i am a mother of 2 and after quitting my job 3 years ago i stay home and take care of my kids. my husband work overseas.. i feel bored and i lost my self confidence, i used to be independent. i want to work again but it is really hard to find a job in these days..
i have these mood swings and i know my kids are somehow affected but i can't help it.. i feel i am useless and bored of my daily routine. what will i do... ?
2006-11-20 00:54:24 · 8 answers · asked by labs 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try to find a baby sitter or a friend to watch the kids once in awhile and do some things you personally enjoy.
Make some new woman friends or get together with old ones. Being with children 24/7 can be very tiring, boring & frustrating no matter how much you love them. Remember, it's more important to spend quality time with them which will be easier to do if you have other interests too.
2006-11-20 00:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am in the same situation, i have four children, and have been a stay at home mom for almost two years, i am very bored!!!! I worked for over 14 years and then quit my job to stay home, because of the kids, and paying a baby sitter, my youngest daughter just entered kindergarten in sept, so this past week i put an application into the school that my kids go to, and i will start work on novermber 29th. but i will still be home for my kids when they get off the bus, and dont have to pay a sitter. Im sure the money wont be great, but it is getting me out the house and will bring in alittle xtra cash. Im not sure how old your kids are but if they are in school you should put your application in, they always need subs, for all areas, and it could turn into full time job, and you would have same vactions as kids, etc.... you need a part time job at least, for adult conversation. good luck
2006-11-20 09:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by jeanjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel... probably some would think that you had a great life and you sure is lucky that all you got to do is to stay home and take care of your family... "if they only knew how it feels?". You know girl friend you can make a difference, you can start a business that doesn't require you to leave the house, you can do baking or doing craft beads then sell them to your family friends and their friends too... its like 2 birds in 1 stone, your home taking care and attending to the needs of your family and at the same time earning money...
and about your mood swings, you bet the kids are really very affected... Because my mom had mood swings too, so we really tried our best to avoid being cornered from her mood swings, because we would always always end up in a fight... Of course we were trying our best to stretch our patience, but you cant expect them to always understand you... sometimes you also got to think of how others feels too.
2006-11-20 09:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The nore you think about it, the worst it will get. Try look at it the bright side.... chrish this moment with your kids because sooner than you think, they will grow old and move out, you will grow old and won't be able to see them as much as you wish to because they will have their own kids to worry about.
Routine isn't all such a bad thing because it offers us security and this is something many of us take it for granted. Thrill seekers thinks there life would improve by living by the day, doing all sorts of different things but at the end of the path, many will find themselves achieving everything incomplete!
Be happy and content with where you are. There are thousands of women would love to be in your position and these women are single mums working multi jobs trying to meet ends meet because their men have taken off.
Take up a hobby like arts and crafts!
Best of Luck!!
2006-11-20 09:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by Chew my Fat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, you are not useless!! it sounds like you need to find the company of other women who are stay at home moms. They are a real lifesaver. What happens after quitting a job to stay home with the kid-lets, is you crave adult conversation and adult interactions. You need to find a balance between kids, and YOUR needs. And the fact that your hubby isn't there with you to help out may make you feel resentful. Good luck to you.
2006-11-20 09:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm married and work 40 hrs a week and your life sounds wonderful to me. It would be so nice to wake up every day and just stay home. You should be grateful you don't have to work - it sucks!
2006-11-20 09:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a Hobie.....have a makeover.....buy a pet.....and go see a doctor about your mood swings....
Get better....be happy for you and your kids!!
2006-11-20 09:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make some friends.
2006-11-20 09:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by Shocker3:16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋