for her actions in a court of law??? This happened to me about 5 months ago. I have lost my source of income neccessary to sustain my life. My ex and I have been together for 10 years. We shared everything together. and we were to marry this year. He left and moved in with her instantly. I have been left with deep emotional and mental scars that will be with me for the rest of my life. This has negatively affected my ablility to find employment that will give me enough income to sustain myself, not to mention dealing with future relationships, my family, my friends etc.
If you agree there should be reprocussions by law for women like this, please let me know. I will be going to the courthouse this week to file a hearing. after all if she came and stole my TV, this act is punishable by law. Why is not stealing someones quality of life a punishable crime too. I know there are many out there that have been through this. Show of hands please for support. At 56, hard to start over.
2006-11-20 00:55:58 · 19 answers · asked by asuare1950 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is a law that you can sue her under. It's called Alienation of Affections. I almost took my hubby's floozy (now x) to court for the same thing. But, according to the lawyers, it is VERY hard, expensive, and not worth the effort. Get a REALLY good lawyer, and you can even sue for Emotional Stress, Mental breakdown etc. (if the lawyer is really good, they will add to it) But Hon, is it really worth dragging all her dirty laundry out in court? Remember, they will both retaliate, and your dirty laundry will be on display too. Think long and hard about it first. Is it really worth it? I didn't think so. My best revenge was when she dumped him 5 months later, and I had kept my dignity, and hubby came crawling back, only to find that I had happily moved on, and met someone else!!
2006-11-20 01:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it always the woman's fault? Did she hold a gun on him? Did she threaten to put a contract out on his family if he didn't leave you and move in with her? Doesn't he have a mind of his own? Couldn't he have chosen to stay with you if that's what he wanted to do?
He has free will and you said HE left and moved in with her. She didn't drag him out kicking and screaming. So why isn't he responsible for his actions? Why is HIS decision her fault?
Yes. If you steal someone's property it's punishable by law. Know why? The property doesn't have the ability make a decision as to where it wants to go or who it wants to be with.
With people it's different. People have free will. Now I'm not saying she's blameless. If she knew you two were an item she certainly should not have encouraged him. But it takes two to tango. If doesn't sound as if she made him do anything he didn't want to do. I don't know very much about the law but you were going to marry. You weren't already married. I'm guessing that in the eyes of the law he was free game. He made his choice. Sadly, it was not you.
2006-11-20 09:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say that's how life works. She is 33% at fault. You get 33% fault and so does your ex. Perhaps she wiled in there, but he let her. I'm not sure how you treated your ex, but if you didn't treat him well, you contributed to his leaving. This is a minute portion though. What is really your fault is the fact that you depended on someone else completely to sustain a particular lifestyle. While I believe in lifetime partnerships, a woman who can't take care of herself is a shame to women's lib. Being a stay at home mom is admirable, but when children are school age, she should be doing something to better herself always. If it's not going back to school, she she work even part time for her own well being.
It's cases like the one you are attempting to create that make our legal system terrible. This is almost as bad as the urban legend about the robber who sued the homeowner he was trying to steal from.
2006-11-20 09:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should have gotten the marriage license early on. If your man is incapable of making a marriage commitment. You have not said that you"cannot" support yourself financially. I don't know much about common law marriages, but from what you have said, he will be moving on with the next woman too, if she talks marriage.
I am sorry that this happened. You've just got to realize though, that your man must have been looking, when she came into his life. It' isn't all "her" fault.
Believe in yourself! I am 57 and have had to start over. I've learned that you can't depend on someone else for you happiness and security.
2006-11-20 09:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in any case of adultry or so to speak should be held accountable by all parties male or female. If in fact they are married and an outside source gets involved with one or the other parties already bond by law and god. It would be a hard case to prove who started what. as to say if a man comes on to a girl and doesn't make it known he is married and the same for women. we live in a society where there is nothing but temptation that people get greedy and go after what it is they desire physically and materialized as to what there heart really needs.
To a degree I believe there should be a law but on the other hand it is a freedom of choice and free will of all parties involved. Including the man you were with.
Best of luck to you and God Bless. ...
Keep your chin up things always have a brighter side.
2006-11-20 09:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by 4mika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off...no one can break up another persons relationship IF that relationship is good and solid. Secondly, your boyfriend had to be a willing participant in the break up. Had you been married the past 10 years, you may have gotten alimony...but you chose to live with him without benefit of marriage, so that was a chance you took and a choice you made. Above all...you refer to this man you have been with 10 years, as your "source of income". That statement speaks volumes about your character. Maybe that is why he left you for another woman...he was under no legal or moral obligation to support you and probably got tired of being your "source of income" for 10 years. Get a job and move on...be thankful for the 10 years of being provided for, and wish him well. Sorry...no support from me on this one.
2006-11-20 09:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for you. Is the woman younger than you? so your to-be husband left you.
No matter what, if there isn't anything you can do by the law, than god will punish her(for doing such a thing)
and there is a word like find a thing that you lost in the way you have lost it. It's cruel, but I don't see any other way to get over your life
2006-11-20 09:08:28 · answer #7 · answered by laneige 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET A LIFE!!! You are talking as if your ex was your personal belonging. No wonder he wants to be with another woman! How can it be her fault? She can try everything to seduce him, however, in the end it is his decision to leave you or to fall for her. You have lost your source of income: that was your partner? Or did you lose your job because you were not able to concentrate on your job as your heart is broken? It is difficult yes - but it is not the other woman's fault. Your ex - he is the mean one... you may be able to claim money from him... but that is about the only thing you can try.
2006-11-20 09:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by female_daywalker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear what happened to you. Unfortunally the courts can't control the actions of your ex or the woman who ruined the relationship of you and your fiance. Unless she directly made you lose your job there really isn't anything that the court system can do.
2006-11-20 09:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by pinky_lady_2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! I feel so bad for you... and I wish you the best!! I don't think you're going to like the answers you get about this issue. You don't have any grounds for a legal pursuit of her because your ex left of his own accord. He chose to go... you need to be angry at HIM for all of this, not her. Yes, she knew he was in a relationship, but if he was strong in his convictions and in his love for you, she never would have been able to get anywhere with him. As much as you want to blame her, it was HIS choice to pursue her, and to move out. He could have told her he was taken, that he wasn't interested, and stayed with you, but he didn't. Again... I wish you the best in your future, don't let this make the rest of your life miserable. Get on with your life.
2006-11-20 09:02:55 · answer #10 · answered by JP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋