do you think i will be accepted by my family if i tell them im gay?

Question

i've been gay for 17 years and not told anyone will my family accept it now?

Answer 1

You would definitely be accepted by me if i was your mom. Gay people cannot help being Gay . Why should you be treated like an outcast by your family, you are their son anyway. It might come as a shock at first but they will get over it. I personally love Gay people, i find them amusing, funny and very very witty. It is nothing to be ashamed off.

Answer 2

I opted u for best question, i think a lot of people are in the same boat as you. i kind of went through the same thing as im sure many of us have that are also gay. No one can really say whether they will accept you or not, you know it took my family a while to accept it and my sister said that at the end of the day i am still their blood and we left it as that. It all depends on how they feel about homosexuality 'cos with some people they just cant stand the thought. I think it'd be wise to subtly hint to them or ask them how they feel about homosexuality and go from there. I really wouldnt suggest just diving in feet first because some relatives might just not want to acknowledge you in the future if you tell them. Everyone is different tho and they might even take it quite well but think carefully how your going to tell them if at all.

Answer 3

I think it doesnt matter HOW LONG youve been gay, you can ONLY tell your family when you are ready. I knew i was wen i was 13 but i kept it secret. I tested the water with my family when I was 19 and my dad didnt really comment and my mum said she'd march me to the doctors!!!!! We had been watching a programme on homosexuality so they werent suspisious of me. Ofcourse with their reactions i decided it wasnt the right time and i wasnt strong enough to deal with the outcome. It was only wen i was 21 and happy in a relationship that i told my mum first. Thankfully for me she accepted it (altough she was in denial for about a year after and would say, "dont you think he's good looking?" My dad i was dreading the most, but he was cool and said "Your 21 and old enough to know what you want. Aslong as your happy, then im happy". All my family has been great. But some of my friends havent had it as good as me. One of my mates got kicked out the house and he's been told he's shamed his family. He's excepted it now and has learned to live without his family. Sometimes families come round to excepting it after a time. Some straight away and some never. Guess you should make sure your prepared for whatever the outcome maybe. Maybe test the water or something. Good luck mate x

Answer 4

If you are Gay, and as Gay's say its natural, then you have been Gay all of your life - As such you must be 17 Years Old!

If Gay is Natural, you can't suddenly become Gay.

If however being Gay is not Natural, then being Gay is a life choice.

With respect to your question - It depends if you have ever deceived any of your family, or if any of your family are homophobic...

My cousin is Gay & is 36 years old - The family only became fully aware of his Gayness 4 years ago.

I am not homophobic or Anti Gay, but I can't stand people who are Gay, and pretend not to be - Pop Stars, Footballers, etc...

Also, if homosexuality is natural (Genetic), then Gay people (Men & Women) should naturally NOT reproduce!

Answer 5

People react differently so it's hard to say, however, if they are a loving family, which I'm sure they will be, they will love and accept you for who you are, regardless of any preferences. Sometimes,as the case often is, deep down, families know anyway and the news may not come as such a shock. Just be prepared for mixed reactions.

Answer 6

Is there someone in your family you could talk to in confidence about it before making a general announcement?

It's really hard to say what will happen because I don't know your family.

I know lots of gay people whose families are just fine with it, and others who have cut their gay children out of the family completely.

It's also possible they already know/suspect you are gay, and are waiting for you to tell them

Sorry - I know this isn't much help. But I hope it all works out well for you.

Answer 7

Depends on the family. Try telling your friends first or consult a favourite Auntie, if you have one. Just take it from there. I think it is better to be able to live openly rather than having to hide being gay. There is always a price to pay for being honest, are you ready to afford the cost? best of luck.

Answer 8

Depends on the family, you would know better than us. Tell them whether the accept it or not.

Answer 9

I've never really understood why people think that it's a big deal about coming out to your parents. Like it's actually any of thier business!
Another thing I don't get - why people think that 'family' is actually important. You can't choose them. Can't swap them. You're stuck with them forever.
Maybe somebody will explain why to ME one day.

Answer 10

i really hope so my sister is going through the same but hasnt kept it to herself for as long .she told me few years ago but asked me not to say anything so i didnt . she,s now making herself ill coz her partner has moved in and she knows she has to tell my parents sooner or later . go for it i never felt any differently about her if youre happy they should be happy for you. they may be a little taken aback but i think thats ok i was when she told me .you,ll be fine and i bet they will be too.x