2006-11-20 00:37:23 · 13 answers · asked by allemapstieks 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Take a deep breath, and just do it, afraid.
Keep yourself moving forward, and eventually you may get over it. Not everyone gets over this, yet no one can tell, as they have become quite good at pressing forward, with their heads held high.
The only one that an change you, is yourself. Have confidence in yourself, pick something about yourself that you like, and then begin expanding it as time goes on.
If you're into books/teachings, try http://www.joycemeyer.org
I am not very good a meeting new people.. yet I speak and teach at small seminars, and have my own business
2006-11-20 00:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by sassy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you realize that no one really cares or is centering their thoughts on you. That was not intended to sound rude. I remember being young and thinking that I had to look perfect for everyone to see. I thought that if I went out of my home without my nails polished and everything in place that EVERYONE would notice. Then I discovered that no one really cared at all. I am who I am and I have no reason to feel insecure about myself. Emotional insecurities are a bit different. It's harder to let go of those feelings because they are so heart felt. But if you continue to realize that honesty and being who you are is the best way to be then you won't have a need to feel insecure. If something is truly troubling you then you need to use your power to change what it is that you don't like about yourself. It is much easier than most people make it. If you are insecure in a relationship then 9 times out of 10... you are in the wrong relationship. If you are in that small percentage of persons that have been given NO reason to feel insecure by their partner but still do, then I'd say you don't love yourself to your full potential. Therapy can help this type of insecurity. Depression can also cause insecurity and frustration. It really depends on why the insecurity is being felt. That will determine how you should deal with them to get rid of the nasty feelings. I hope you have a wonderful and blessed day!
2006-11-20 00:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you find out..let me know.
No seriously though, it is very difficult to overcome insecurities in my opinion. People will always have them, no matter where they are in life.
I guess you just need to ask yourself if your insecurities are reasonable, if so, try and find a solution for whatever it is that is making you insecure (i.e: weight, personality, etc...). If however you find that your insecurities are unreasonable, ignore them. If what is making you insecure cannot be changed (i.e: disability, family, etc...). Then they must simply be accepted.
As far as insecurities go in general, I don't think that they can ever go away, no matter how confident an individual feels. They are like a defense mechanism, they make you aware of something that is wrong, or perceived to be wrong.
2006-11-20 00:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sort about the reason why u have the insecurity issue and face it ! U need to confide ur problems at least to 1 person who ever u think will help u! Each and every one has insecurity issues so u are not alone in this world! Cheer up, friend!
2006-11-20 00:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on what insecurity it is. I imagine what could be the worst possible scenario and if the chances of that happening are pretty slim, I figure it could be worse and move on with my day.
Some things are a little bit deeper then that and I've had people suggest therapy with a consellor but that's a step that you should be willing to take and noone else.
One last thing is to look around you. I had a boyfriend who made me feel unpretty and useless and therefor I was insecure. As soon as I got rid of him, I felt a lot better!
Good luck!
2006-11-20 00:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by Minouners 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you ever do. i mean of course it depends what they are but they just seem to be something that sticks with you forever. Its a personal insecurity and its something that once bothered you alot for one reason or another, and now its part of you. Over time they fade, but if someone tests it, it will arise again. Its hard to work it out without knowing what your insecurity is but thats my general opinion. Others will prolly say i'm wrong, and i hope so cos then you can go and be rid of it and be happy.
Good Luck
2006-11-20 00:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by Adelaides_Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think one way is to DO whatever it is you are feeling insecure about. For instance, if you feel insecure with public speaking, then you should put yourself in situations where you have to do it. By exposing yourself to things that make you feel insecure, you become "numb" to it in a sense.
As far as physical insecurities, well, I think we all have them...perhaps just knowing that is reason enough to try and look passed our perceived 'shortcomings'. We are our own worst critics...try to see the "problem" area in a new way. As a petite mother of 4, I have my share of stretchmarks that make me feel insecure, and at times just downright hideous...but when I catch myself 'going there' I always tell myself that I would never trade my stretchmarks for the children I was given in return. I can't think of any situation that can't be looked at in a positive way.
Hope that helps :)
2006-11-20 00:52:58 · answer #7 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity is not an objective evaluation of one's ability but an emotional interpretation, as two people with the same capabilities may have entirely different levels of insecurity.
you do not have to be insecure, you choose to be.
focus on you goog points, tell your self those points are good enough.
the rest will become better in time.
most of all learn to love yoursself.
say "i love me just as i am"
2006-11-20 00:44:42 · answer #8 · answered by missy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A person who trys to find peace, happiness, joy, fulfillment and tranquility from outside himself is bound to meet with war, sadness, disappointment, tension, jealousy, hatred, resentment and all the negative feelings.
If one does not come to the realisation that all the goodies he is looking for are already pre-packed within him, then he may never realise they exist.
Even if you know that peace and happiness reside within your heart, you may not open the God-given package to realise the potential of its content.
If you feel thirsty of the something that is missing in your life, only then will you have the motivation to drinketh from the well within.
Only when you open and utilise the package within that is full of peace, tranquility, joy, happiness and fulfillment will you realise that it will quench your inner thirst. But knowing about all this isn't enough. You need to drinketh from the well within to actually quench your thirst.
When you do so, then all insecurities that are caused by the negative feelings presented by the outer world will vanish forever.
Because, with this experience from within you can have the strength to have peace in the midst of war, strength to have happiness in the midst of turmoil, strength to have tranquility in the midst of all the worldly noise.
Hope my explanation will help many people. By this I mean, you're not alone in this quest to feel secured.
2006-11-20 01:15:17 · answer #9 · answered by catcher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest about them and admit it.
Then face it and if it is very daunting, pass the challenge on to someone who can, whether human or divine.
Also, you don't have to deal with all of them at once. I still have some but I am learning to trust and do the best I can.
God bless.
2006-11-20 00:56:57 · answer #10 · answered by Studier Alpha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋