How does everyone feel about giving someone else a baby? I carried a baby for a friend and it seems like she (not hubby) is still angry that she could not carry. I gave her the gift of a baby and I never see him. I am proud of what I did but, just want to know what he looks like and how he grows. He is 100% them, I just carried him for 9 months. I have no regrets! Suggestions?
2006-11-20 00:46:19 · 9 answers · asked by lucyloulady 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think being a surrogate mom is one of the most selfless things you can do for someone and you must have a big heart to be able to do that....... I also think it is selfish of them to keep the baby from you after all you did for them. They might be afraid that you will get too attached or involved with their baby. Or it might be too much of a reminder to the mother that she failed at birthing her own baby.
2006-11-20 00:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by Summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a really great thing you did for your friend. I'm sure it's hard for you not to at least get to see the baby and how he's grown. Do you have mutual friends that may have pictures? There's not much you can do if your friend doesn't want you to see him, but maybe she'll get over it with time. She may feel like somehow you're attached to her child in a way that she's not and maybe that is what's fueling her insecurity. Once she is secure in her bond with him, she may stop being so selfish and let you see him every once in a while. You did a wonderful thing for her, hopefully she'll understand that and show you some gratitude.
2006-11-20 08:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask to see the baby, be honest and tell them how you feel. If i carried a baby for 9 mths, and didnt see them i would be upset..so ask them if you can see the baby...and sit down with her and get her point of view about things don't be mad at what she tells you just be a friend and listen but i don't think i could be a surrogate mother, bc i would get attached to the child and it will hurt me to let the baby go.
2006-11-20 09:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by ladywetherell23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, sounds like she's the one that has issues and hasn't overcome the fact that she couldn't carry, so, she's jealous of you. On the other hand...she has the right to do whatever she wants with the baby and unfortunately you have no say on this, I don't think it's right tough...it's complicated..maybe if you try to talk to her...or call her and tell her you want to stop by...Trcky question. Good luck
2006-11-20 08:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this friend is afraid you might want this baby im not sure this is a hard situation. If you are so close friends try caling and talking to her . Tell her what your fellings are. tell you want to be her friend like as if she carried the child herself.
2006-11-20 08:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by Leah's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you rock thats a wonderfull thing to do for someone and it takes a lot of courge to have life grow inside you for 9 months and them give it to someone else i think its really said that you havent been able too see him and i am not sure if theres much you can do if thay wont let you but i think there being horrible not lettin you ...good luck hun
2006-11-20 08:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by fear_fox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did a beautiful, non selfish thing. I'm unable to have kids and the thought of someone doing that for somebody is a wonderful thing. I'm really sorry your friend is being selfish, I really hope in time she will begin to see what you have done for her :)....I know I would.
Take Care
2006-11-20 08:51:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did is wonderful!! I do believe since you did carry the child you should atleast be able to see him.
2006-11-20 08:56:56 · answer #8 · answered by anna♥ L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.surrogatemoms.org/
2006-11-20 08:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋