He's always been this way. First, he didn't want me to go to church. I was a stay at home mom who couldn't drive and didn't go no where. Pastors wife would pick me up, and take me to church on Sunday morning. Hubby complained he worked all the time and didn't get to spend enough time with me and the kid. Later I started going to Bible study on Wednesday night, and he REALLY didn't like that. Now sometimes, there are social events like dinners, and communions, and he says I "don't need to" go to more than one church service a week. I don't get it. I mean its church, for petes sake. Why is he like this? He was brought up Catholic and had to go to church all the time when he was little. I developed my relationship with God when I was 20 and have been involved with a church. But my hubby feels threatened or something if I go more than once a week?
2006-11-20 01:57:49 · 16 answers · asked by :-) literary cappy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well you could tell him if he really wanted to spend time with you he could go with you to church. You can tell him he can be jealous of alot of things but you given your soul to Jesus shouldn't be one of them.
2006-11-20 02:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is telling you the answer. He said he works all the time and resents that when he is home, you are running off to church.
If you can't get him to go, then you should look at how much time you spend with him.
Remember, scripture says to win him quietly, not complaining, or nagging, or insisting on your own way.
1 Corinthians 7
Ephesians 5
1 Timothy 2
These are but a few of the passages. I understand that submission is a scary concept. I don't thing God is saying blindly follow, but is saying to be respectful.
(There is another passage, but I cannot recall it at this time.)
There is a great difference, and I hope that you can find the way.
2006-11-20 10:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, it doesn't sound like church is the problem. His problem is that he wants your entire life to revolve around him and that anything more than the 'mandatory' once-a-week church service is time away from him. He's self-absorbed and possessive. Just because you're a stay-home mum doesn't mean you don't a deserve a life of your own, especially if it's something so important to you like religion. If you feel that the additional church functions enrich your life, you have every right to be involved in them. Besides, having more friends with common faith and interests is healthy.
You both need to work out these issues because it really sounds to me like issues to do with compromise and respecting each other's space (well....HE doesn't respect YOUR space). If talking to him doesn't work, you might want to consider marriage counselling.
2006-11-20 10:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by Andromeda_Carina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my own personal opinion, I think that God himself is wanting to work on him spritually. The verses that the one anwerer gave are definately helpful. Try getting him to go at least once, or maybe if your church has a men's ministry have them talk with your husband. I go to Lakewood Church here in Houston & we have an awsome Men's ministry that I truly get alot out of.
2006-11-20 10:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Phil P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No reason for him to show anger.
He sounds very possessive to me.
Sounds like you have been living a secluded life with him and your children and he was comfortable with it just like that.
YOU need to think about what makes you happy in life. Being married is a two way street and he is not meeting you halfway at all. He is expecting you to live under his shelter under his terms only.
This is your life as well and I would suggest you do what makes you happy and get those children involved in church as well.
2006-11-20 10:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your husband is a control freak. Why dont you drive no driver's license cause he does not want you to have a drivers license . He has no shame of you having to be picked up by preacher's wife. if he were any kind of man he would be ashamed that his wife did not have her own car,her own job and her own money . he is manipulating you and you are letting it happen . for god's sake and your own peace get away and get a divorce from this control freak. good luck and god bless and happy thanksgiving.
2006-11-20 10:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's afraid you are going to leave him. You've always stayed home with the kids and he's been able to feel like he had control over the situation. I would pick and choose the functions that are most important and limit them to two a week for now. Continue to show him your devotion to him and maybe he'll see that your intentions are only good.
2006-11-20 10:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is controlling insecure and immature. But hey you married and had a kid by him so it's a little late to start complaining now.
Invite him along. If he doesn't want to come that's on him. If you haven't you need to learn to drive and become more self sufficient. I have a feeling you'll need it soon.
2006-11-20 10:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my guess is that he feels that you might actually do what the Word says in Ephesians 5:11 and leave him. You should let nothing stand in your way of Worshipping, and spending time with God.
2006-11-20 10:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anointed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion i am agreeing with your hubby..One church function is enough..I dont no if you are talking about one background religion or not..Some people are very anti towards what you are not.People are all different back grounds..This can be dangerous..
2006-11-20 10:02:38 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋