2006-11-20 10:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by chrissy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A friend to everybody is a friend to nobody. If you believe in me then you cannot ask this your lesbian question. Just choose one among them either your parent or your girlfriend...period. Meanwhile,my religion(not christianity) advises me to leave what i'm in doubt & take what i'm not in doubt.
2006-11-20 10:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by BALARABE U 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Too bad if they are heartbroken. They are only caring about themselves if they have a problem with your sexuality. It is their job to love you no matter what and you can't change what you are. They will either have to accept it or not.
2006-11-20 10:43:49 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take the chance and come out to your folks. I have a daughter, and I cannot imagine her telling me anything that would keep me from loving her. I mean, my god, she married a conservative, and I still love her. Go for it. I bet they will love you as well.
2006-11-20 10:35:31 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell them, leave it on time, they'll eventually understand with nothing said
2006-11-21 19:10:29 · answer #11 · answered by innocence 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋